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MellowSir -> Lack of sincerity/excuses (4/21/2007 8:33:31 AM)
First and foremost, this is NOT a post critical of the sincere sub that searches. Enough of the excuses already, such as "I get too many messages to answer them all"(Then don't advertise and expect not to), "I'm taken"(then why list as seeking), etc etc. Not all that difficult to type "I'm interested" or "no thanks" and click reply. Even if the sub is not interested, does that have to equal a lack of courtesy by not replying at all? Why even allow the double standard or prolong the use of it. I at least take the time to respond to someone who takes the time to message me. Maybe the expectations are a bit too high on the professed "sub's" part if she/he is just there and doesn't reply to anyone at all. A dom who acts the jerk or like the person already belongs to them when they haven't even met may deserve that, the one who is sincere doesn't.

Aileen68 -> RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses (4/21/2007 8:37:03 AM)
I just love doms who complain about how others do things. It's so appealing.

hisannabelle -> RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses (4/21/2007 8:38:22 AM)
greetings mellow, i would recommend taking non-response as a "no, thank you," and moving along. it will save you a good bit of unnecessary mulling over this, because unfortunately it's not likely to change anytime soon. that said, i AM taken and seeking friends, play partners, and possible dates, so i do list myself as seeking even though i am collared, and i do put in a little information about how i rarely chat in real time due to lack of time/energy, and how i sometimes take awhile to respond to messages. i don't think those are excuses; i work full time, go to school full time, and have debilitating chronic pain and fatigue. the reality is that sustained real time chat for sizeable periods of time just isn't as comfortable or feasible for me now as it was, say, two or three years ago when i actually used to sign onto yahoo regularly...and half the time when i read messages the first time, i'm either not in a position where i can respond (on my way out the door) or not making enough sense to respond. i don't think it's fair to write off all of those messages as "excuses." they may be, but for some of us, they are very valid excuses. annabelle.

juliaoceania -> RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses (4/21/2007 8:59:44 AM)
quote: First and foremost, this is NOT a post critical of the sincere sub that searches. Enough of the excuses already, such as "I get too many messages to answer them all"(Then don't advertise and expect not to), "I'm taken"(then why list as seeking), etc etc. Not all that difficult to type "I'm interested" or "no thanks" and click reply. Even if the sub is not interested, does that have to equal a lack of courtesy by not replying at all? Why even allow the double standard or prolong the use of it. I at least take the time to respond to someone who takes the time to message me. Maybe the expectations are a bit too high on the professed "sub's" part if she/he is just there and doesn't reply to anyone at all. A dom who acts the jerk or like the person already belongs to them when they haven't even met may deserve that, the one who is sincere doesn't. In this world random strangers rarely order their lives to please us

Stazia -> RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses (4/21/2007 9:06:33 AM)
hello i am new on here but i thought i just might want to put my two cents in. the reason why i don't respond to emails or chat request is that a good chunk of the mail i get does not meet my requirments in what i am looking for, and the people sending them do not give me a good vibe. i am not saying that this fits you, but say i am not looking for a man who is say over the age of fourty, and i state in my profile that i am not looking for a man old enough to be my father, and someone who is fifty emails me why should i bother responding. and also there are a lot of creepy guys out there. (yet again i am not saying that this is you i am just giving you an insight as to why someone might not bother to email you back) and the way i look at it is that i don't want to give them an inch in. just like in real life when some weirdo hits on me i dont give him the time of day . i find that i personally feel "safer" if i am the one who starts the dialogue. the conversation starts on my terms. i am a sub but there are many men who would take advantage of that and someone who is too forceful initially give me warning bells that he isnt really interested in getting to know who i am and just wanting a quick cum by pics or talking dirty. anyway i wish you the best of luck finding a good sub out there!

MellowSir -> RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses (4/21/2007 9:07:47 AM)
I'm not complaining about how others do things, just that fakes and players of either persuasion have no busininess wasting the time of sincere people.....

Aileen68 -> RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses (4/21/2007 9:09:35 AM)
I don't answer a lot of mail and I'm not fake.

hisannabelle -> RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses (4/21/2007 9:10:30 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MellowSir I'm not complaining about how others do things, just that fakes and players of either persuasion have no busininess wasting the time of sincere people..... you are assuming that people who do certain things are fakes and players here to waste your time. that IS complaining about how others do things. annabelle.

