LadyHugs
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Dear Celeste43, Ladies and Gentlemen;
In my mind's eyes I see, there are those who will grate individual nerves and or pluck the last remaining nerve one has.
So many times we (in a general sense) have seen examples where one group of individuals consider another group of individuals on the 'wrong side of the tracks,' per se when we (in general) use personal standards and measures in judgment.
That said--There will always be a need that causes a group to address it and empower it. On a positive side of examples; The Red Cross -- During HRH Queen Victoria created the Red Cross around Florance Nightingale. She saw a need and the group created was around seeing to a need and had many followers. She set the standard and the soldiers created the the respect for her efforts in humanity. At the period of the Civil War; we had Clara Barton who visited the battlefields and tended the wounded, that one step beyond Ms. Nightingale. So, it is no different from BDSM support and education groups being formed, either growing, failing, expanding, breaking into smaller special interest groups and such. So, in my mind's eyes--I see no different in individuals seeking a style to which they wish to subscribe to.
The collateral effect though, will be those many individuals who will be offended as they do not subscribe to the behaviors, mannerism and philosophies behind it all.
Fortunately, in a broad sense--we (in general) have a choice as adults to either subscribe to or not; those styles, philosophies and standards that create the current tapestry of many different colors, styles and special interests that are under the broad term or umbrella of 'community.'
There will be those who have a sense of entitlement regardless which side of the whip they are. Some have not come to the realization that the only power one possesses is their own and all they can control is themselves. Only when consent to join into that personal realm does another enter into those standards within that inner circle and or personal circle.
Only when an individual's spirit of intent is known behind the behavior and or attitude, will the individual present be able to judge for themselves how to perceive the attitude and behavior.
A pat in of itself can be perceived in many ways depending on personal perception of what the intended act. A person in a foul mood or already in their mind against such touch will see it negative no matter what the intentions of the person patting. At times a gentle reminder needs to be surfaced that to touch another, one invades private space. In this lifestyle/community in general; 'requests' that permission to touch is asked. Asking can be done in many ways, to include silient exchanges which invites response. Such as an offered hand.
As with many things, its often a case of assumptions rather then operating on consent and invitation into personal space. Each person has to decide how to handle people who act on assumptions and not on the recognition of individual power and consent to yield to another.
Just some thoughts.
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs
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