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patrice3737 -> RE: True No Strings Housework (4/24/2007 8:06:12 PM)

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ORIGINAL: sadkitty

What a God send you would be for any one! hugs Sad Kitty Who loves to cook but hates house work sigh


Thank You for Your nice words. my Partner loves to cook too, but always leaves the pots, pans and dishes for me!

patrice




patrice3737 -> RE: True No Strings Housework (4/24/2007 8:22:06 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

I'd have to trust someone pretty well to let them clean my house without a professional contract or some darn good references to follow up on.


i understand completely, it would be scary having someone who is unknown coming into Your home. i've been fortunate to have been given a chance to work for differnet people, but do realize it is somewhat of a leap of faith at first for anyone.

patrice




patrice3737 -> RE: True No Strings Housework (4/24/2007 8:26:56 PM)

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ORIGINAL: myobedience

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ORIGINAL: patrice3737

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ORIGINAL: myobedience

I'd love a housekeeper I didnt have to pay.... where do you find these "things" other than at your local malesub supermarket?


i don't know if many of us exist outside the "local malesub supermarket" or girlsub, or somewhere in between like me ~smile~
Of course there are people who enjoy cleaning simply for cleaning sake, but in my case there certainly is a "lifestyle"/submissive component to it. That said, i do not wish more from the people inviting me into their homes other than to do their housework.


I am NOT a domme, but I am picky about how I like my house cleaned.
All your cleaning stuff will be on the kitchen floor.
~ start in the bathroom
~ then the kitchen
~ the bedroom
~ the living area
and finally my office.
Dust well ~~ everything. That's my only picky thing.
When you are done, close the door..... I'll be back.

c~ya [:D]




i'll do my best. ~smile!

patrice




patrice3737 -> RE: True No Strings Housework (4/24/2007 8:29:43 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

I have a houseboy who mows the grass, does the laundry and cleans...every week. he's a wonderful man and we enjoy the relationship. We also have several things in common (like astronomy) that we share. he comes and serves simply to serve.

Master Fire



That is great. How did You find him? We like astronomy too.

Thank You for writing,
patrice




patrice3737 -> RE: True No Strings Housework (4/24/2007 8:42:06 PM)

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ORIGINAL: hisannabelle

greetings patrice,

i have enjoyed reading what you've shared of your experiences...this is something i have a difficult time relating to, as i don't enjoy housework, but as little onyx said, i admire it and part of me wishes i shared this desire. thank you for posting this thread...i've found it really interesting.

annabelle.



Thank You for Your nice words, i am happy You are enjoying this thread. i am most happy with the response and dialogue that is taking place. It was posted because i have been hearing that when some people say "no strings", it usually means many hidden strings. That understandably frustrates people, and ruins trust for some as well.

Thank You,
patrice




patrice3737 -> RE: True No Strings Housework (4/24/2007 8:54:12 PM)

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ORIGINAL: BitchGoddessD

I love when I find someone who truly embodies no-strings housework. It is difficult to find one. My submissives all start in servitude and chastity. It is one way I separate out which submissive has the mindset I am looking for. Do you have anything in particular that you look for in those you serve patrice?


Thank You for writing. i don't really look for anything at all in those i serve, as being the maid to anyone is what this is all about for me. As i had written, i'm in a most happy relationship at home, so i'm not looking for a particular type of person to work for. Having said that, i have been fortunate that those whom i have worked for have been great people, and the woman, actually a couple, who i clean for are really nice.

Take care,
patrice




smcontrol -> RE: True No Strings Housework (4/24/2007 10:43:02 PM)

This is the area where F/m has it toally over me.  And not only housework, I've noticed a number of male submisssives over the years who are very happy and at least partiallly fulfilled by service work whose goal is nothing other than to make the Domme's life easier.  It's not that submissive women are not willing to serve, I'm obviously not saying that.  But as a source of fulfillment rarely do you get let me wash your clothes please.




littlesarbonn -> RE: True No Strings Housework (4/24/2007 10:55:17 PM)

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ORIGINAL: smcontrol

This is the area where F/m has it toally over me.  And not only housework, I've noticed a number of male submisssives over the years who are very happy and at least partiallly fulfilled by service work whose goal is nothing other than to make the Domme's life easier.  It's not that submissive women are not willing to serve, I'm obviously not saying that.  But as a source of fulfillment rarely do you get let me wash your clothes please.


I tend to believe the numbers of fulfilled male submissives are a lot less than you suspect. Quite often, wannabe subs pretend to be this type of submissive in hopes of getting in good graces with a female dominant, thinking that better things are definitely at the end of the journey. Most often, they tend to fail out because the amount of work required to prove themselves sincere is more than they can eventually do. I've seen a lot of very interesting games played this way that have ended in some really interesting situations.




Opalkitty -> RE: True No Strings Housework (4/24/2007 11:03:37 PM)

There would be a great opportunity for some one that likes to organize every thing, they could keep a list of house boys/girls, maids, etc. by state. I have been looking for one who doesn't expect sex! in return!




MariaB -> RE: True No Strings Housework (4/25/2007 1:13:42 AM)

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ORIGINAL: patrice3737

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ORIGINAL: myobedience

I'd love a housekeeper I didnt have to pay.... where do you find these "things" other than at your local malesub supermarket?


i don't know if many of us exist outside the "local malesub supermarket" or girlsub, or somewhere in between like me ~smile~
Of course there are people who enjoy cleaning simply for cleaning sake, but in my case there certainly is a "lifestyle"/submissive component to it. That said, i do not wish more from the people inviting me into their homes other than to do their housework.


