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True No Strings Housework - 4/21/2007 7:48:45 PM   
patrice3737


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Status: offline 		i just wanted to see if there are many others who enjoy providing no strings housework, or enjoy having it provided to you.
i am in a wonderful relationship of over 12 years. She is my partner and Domme. She also allows and encourages me to provide maid service/housekeeping outside our home for others.
There is a Woman, (who also happens to be a professional Mistress) who's home i clean regularly. All i do is clean for Her, and that is all either of us want as i am in a monogamous relationship. She tells me that this is a rare situation. Usually those who say "no strings housekeeping" in reality still want more that that.
As someone who is a true service submissive, i cannot understand why people who claim to want to provide service only, then push for more once they find someone nice enough to put them to work.
For me anyway, there is no greater reward than to arrive at someone's home and find a sink full of dishes, loads and loads of laundry to fold, dirty floors to wash. rugs to vaccum, toilets and tubs to scrub, and windows to wash. When i see all of these things to do, and know i will be there for hours doing it, it gives me a happy feeling. The feeling when i finally arrive home, of tired feet and legs from standing in heels, or sore knees from being on them while scrubbing floors, is most fulfilling for me.
I love doing this, wearing the uniform and apron, and not knowing what i have to do, or how hard it will be, until i get there. Certainly i realize how lucky i am to have a Woman at home to serve and share my life with. i'm fortunate that She encourages me to provide the no strings housekeeping for those who want it, but even if i were single and alone, i'd still be happy with providing these services with no strings or expectation of anything other than being given more work to do.
i am just curious as to why there many people who offer "no strings" housekeeping, or other services, only to push for sex or punishment once they are in the home of someone who had agreed to "no strings"

patrice
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RE: True No Strings Housework - 4/22/2007 5:21:52 AM   
littleonyx


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Status: offline 		Hi, patrice...

Interesting.  I can honestly say that I've never heard of, or thought of such a concept as no strings housework.  Would I love to have my place cleaned with little to no cost, knowing that it will be done exactly how it should be done?  Absolutely.  Would I love to not have to clean my kitchen (which I hate with a passion) and do those dishes?  You know it.  Would I love to have all the laundry done without me having to run back and forth?  Oh, boy...would I ever.

You know, the idea of "no strings" housework is appealing.  Unfortunately, you're pretty far away.  But appealing just the same.  I'm curious though...do you have a preference?  Bigger houses with less to do, but with more room...as opposed to smaller places with more work. 

Interesting.  Very interesting.

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RE: True No Strings Housework - 4/22/2007 5:40:22 AM   
ChainedExistence


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Status: offline 		You say you would love to do this even if it weren't your Domme's wishes, but have you actually been in that position? I suspect the fact that you are happy within your relationship allows you the joy of doing for others. Certainly there are selfless people who do for others simply because they enjoy it, and I wouldn't want to discount that if that is what you are about, but you haven't been put to the test to see if this is true. Even people who perform seemingly selfless tasks are getting something out of it- gratitude from the person whom they help, appreciation from the community, a sense of purpose in life. While those might not be "strings" as we traditionally would call them, they are certainly powerful motivators. They are what keep the soup kitchens and other charities going. In any case, I would say you are pretty rare because I don't get a happy feeling when I come in to a sink full of dishes, laundry to fold, and toilets to scrub. I'd be happy to come home and find it DONE. In any case, you seem to have found your bliss and that's what really matters whether any of us understand it or not!

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RE: True No Strings Housework - 4/22/2007 7:02:23 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'd love a housekeeper I didnt have to pay....  where do you find these "things" other than at your local malesub supermarket?

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RE: True No Strings Housework - 4/22/2007 10:24:07 AM   
mp072004


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Status: offline 		I'm not sure why people who will not be satisfied with a pure domestic service arrangement claim to want that--or, generally, why some people deliberately misrepresent what they want. It seems inefficient and not conducive to getting what is wanted.

People fulfilled by service-only interactions are rare and wonderful. Yes, ChainedExistence, they do get something out of it--often, it seems, they are fulfilled by the expressions of gratitude (or indifference, if that's their thing) from those who receive the service. Probably a sense of accomplishment is important, too. Patrice, I hope your glowing recommendation of providing service will encourage others.

Monica

P.S. If you're in southern NH and can drive to Boston well enough, and are interested in taking on another household to serve, please get in touch with me.

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RE: True No Strings Housework - 4/22/2007 10:38:34 AM   
patrice3737


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Status: offline 		i truly enjoy providing this service anywhere -big or small. It is the idea of arriving at someone's home not knowing what tasks await, and having to do whatever needs doing.

