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piercedallover -> first encounter (4/19/2007 12:27:14 AM)
had my first time ever session with a Dom a few weeks ago. is it normal to have severe impact play and intercourse on the first visit?

WilliamTheSlave -> RE: first encounter (4/19/2007 12:51:10 AM)
My first session was of a similar intensity. Why are you asking this question? Is this your only doubt or are there other doubts you have about your Dom?

hisannabelle -> RE: first encounter (4/19/2007 1:06:08 AM)
greetings pierced, depends. for me, i doubt i would do that the first time i met someone; then again, it would depend on how i met the person and how much we'd communicated before the meeting, as well. as long as you are both comfortable with it, there's no right or wrong way to go about things. there are lots of people who like to wait before playing/having sex, and lots of people who are comfortable doing it at first. if you are having doubts, then that's something to communicate to the dom you are talking to, and if you feel that he isn't respecting your comfort level, then i would definitely rethink things. but overall if you are happy with it, normal/not normal doesn't really matter. hope you are well. annabelle.

captainblack -> RE: first encounter (4/19/2007 1:11:08 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: piercedallover had my first time ever session with a Dom a few weeks ago. is it normal to have severe impact play and intercourse on the first visit? Normal for one is not normal for another. I have had that sort of interaction on the day of a first meeting sometimes. Other times it was not until much latter. It depends on how things work out between the two of you. Always have a first meeting in a public place. This provides saftey for both parties and allows you to each walk away if there is a feeling something is wrong. CB

heartfeltsub -> RE: first encounter (4/19/2007 2:58:56 AM)
It depends on what was agreed to. i play with a person who has very sadistic tendencies and while i thought my first private sessions with Him (which did include sex) was a bit heavy, it was in keeping with what i had told Him about myself. W/we had also played in public before and those sessions were milder. Also it was a time of both of U/us learning what i could and couldn't take. i don't know if this happened with you, but some of my submissive friends, especially those who are new in the lifestyle say they are masochists when they haven't felt the first whip stroke or cane, and the Dom/Top who is playing with them takes them at their word. That is why when i was looking i always said that i was a wimp and not good with pain play, so that play starts at a less intensive level. heartfelt

HutchGarahl -> RE: first encounter (4/19/2007 7:14:12 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: piercedallover had my first time ever session with a Dom a few weeks ago. is it normal to have severe impact play and intercourse on the first visit? Depends...was something like this discussed ahead of time....were you comfortable during the session....how do you feel about it now that it's done? For some people, a high impact play and sex scene would be normal on a first...for others, it may not be something expected, but happen anyways leaving one feeling a bit odd. I would suggest however, if your feeling a bit odd and uncomfortable with what happend...you need to discuss it with the dom.

crouchingtigress -> RE: first encounter (4/19/2007 7:18:18 AM)
you sound as thought you did not handle the first stage of negotiations very well....remember you have all the power in any situation until you give it away...

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: first encounter (4/19/2007 7:23:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: piercedallover had my first time ever session with a Dom a few weeks ago. is it normal to have severe impact play and intercourse on the first visit? It's not uncommon. But who cares- what matters is whether you knew what you were getting into, felt comfortable and fulfilled by the experience, and feel more secure afterwards?

littleone35 -> RE: first encounter (4/19/2007 9:23:40 AM)
as long as you felt ok about it then it was probley fine. As for normal i guess it depends on what you see as normal. As for me i would not do that on a first meet that is what is normal for me. For you it may be different. As long as you are ok with it i would not worry about labeling it normal or abnormal. It is what it is. Matt's littleone

slaveish -> RE: first encounter (4/19/2007 3:13:44 PM)
Severe impact play, to me, is something to reserve just because of the level of intimacy it takes for me to feel comfortable with it. I'm not saying it's wrong to do it on the first meet, nor is it wrong to have sex on the first meet. It is like Buddha said. We humans set the parameters of "right" and "wrong" but in the universe, "right" and "wrong" do not exist.

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