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How often do You team up with a Domme to.. - 4/18/2007 3:29:39 PM

solvr70

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i've contributed to this kind of topic over in the Mistress's forum, but thought to post it here.

As a Dom, how often do You team up with a Domme to take a sub-m?

it seems to be a bit of a nitch interest, and for those that do enjoy that, is there any particular aspect of it that makes it exciting for You, and do You have a number of Domme friends that allows You to know when such an opportunity arrises?

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RE: How often do You team up with a Domme to.. - 4/18/2007 6:34:07 PM

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Hey, why can't they team up to use a sub female? Now that is a huge fantasy of mine!

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RE: How often do You team up with a Domme to.. - 4/19/2007 6:44:39 AM

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Solvr-

It's certainly not frequent, but it does happen from time to time, usually in a small party setting. It's rarely anything formal or extensive. For the most part, I am just serving as an extra pair of hands, or stepping in briefly with a particular tool or technique.

I did have a domme friend who liked to have me over for tea while her boy served, and a few times helped her in seesion for take downs, as he was a strapping lad.

It happens, it's fun and interesting, and I have asked domme friends to step into a scene in similar fashion, and co-topped in a few club scenes.

Is this something you have a fen for?

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RE: How often do You team up with a Domme to.. - 4/21/2007 2:00:42 AM

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On the couple of occassions that I have teamed up with a Dom it has been a lot of fun for Us and the boy (or girl as it was once) we played with. Just provides some variety and a different hand. Pity not more like to play this way!

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RE: How often do You team up with a Domme to.. - 4/21/2007 3:28:02 AM

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this sounds like some thing this sub would ,ove too try

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RE: How often do You team up with a Domme to.. - 4/21/2007 7:39:34 AM

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I am about to find out! Anyone know what the common pitfalls are?

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RE: How often do You team up with a Domme to.. - 4/21/2007 8:58:27 AM

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I co-top often with my primary and one bottom (so, three people total), and I've participated in and often orchestrated larger scenes.

Michael, most often the issue is the unexpected. You can combat this ahead of time by giving a good description of your style and how you progress in scenes, and asking questions to elicit a similar description from your co-top. You can also choreograph the scene, if you like. It's sometimes helpful to determine which of you is leading--if you're the "guest star" and your two playmates have an established relationship, your co-top will probably run things more than you will. In general, but especially if you don't like to choreograph in advance, you will need to find a way to work coordination and discussion into the scene. I find that either going for a casual, lighthearted approach or using lots of sensory deprivation on the bottom is helpful in a first scene with another top. Why? Because if you're casual and lighthearted, it's easier to make patter and mid-stream coordination between you and your co-top fit into the scene. If the bottom can't see or hear, he or she can't perceive the awkward, whispered "but I thought you..." "but weren't you going to..." negotiations between you and your co-top. Figuring out an elegant way to discuss things with your co-top is even more important if you're doing this in public.

Have fun! Co-topping gets easier with practice, and it always improves the second time you co-top with a given person.

Monica

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RE: How often do You team up with a Domme to.. - 4/21/2007 7:40:56 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

I am about to find out! Anyone know what the common pitfalls are?

It seems to be done a lot here in the DC area. often both by design or just another Dominant (friend) asks or is invited to join in. there have been times it ended up with 4 or 5 Dominants playing with one or two subs.

Pitfalls...
well once when a really hot femal dominant joined in, the male dominant spent more time flirting and playing with her then the slave..

when a dominant joins in after the scene has started it is hard to explain limits or things to be cautious of during the scene. the main dominant may know them but it might not get communicated to the new players. So the main dominant has to keep an extra careful eye on it, depending on the limits and issues. (i.e. asthma). i get handed over sometimes and Sir leaves, but He knows i have few limits and issues and i do a good job of protecting His property when He is gone so it is pretty safe for Him to leave when i am in a scene.

another pitfall can be the sexual energy when there are two of different genders. the sub might find themself very attracted to only one of the genders of Dominant playing and the energy is different, then they start to respond differently to each person.

difference in styles, intensity and timeing.

Sir often Co-Tops with some of the female Dominants. they have been some of the hottest scenes i have been in or i have watch him with others. the best one are where they communicate with gestures and eyes, their timeing is good and they both are on the same pattern of build up, intensity and then comeing down. they make it look easy but i know it takes a lot of effort to work together to make it look like a pre-planned scene.

being co-topped by a female and male Dominant.. outstanding...

