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grlneedstolearn -> Worse Punishment/Humiliation? (4/21/2007 11:42:17 AM)
Good afternoon to all, i've read and seen some pictures of harsh punishment. But for you, what has been your worst punishment/humiliation? i'm asking so i can get some general ideas to tell my Dom. i have given him some ideas but they didn't work out, i was actually having fun with the punishments. So now i'm looking for some new ones. Thank you to all

earthycouple -> RE: Worse Punishment/Humiliation? (4/21/2007 12:00:34 PM)
oh for heaven's sake...don't read so far into it. What do you simply hate? you can't presume punishment for one is the same for another. Do you hate to be locked in a closet? Do you hate to be chastized? Do you hate to be spanked? Do you hate to be ignored? Do you hate needles? You need to find what makes YOU tick. D~

MasterFireMaam -> RE: Worse Punishment/Humiliation? (4/21/2007 12:00:54 PM)
Punishment doesn't have to be physical. In fact, I don't recommend it especially if you're a masochist. Most people hate stupid, innane tasks (unless your OCD, in which case you might enjoy picking up the bag of rice grain by grain with tweezers). Most of all, most hate to be dismissed from their Master's presense for a specific period of time. Master Fire

slaveish -> RE: Worse Punishment/Humiliation? (4/21/2007 12:26:59 PM)
Being ignored. Omg. ~blood freezing~

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Worse Punishment/Humiliation? (4/21/2007 12:27:10 PM)
The two most popular answer are "knowing I've been disappointed" or "being ignored" The only way you guys will know what is effective for you is to try things out. What's with the rash of doms lately telling their slaves to go find good punishment ideas? Lack of imagination? Giving the slaves busy work? Not understanding how to build a good relationship so they hand out punishments like candy? I know, this isn't really anything new, it just seems a lot more common HERE lately.

mp072004 -> RE: Worse Punishment/Humiliation? (4/21/2007 12:37:15 PM)
Agreed--punishment and humiliation must be tailored to each person. For a punishment, figure out what you dislike. Things that you dislike and that also elicit feelings of regret or contrition are particularly good. Depriving you of something you like is also an option. I prefer punishments that don't involve much work or attention from me. Time with me should be associated with good behavior. For humiliation, figure out what embarrasses you. Now, once you have some ideas, you can build off that and form categories. Does being dirty or messy embarrass you? How about ugliness? Does exhibtionism embarrass you? Objectification? Would it humiliate you if your ignorance was demonstrated (you are invariably ignorant about something) or if you were made to feel as though you had poor analytical abilities? Then, determine what is desirable embarrassment, what is embarrassment that you don't like but will consent to, and what is embarrassment that you will not permit. Most likely you'll start by identifying emotions, but you should eventually move to associating certain actions with those emotions. Monica

MagiksSlave -> RE: Worse Punishment/Humiliation? (4/21/2007 12:40:22 PM)
maybe I read the op wrong but I think she is talking about play punishment like roleplay... could be wrong it has been known to happen. Magik's slave

BondageTopJere -> RE: Worse Punishment/Humiliation? (4/21/2007 12:48:39 PM)
Take a look at your own dislikes and hates column. You've listed several there that are ample food for though. Mayhap dressing and serving as maid while wearing a diaper underneath would do?

grlneedstolearn -> RE: Worse Punishment/Humiliation? (4/21/2007 4:19:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MagiksSlave maybe I read the op wrong but I think she is talking about play punishment like roleplay... could be wrong it has been known to happen. Magik's slave Roleplay or whatever else, sorry i will try to be more specific next time

petal7 -> RE: Worse Punishment/Humiliation? (4/22/2007 5:05:26 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross . . .What's with the rash of doms lately telling their slaves to go find good punishment ideas? Lack of imagination? Giving the slaves busy work? Not understanding how to build a good relationship so they hand out punishments like candy? That's not fair - - unless I missed it, no where did she say in her message, that her Dom sent her to find punishments. She said she was looking for ideas to bring to him. This could have been her own initiative. I agree though that "punishment" is much different from training or play. Punishment, in our relationship, is corrective action. It's not fun nor exciting and I certainly don't enjoy it in the least bit, other than the gratefulness I feel that my Master loves me enough to want to discipline me and shape me into His perfect servant (a journey, not a destination). Some have voiced opinions that my current punishment is too harsh and extreme. I think at times that I am getting off easy because the alternative would have been dismissal from His service. However, I have to say in terms of cruelty, my worst punishment would probably make some of you laugh. I once served a Dom whose house I loved to clean. It was my joy to see him come home from work and smile at the atmosphere I'd created. One day when I stepped out of line, he placed my cleaning supplies in the middle of the room and tied me up so that they were just out of reach. He let me stare at them for an hour, unable to reach them to clean. After about an hour, he took out the supplies and began cleaning. He knew it was KILLING me to see him do my work . . . all because I'd misbehaved. I'm sure some would laugh and relax at the break, but it was devastating to me. He then sent me home for the rest of the day. But, as LA mentioned, many would say that being ignored is the worst. I know that being sent home was no fun but hadn't thought about that in quite some time. Until last night when my Master told me that the impending punishment for something I have been struggling with would be that I would not hear his voice for the remainder of the night, should I not comply with his directions. Even the thought of that weighs heavily upon my heart and I find myself desperately trying to figure out a way to comply to avoid such a response. But figure out what you hate most. The thing that you want to avoid at all costs is likely going to be the motivator for you to stay on the straight and narrow.

