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Hi - need help please - 4/19/2007 12:48:53 AM

happylarry02

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Hi, i try a little self bondage, but am having problems, would chastity help?

also i loose interest after its happend.

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RE: Hi - need help please - 4/19/2007 1:04:34 AM

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ORIGINAL: happylarry02

also i loose interest after its happend.

That's pretty much a *guy* thing. What're you, NEW?!??! Learn to embrace your inner *guy*, no matter how small his inner wiennie is

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RE: Hi - need help please - 4/19/2007 1:14:17 AM

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ORIGINAL: N4SDChastity

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ORIGINAL: happylarry02

also i loose interest after its happend.

That's pretty much a *guy* thing. What're you, NEW?!??! Learn to embrace your inner *guy*, no matter how small his inner wiennie is

And what are you? Patronizing ?

I have done a lot of self bondage for the simple reason that I don’t always have someone to practice my knots and loops on. Don’t worry its not only a man thing! If we want to learn then sometimes we just have to get on with it on our own lol.

You are obviously doing it as part of a fantasy trip and its just not working. Do you have any books such as ‘Japanese Rope Bondage’? this sort of book will show you all sorts of elaborate ways. The problem with doing it to yourself is, you have to be able to get out of it and knowing that is probably not helping the fantasy to feel real.

You may be better off getting some cuffs and attachments but please don’t leave yourself in a position where you get stuck!

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RE: Hi - need help please - 4/19/2007 5:58:42 AM

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ok...are you saying you tie yourself up, orgasm then lose interest in completing the tying? If that's the case....chastity will help because it keeps you from getting hard. of course, being a rope fiend I prefer to tied my cocks with parachute cord...which is just as effective....

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RE: Hi - need help please - 4/19/2007 6:03:49 AM

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You've not really given enough specifics to tell what you mean by bondage.
With the rest talking about chastity I'm leaning toward cock bondage as opposed to say tying yourself in a hog tie or something.

If indeed you're discussing Cock & Ball bondage there's lots you can do that has nothing to do with chastity.
Maybe it's not the idea of chastity that gets you hot, but rather restraint.
When you tie your fella you should be careful of not cutting the circulation off too long.
I'm not a Mistress nor have I done CBT to anyone so I'm not sure of the imposed safe time limits.
Just be careful not to stop the blood flow completely for extended periods of time.
Maybe you'd have more fun with things like cock rings and foods or materials for different sensations with lubes and oils.
You could also start doing things like tying your ball sack and dangling weights off it to give them a huge pull and then say hula dance just to make them sway more.
LOL if you really want to think about your cock try a little peppermint oil or ben gay.
I think based on you lose interest in chastity, maybe more bondage stuff mixed with masturbations would suit you better.
Good luck,
suzanne

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RE: Hi - need help please - 4/19/2007 6:10:25 AM

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What is your goal? What are you hoping to get from tying yourself up? Figuring out what that is will help.

I know a few above posters have read "I loose interest after its happend" as a statement of disappointment that you aren't interested in the bondage after you orgasmed. Is that an approrpiate read? Perhaps, instead, you mean that once you do self-bondage, you're set--that desire is met, you're no longer attracted to it, and you feel a little guilty afterward. Communicating to us more clearly would help us help you.

Monica

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RE: Hi - need help please - 4/19/2007 5:39:12 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MariaB

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ORIGINAL: N4SDChastity

quote:

ORIGINAL: happylarry02

also i loose interest after its happend.

That's pretty much a *guy* thing. What're you, NEW?!??! Learn to embrace your inner *guy*, no matter how small his inner wiennie is

And what are you? Patronizing ?