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RE: How often do You team up with a Domme to.. - 4/22/2007 6:08:55 AM

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M and I like to co-top although we have most often worked with women.
He is happy to work with men, but he won't have anything to do with the dangly bits, as he puts it.
With the violet wand he loves to control intensity while my hands dance across a body, so neither I nor the bottom know how intense a touch, lick, flick, caress, kiss is going to be.
I think M and I could enjoy a heavy male bottom for co-topping as sadists. Most of our play with males has been very passing, no play partners that both he and I have worked with at length.

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RE: How often do You team up with a Domme to.. - 4/22/2007 6:21:35 PM

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We are a Husband / Wife "team" so I would have to say most of the time we play with our pets.

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RE: How often do You team up with a Domme to.. - 4/22/2007 6:31:11 PM

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WE are a married dom couple and find no problems sharing..WE only dom women together I leave her male pain sluts to her...bounty

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RE: How often do You team up with a Domme to.. - 4/22/2007 6:53:14 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: solvr70

i've contributed to this kind of topic over in the Mistress's forum, but thought to post it here.

As a Dom, how often do You team up with a Domme to take a sub-m?

it seems to be a bit of a nitch interest, and for those that do enjoy that, is there any particular aspect of it that makes it exciting for You, and do You have a number of Domme friends that allows You to know when such an opportunity arrises?

Nice question cause I have recently been asked by a Domme my thoughts on screening (this is HER concept) her male and female subs.
She has used my Sir to do this on rare occasions, and she wanted my thoughts on it as both have approached me for my interest.
She has a VERY STRANGE kink...a malesub CANNOT even meet her unless he sucks the cock of another man. My Sir rarely does this at her request...has his cock sucked by a potential malesub of hers.... but he will do it if he can direct, guide and control a scene of her request with me included. So she asked how I felt about it. I personally think it would be incredibly hot to watch a malesub do what I do to my Sirs cock

and then beg him (my Sir) to fuck me (her request) and have the malesub eat me out after he orgasms. The information my Sir and I give to this domme, I would also take photos for her, is waht she calls screening. If a malesub can do this and do it well under the authority of my Sir, she will consider his service.
This same scenerio will be done with a potential female sub who wants to be in her service.

So yes, my Sir and this Domme do work together at times in selecting her subs. What is really weird about it (to me) is that she was once my Sir's sub and after about 6 months both agreed she was not a sub but a domme. So with the help of my Sir and another Dom, she has become quite a well known Domme (and powerful as well) in our area over the last 10 yrs.

My Sir did tell her the specifics and parameters of my involvement in this "screening" process and she is accepting of it. She really wants a male sub to beg my Sir to fuck my ass, but that is a hard limit for him. My ass is ONLY his. He wont even fuck a potential (of hers) female's ass at her request.

So there are ways to team up Dom and Domme while not making it a gangbang or play party. At this point, this is the ONLY way he will consider sharing me. I am glad they have remained friends, because I have learned alot about another Dom's style from knowing her.

I think it is a great thing to be able to cooperate like this !

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RE: How often do You team up with a Domme to.. - 4/22/2007 6:57:41 PM

myobedience

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

I am about to find out! Anyone know what the common pitfalls are?

I could give you a way to contact the Domme that teams up with other Doms alot.
This domme also worked with several doms on an extensive abduction and rape scene.
She would definately know the pitfalls and probably be able to give some advice on what not to do as well as what works well.

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RE: How often do You team up with a Domme to.. - 4/22/2007 6:59:43 PM

myobedience

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quote:

ORIGINAL: tade

We are a Husband / Wife "team" so I would have to say most of the time we play with our pets.

I had to blink twice..... play with out pets.....

oh ya I know what you meant but I laughed with my initial reaction

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RE: How often do You team up with a Domme to.. - 4/23/2007 1:03:19 PM

solvr70

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quote:

ORIGINAL: myobedience

quote:

ORIGINAL: solvr70

i've contributed to this kind of topic over in the Mistress's forum, but thought to post it here.

As a Dom, how often do You team up with a Domme to take a sub-m?

it seems to be a bit of a nitch interest, and for those that do enjoy that, is there any particular aspect of it that makes it exciting for You, and do You have a number of Domme friends that allows You to know when such an opportunity arrises?