No strings housework, as i have recently learned, is another thing that some lifestyle people like to do. i would imagine that as a "kink" or fetish, it would be mostly submissives liking it. A service submissive would be more of a category that i'd place myself. i would imagine enjoy providing waitress service, secretarial work, cleaning horsebarns, yardwork, being a servant, or most anything that people want someone like me to do for them.

patrice

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RE: True No Strings Housework - 4/22/2007 10:45:38 AM   
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ORIGINAL: myobedience

I'd love a housekeeper I didnt have to pay.... where do you find these "things" other than at your local malesub supermarket?


i don't know if many of us exist outside the "local malesub supermarket" or girlsub, or somewhere in between like me ~smile~
Of course there are people who enjoy cleaning simply for cleaning sake, but in my case there certainly is a "lifestyle"/submissive component to it. That said, i do not wish more from the people inviting me into their homes other than to do their housework.

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RE: True No Strings Housework - 4/22/2007 11:06:21 AM   
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Status: offline 		The few and limited times i had someone want to clean house for me they expected to be doing it naked with me standing there and berating them. NOT my idea of service.

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RE: True No Strings Housework - 4/22/2007 11:18:04 AM   
patrice3737


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ORIGINAL: mp072004

I'm not sure why people who will not be satisfied with a pure domestic service arrangement claim to want that--or, generally, why some people deliberately misrepresent what they want. It seems inefficient and not conducive to getting what is wanted.

People fulfilled by service-only interactions are rare and wonderful. Yes, ChainedExistence, they do get something out of it--often, it seems, they are fulfilled by the expressions of gratitude (or indifference, if that's their thing) from those who receive the service. Probably a sense of accomplishment is important, too. Patrice, I hope your glowing recommendation of providing service will encourage others.

Monica

P.S. If you're in southern NH and can drive to Boston well enough, and are interested in taking on another household to serve, please get in touch with me.


Thank You Monica for Your kind words, as well the offer to serve in Your household. i would be most happy to do so but for the distance, as i live in northern New Hampshire.

i do hope that there are others who feel as i do, and remain true to their word if it is no strings cleaning that was promised. i've been told by several people that true no strings anything is rare. That is fine as long as they don't promise otherwise. Many people simply want their chores done, and if someone agrees to do these things with no other "strings" attatched, then they should stick to that arrangement. If they get excited. so to speak, then they should keep it to themselves and deal with that when they get home. If they want more, being bossed around, punished, dominated, then there are many many people offering to provide that kind of service for them.

i have always enjoyed the idea of "having" to provide service. i say having in quotes because, of course, i have agreed to do this both at home with my partner/Domme, and for other people as well. Being a maid, either one who does housekeeping, or one who stands off to the side of the room waiting to be called, but any type of service makes me happy.
i just this moment recall getting myself detention in school many years ago on purpose because i knew i'd have to wash blackboards, scrape gum from the floor and under tables with a putty knife, and mop floors. i also knew which teachers would send me to the corner, or write lines, for talking and i'd do that on purpose as well. i don't know how this sort of thing starts, it would be interesting to find out, but i like it, as do those who have allowed me to provide the service.

patrice


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RE: True No Strings Housework - 4/22/2007 11:18:46 AM   
LotusSong


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Status: offline 		Patrice,
 
Would you be equally willing to do chores if your were requested to do it "en drab"?
 
Since your fetish (considering your profile) is cross dressing.. if you are dressed  "en femme".. wouldn't that  be a situation you have cerated to enjoy said fetish.. thus is being one "condition" or a subtle string:)?

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RE: True No Strings Housework - 4/22/2007 11:33:31 AM   
MistressDoMe


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Status: offline 		patrice, your Mistress is lucky to have you.
Now when can you come visit me?
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RE: True No Strings Housework - 4/22/2007 12:12:09 PM   
patrice3737


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ORIGINAL: ChainedExistence

You say you would love to do this even if it weren't your Domme's wishes, but have you actually been in that position? I suspect the fact that you are happy within your relationship allows you the joy of doing for others. Certainly there are selfless people who do for others simply because they enjoy it, and I wouldn't want to discount that if that is what you are about, but you haven't been put to the test to see if this is true. Even people who perform seemingly selfless tasks are getting something out of it- gratitude from the person whom they help, appreciation from the community, a sense of purpose in life. While those might not be "strings" as we traditionally would call them, they are certainly powerful motivators. They are what keep the soup kitchens and other charities going. In any case, I would say you are pretty rare because I don't get a happy feeling when I come in to a sink full of dishes, laundry to fold, and toilets to scrub. I'd be happy to come home and find it DONE. In any case, you seem to have found your bliss and that's what really matters whether any of us understand it or not!