MellowSir -> RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses (4/21/2007 9:10:39 AM)
And thanks to those who reply, both to me and to the post. "A man of words and not deeds is like a garden full of weeds", perhaps such can be applied to (some)women as well lol....

happypervert -> RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses (4/21/2007 9:12:39 AM)
It is comical to see this petty whining coming from someone who fancies himself as being mellow.

MellowSir -> RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses (4/21/2007 9:14:06 AM)
We all make assumptions, whether by design or accident, do we not? For instance, because I take a certain stance, many assume that i have no luck finding willing submissives, such is certainly not the case. Or that I'm a "whiner", inexperienced, or just out for sex. Wrong on all counts.

Aileen68 -> RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses (4/21/2007 9:14:53 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MellowSir "A man of words and not deeds is like a garden full of weeds", perhaps such can be applied to (some)women as well lol.... And perhaps these same words can be applied to the OP? I love irony on a Saturday afternoon.

spankmepink11 -> RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses (4/21/2007 9:19:55 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MellowSir And thanks to those who reply, both to me and to the post. "A man of words and not deeds is like a garden full of weeds", perhaps such can be applied to (some)women as well lol.... Choosing not to answer an email is a "deed" unto itself ...no? Actions do speak louder than words.

AquaticSub -> RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses (4/21/2007 9:23:33 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MellowSir First and foremost, this is NOT a post critical of the sincere sub that searches. Enough of the excuses already, such as "I get too many messages to answer them all"(Then don't advertise and expect not to), "I'm taken"(then why list as seeking), etc etc. Not all that difficult to type "I'm interested" or "no thanks" and click reply. Even if the sub is not interested, does that have to equal a lack of courtesy by not replying at all? Why even allow the double standard or prolong the use of it. I at least take the time to respond to someone who takes the time to message me. Maybe the expectations are a bit too high on the professed "sub's" part if she/he is just there and doesn't reply to anyone at all. A dom who acts the jerk or like the person already belongs to them when they haven't even met may deserve that, the one who is sincere doesn't. If a dom e-mails me when my profile says I'm taking (and yes mine says I'm only seeking friends) and he is trying to own me, then he is being obscenely rude in his refusal to respect my relationship. I owe him no courtesy.

AquaticSub -> RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses (4/21/2007 9:24:34 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MellowSir I'm not complaining about how others do things, just that fakes and players of either persuasion have no busininess wasting the time of sincere people..... As I've said before, being rude does not make one a fake. If we kicked people from this lifestyle for being rude, there would not be enough people to support this site.

MstrssPassion -> RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses (4/21/2007 9:26:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MellowSir I'm not complaining about how others do things, just that fakes and players of either persuasion have no busininess wasting the time of sincere people..... & your scribblings here are contributions of a possitive sort? (another 5 minutes I'll never get back)

imthatacheyouhav -> RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses (4/21/2007 9:28:15 AM)
quote: As I've said before, being rude does not make one a fake. If we kicked people from this lifestyle for being rude, there would not be enough people to support this site. <nods>

spankmepink11 -> RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses (4/21/2007 9:28:40 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MellowSir We all make assumptions, whether by design or accident, do we not? For instance, because I take a certain stance, many assume that i have no luck finding willing submissives, such is certainly not the case. Or that I'm a "whiner", inexperienced, or just out for sex. Wrong on all counts. Thats true, yet some make assumptions based on prior acts. You also have a thread complaining about young women who do not want older dominant partners. What your actions and words lead people to assume is that you are disgruntled because the young female submissives prefer someone closer to their age, and they are not answering your emails.

MellowSir -> RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses (4/21/2007 9:34:53 AM)
Ha ha, good one MstrssPassion, guess I shouldn't say anything if I've nothing good to say? lol

SweetMegan20 -> RE: Lack of sincerity/excuses (4/21/2007 9:36:23 AM)
I try to reply to as many people as I can, but sometimes I get so many messages, and some of the messages I get are so long, I simply can't be bothered. Maybe I should start using the auto-replies.

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