Nice question cause I have recently been asked by a Domme my thoughts on screening (this is HER concept) her male and female subs.
She has used my Sir to do this on rare occasions, and she wanted my thoughts on it as both have approached me for my interest.
She has a VERY STRANGE kink...a malesub CANNOT even meet her unless he sucks the cock of another man. My Sir rarely does this at her request...has his cock sucked by a potential malesub of hers.... but he will do it if he can direct, guide and control a scene of her request with me included. So she asked how I felt about it. I personally think it would be incredibly hot to watch a malesub do what I do to my Sirs cock and then beg him (my Sir) to fuck me (her request) and have the malesub eat me out after he orgasms. The information my Sir and I give to this domme, I would also take photos for her, is waht she calls screening. If a malesub can do this and do it well under the authority of my Sir, she will consider his service.
This same scenerio will be done with a potential female sub who wants to be in her service.

So yes, my Sir and this Domme do work together at times in selecting her subs. What is really weird about it (to me) is that she was once my Sir's sub and after about 6 months both agreed she was not a sub but a domme. So with the help of my Sir and another Dom, she has become quite a well known Domme (and powerful as well) in our area over the last 10 yrs.

My Sir did tell her the specifics and parameters of my involvement in this "screening" process and she is accepting of it. She really wants a male sub to beg my Sir to fuck my ass, but that is a hard limit for him. My ass is ONLY his. He wont even fuck a potential (of hers) female's ass at her request.

So there are ways to team up Dom and Domme while not making it a gangbang or play party. At this point, this is the ONLY way he will consider sharing me. I am glad they have remained friends, because I have learned alot about another Dom's style from knowing her.

I think it is a great thing to be able to cooperate like this !

well, that is takig it to another level i had not thought of. so She will not see a malesub until after he has sucked a cock for Her? is She ever there, or possibly some, any other F/female, or is it just the malesub and the Guy?

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RE: How often do You team up with a Domme to.. - 4/23/2007 4:02:03 PM

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solvr70
well, that is takig it to another level i had not thought of. so She will not see a malesub until after he has sucked a cock for Her? is She ever there, or possibly some, any other F/female, or is it just the malesub and the Guy?

What I know of the situtation is this... I will gather information and photograph the sub sucking off my Sir. My Sir will direct the sub to pleasure me (licking or rimming) while He fucks my ass, but I must first beg for it.
My Sir is also gathering information from a dominant persepctive on the sub in question, not me.
Tis why we are called "screeners".... we screen out the riff raff and those not given to obedience or those who are not willing to be directed by another dom or serve another sub, as directed.
It's the Domme's way of finding who she considers sincere.

She is not ever there. The male or female sub has absolutely NO access to her until they pass this test.
This Domme also gives "auditions"...play scenes with her, another Dom and another sub...after the screening process is passed.

She has service oriented submissives. She does not want a relationship with anyone. Some of her subs she is very close with and others not. For example, her "main" female sub did an abduction and rape scene over several days.... it was arranged along with her (the subs) employer because her employer is ALSO a male sub to this Domme.

I read a statement by a married femsub who has been puclically begging to serve her... I dont want to serve a Domme who has a stable of submissives. I told Sir, she has her eyes covered if she cant see the stable this Domme has. She even has a group called "My Potential subs.." LOL

Yes, this Domme is the inventor of this very unique screening process for potential subs. She might seem heady and all into herself, but she is a VERY SWEET woman.

Hope that helped solvr70

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RE: How often do You team up with a Domme to.. - 4/23/2007 4:22:22 PM

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It seems like working with a Dom/Domme team is a fantasy for many male subs - doesn't seem like a niche interest. For one thing, it allows for many scenarios which subbie boys seem to find hot, like forced bi and cuckolding. As a Domme, it's a huge turn-on for me as well. My partner and I are so into this idea that we are looking for 2 slaves, a boy and a girl, to serve in our home.

Gosh, I got all worked up just reading those posts...

Phoenix

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RE: How often do You team up with a Domme to.. - 4/25/2007 1:46:24 PM

xoxi

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mmm
this is one of my biggest fantasies as well - I want a partner who I can submit to, but who will let me help him dominate others. Boys and girls. So when I get a partner I'll be sure to let you all know :P

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RE: How often do You team up with a Domme to.. - 4/25/2007 2:26:45 PM

solvr70

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quote:

ORIGINAL: xoxi

mmm
this is one of my biggest fantasies as well - I want a partner who I can submit to, but who will let me help him dominate others. Boys and girls. So when I get a partner I'll be sure to let you all know :P

seems to be more of a rare interest with the Women i have been with. one day, i am hoping though...

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RE: How often do You team up with a Domme to.. - 4/25/2007 2:44:14 PM

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It's a major fantasy of mine as well. Though I definately would want my partner to be bi, as am I.

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