xethnkitten -> RE: Worse Punishment/Humiliation? (4/22/2007 7:01:35 AM)
the worst punishment Xeth has handed down to me has ignoring me. He made me kneel in between his legs facing him. He watched tv over my head, totally ignoring me. To make it even worse, I was not allowed to touch him, look or speak. It was pure torture to be that close and not be able have any contact whatsoever. It was horrible. :: trembles in fear at the memory::

myobedience -> RE: Worse Punishment/Humiliation? (4/22/2007 7:14:03 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: grlneedstolearn Good afternoon to all, i've read and seen some pictures of harsh punishment. But for you, what has been your worst punishment/humiliation? i'm asking so i can get some general ideas to tell my Dom. i have given him some ideas but they didn't work out, i was actually having fun with the punishments. So now i'm looking for some new ones. Thank you to all Being ignored, deceived and fed crumples of waht I thought were "love drippings" for a year. It infuriates my Sir how for 3 months I was told I was disobedient but AH couldnt even tell me why. [sm=ofcourse.gif][sm=ofcourse.gif][sm=ofcourse.gif][sm=ofcourse.gif][sm=ofcourse.gif][sm=ofcourse.gif][sm=ofcourse.gif][sm=ofcourse.gif][sm=ofcourse.gif][sm=ofcourse.gif][sm=ofcourse.gif][sm=ofcourse.gif][sm=ofcourse.gif][sm=ofcourse.gif][sm=ofcourse.gif] I was a fucking jerk for sure !! And the truly sad part of it.....I know with all certainty I am not the only stupid woman in D/s, M/s this has happened too. Learninggirl if you need to be the creative one in your relationship and come up with you own discipline and punishment...think twice about who you serve. JMHO

myobedience -> RE: Worse Punishment/Humiliation? (4/22/2007 7:17:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: petal7 quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross . . .What's with the rash of doms lately telling their slaves to go find good punishment ideas? Lack of imagination? Giving the slaves busy work? Not understanding how to build a good relationship so they hand out punishments like candy? That's not fair - - unless I missed it, no where did she say in her message, that her Dom sent her to find punishments. She said she was looking for ideas to bring to him. This could have been her own initiative. I agree though that "punishment" is much different from training or play. Punishment, in our relationship, is corrective action. It's not fun nor exciting and I certainly don't enjoy it in the least bit, other than the gratefulness I feel that my Master loves me enough to want to discipline me and shape me into His perfect servant (a journey, not a destination). Some have voiced opinions that my current punishment is too harsh and extreme. I think at times that I am getting off easy because the alternative would have been dismissal from His service. However, I have to say in terms of cruelty, my worst punishment would probably make some of you laugh. I once served a Dom whose house I loved to clean. It was my joy to see him come home from work and smile at the atmosphere I'd created. One day when I stepped out of line, he placed my cleaning supplies in the middle of the room and tied me up so that they were just out of reach. He let me stare at them for an hour, unable to reach them to clean. After about an hour, he took out the supplies and began cleaning. He knew it was KILLING me to see him do my work . . . all because I'd misbehaved. I'm sure some would laugh and relax at the break, but it was devastating to me. He then sent me home for the rest of the day. But, as LA mentioned, many would say that being ignored is the worst. I know that being sent home was no fun but hadn't thought about that in quite some time. Until last night when my Master told me that the impending punishment for something I have been struggling with would be that I would not hear his voice for the remainder of the night, should I not comply with his directions. Even the thought of that weighs heavily upon my heart and I find myself desperately trying to figure out a way to comply to avoid such a response. But figure out what you hate most. The thing that you want to avoid at all costs is likely going to be the motivator for you to stay on the straight and narrow. petal............. search her posts..... for learninggirl this is a habit... LA is right on this time !!

jayded34 -> RE: Worse Punishment/Humiliation? (4/22/2007 7:19:55 AM)
i have to agree with this one.......being ignored . Its absolutely devastating to me. I was married for 22yrs vanilla marriage and for most of that marriage i was ignored, or treated as though i didnt matter at all. basically made to feel as though i was insignificant. I have to tell you that when talking to potential partners now i bring this up as the very frst thing that will send me running away. you can crush my body.....but i wont allow anyone to crush my spirit or my soul again.....

BOUNTYHUNTER -> RE: Worse Punishment/Humiliation? (4/22/2007 7:23:56 AM)
I agree,to find them selfs in silence,to walk past them and to see them reach out to brush your sleeve only to find it pulled away with a look of distain.yep it works great and its a lesson well taught.....bounty

angelic -> RE: Worse Punishment/Humiliation? (4/22/2007 7:52:02 AM)
Yes, ignoring me is one sure fired, guaranteed way of getting rid of me. To me using 'ignore' as a punishment tells me the "Dom/Master" really has no interest in me as a person. Like you jayded, i state it clear and plain upfront, ignore me i am gone. There are no second chances.

smcontrol -> RE: Worse Punishment/Humiliation? (4/24/2007 10:53:07 PM)
BOL at go find me some good punishment ideas.... Thoughts of "please don't make me eat chocolate and watch a dvd! Anything but THAT!"

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