Thank You for writing. You do raise some fair questions. Yes i did do many of these things before meeting my Partner of the past 12 years. On different times i provided free cleaning when schedule and time allowed, to motels. They were skeptical, yet gave me a chance, soon learning that i was the "go to" person for the jobs that their other chambermaids didn't want to do. Window washing, bathroom floor and fixture scrubbing were my usual assignments whenever i could work. Another arrangement i had for a few years was with a friend who owned a cleaning business. i would have worked for her full time but it didn't pay enough, so i confided my desire to clean, reasons, etc. and offered to clean for her. She jumped at that opportunity and had me cleaning once per week at her accounts. Soon she also had me cleaning her home once per week as well. This was a home of six people with several pets, so this took a lot of time. It started out as light houskeeping, but soon they put more and more on me, realizing that i'd clean whatever was on a list they'd make out for me. There would be beds to make, loads of laundry to do, clothes to wash and iron, and i'd find nearly every dish used and needed washing. Between the one 6-8 hour day per week for her business and another 8+ hour day for their home, i didn't have a weekend for nearly three years. Funny thing was though -i really liked it. It stopped when she moved, but soon i did find some motel vacation cabin owners who allowed me to clean once per week.

A few months after meeting my Domme, my friend moved into a home (but less her man and his children), so i went back to cleaning for her once and a while, though with much less time devoted. That with the blessing of my partner, who by then understood and accepted this side of my personality. She always was a natural Domme, though not active in any "lifestyle" communities, so we were a natural fit. When we met, we knew nothing of the other's Dom or sub nature. i am lucky and happy.

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RE: True No Strings Housework - 4/22/2007 12:14:30 PM   
tulinwl


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Status: offline 		Have you thought about providing service to the elderly community? 

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RE: True No Strings Housework - 4/22/2007 12:22:12 PM   
patrice3737


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ORIGINAL: LotusSong

Patrice,
 
Would you be equally willing to do chores if your were requested to do it "en drab"?
 
Since your fetish (considering your profile) is cross dressing.. if you are dressed  "en femme".. wouldn't that  be a situation you have cerated to enjoy said fetish.. thus is being one "condition" or a subtle string:)?


Thank You for writing. While i greatly enjoy wearing the maids uniform, i certainly would dress "en drab" if that is what the people wanted. In a reply to ChainedExistence (4/22/2007 3:12:09 PM ) i outlined a few situations in which i provided housekeeping service for some motels and a business owner, i was always dressed in "normal" attire. Oh, certainly normal on the outside yes, but my underthings were a different story. ~smile~ Really though i would have no problem dressing in any clothing requested to do the job.

Thank You again,
patrice

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RE: True No Strings Housework - 4/22/2007 12:26:15 PM   
patrice3737


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ORIGINAL: FelinePersuasion

The few and limited times i had someone want to clean house for me they expected to be doing it naked with me standing there and berating them. NOT my idea of service.


i'm sorry that has been Your experience. Sadly that seems to be the story of many people who took some so called service submissives at their word. That is why i posted this thread.

Thank You for writing,
patrice

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RE: True No Strings Housework - 4/22/2007 12:29:04 PM   
houseslave


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Status: offline 		im very much like you...tho on the male side...providing no strings housework for men, usually straight...

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RE: True No Strings Housework - 4/22/2007 12:31:45 PM   
patrice3737


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ORIGINAL: tulinwl

Have you thought about providing service to the elderly community? 


i would be happy to do so.

i'm happy to clean or provide service to anyone who writes as long as they are close enough to my area, and schedule allows.

Thank You,
patrice

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RE: True No Strings Housework - 4/22/2007 1:00:14 PM   
littleonyx


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Status: offline 		Hhhmmm...I may have to move to New Hampshire.   And when hubby asks me why, I'll simply say, "Free housekeeping!"  *laughs*

You know...I actually do wish I had a passion for cleaning like you do, patrice.  Maybe not exactly to the point where it makes me blissfully happy to be hurting at the end of the day from all the work, but just a passion for home perfection.  Sounds like you're happy in what you do.  Rock on!

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RE: True No Strings Housework - 4/22/2007 1:07:23 PM   
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Status: offline 		Not just the elderly community but those of us wheelchair bound would love the service as well.  Try pushing a vacuum with one hand, steering a power wheelchair with another and not running over and thus tangling the cord around six wheels.....very frustrating.

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RE: True No Strings Housework - 4/22/2007 3:13:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		I also have a passion for housework and other basic manual labor around the house. We do exist out there.

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