I see a little contradiction here!
You are submissive to your Mistress and do her housework willingly but you do it in ‘sub mode’. You go to whoever else she instructs you to go to and you do house work for them but you do that in sub mode to ‘your Mistress’
So its not on a no strings basis, is it? Your Mistress holds the controls and that is enough for you but if nobody held any controls then would you be happy to knock on anyone’s door and offer to do their house work? Of course not!

I have had a service submissive that thrived simply on the headspace he was in from being under my control. There was never any physical contact because there never needed to be but it’s horses for courses. We are all different.
You can’t really say you are asking for nothing because you are. You are asking her to except your submission.




MariaB -> RE: True No Strings Housework (4/25/2007 1:18:31 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Opalkitty

There would be a great opportunity for some one that likes to organize every thing, they could keep a list of house boys/girls, maids, etc. by state. I have been looking for one who doesn't expect sex! in return!


Up until recently in the UK we had an academy where service subs could go to be trained. The woman ‘Miss Silk’ trained the subs to a really high standard before sending them out to contacts who were looking. She actually trained them for free because its something she felt was needed and obviously enjoyed herself. Sadly she died of cancer last year and as yet nobody has stepped in to take her place.




RavenMuse -> RE: True No Strings Housework (4/25/2007 4:39:18 AM)

No strings means no strings, thats no sex, no play, nothing but the satisfaction of knowing that they have done a good job (I would of course check and if the standard was consistantly not good enough after Me pointing out I expected better.... dismissal would surely follow).

From what I have encountered there are far fewer submissives looking to provide that than Dominants happy to recieve it.




patrice3737 -> RE: True No Strings Housework (4/25/2007 6:21:41 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MariaB

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ORIGINAL: patrice3737

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ORIGINAL: myobedience

I'd love a housekeeper I didnt have to pay.... where do you find these "things" other than at your local malesub supermarket?


i don't know if many of us exist outside the "local malesub supermarket" or girlsub, or somewhere in between like me ~smile~
Of course there are people who enjoy cleaning simply for cleaning sake, but in my case there certainly is a "lifestyle"/submissive component to it. That said, i do not wish more from the people inviting me into their homes other than to do their housework.


I see a little contradiction here!
You are submissive to your Mistress and do her housework willingly but you do it in ‘sub mode’. You go to whoever else she instructs you to go to and you do house work for them but you do that in sub mode to ‘your Mistress’
So its not on a no strings basis, is it? Your Mistress holds the controls and that is enough for you but if nobody held any controls then would you be happy to knock on anyone’s door and offer to do their house work? Of course not!

I have had a service submissive that thrived simply on the headspace he was in from being under my control. There was never any physical contact because there never needed to be but it’s horses for courses. We are all different.
You can’t really say you are asking for nothing because you are. You are asking her to except your submission.



Thank You for writing. i do, in fact, "knock on anyone's door" in a figurative sense, by posting my profile on the Collarme website. Anyone who happens upon my profile has the option of inviting me through their door in order to provide maid service to them.
My Mistress certainly rules the roost at home, and approves of anywhere i go, as well as for whom i may work, but i do not recall saying that She was the one instructing me to provide these services.
She knew i enjoyed being "the maid", and doing housework for people, so when we discovered the Collarme website, i asked Her about posting my willingness to do housework or other services for people, and She approved.
As You may have read though, within this very thread, i have related several experiences, many of which took place before my Partner and i met (which was 12 years ago). She encourages me to do this, and enjoys hearing the details of my experience when i arrive home from a job. She does grant me permission to do this, but is most supportive in my enjoyment of it.
Having said all of that, the "no strings housekeeping" statement is obviously directed to the people reading my profile. It is to let them know that i expect, and wish to receive, nothing in return for allowing me to work for them.

Take care,
patrice




patrice3737 -> RE: True No Strings Housework (4/25/2007 6:55:51 PM)

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ORIGINAL: smcontrol

This is the area where F/m has it toally over me. And not only housework, I've noticed a number of male submisssives over the years who are very happy and at least partiallly fulfilled by service work whose goal is nothing other than to make the Domme's life easier. It's not that submissive women are not willing to serve, I'm obviously not saying that. But as a source of fulfillment rarely do you get let me wash your clothes please.


i can't really speak to this, but i have seen various posts as well as talked with some submissive women and they seem to have in common the feeling that service work makes them happy because it pleases their Dom/Domme. There were at least a couple of women within this thread who said they enjoy cleaning.

Thank You,
patrice




patrice3737 -> RE: True No Strings Housework (4/25/2007 7:27:01 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Jevousadore

Hello, patrice3737.....

Though I don't believe it has to do with being submissive, I love doing housework, my own and others. I have completely turned around, cleaned, and reorganized the houses of friends, and have been offered money to do so. My favorite cleaning tool is the toothbrush. Everything in my house has it's place and goes right back when not in use.

Of course, these same friends look at me like I am crazy when I have to have all towels folded and stacked a certain way (color coordinated and matching the decor of the room), boxes of cans and food lined up straight in like sections and labels facing out, clear tupperware without colored lids that clash with kitchen decor....the list goes on.

Now that I write it down... I think maybe it's a sickness. Send help.

jevousadore



~smiling~ No i don't think it is a sickness. Perhaps the need for a little control and order? i don't know, but i certainly could do with a little bit of those organizational skills that You have.

It is kind of interesting to see things we do or enjoy put into words for this message board. i have been into these sort of things that i've been writing about for a long time, yet i'm reading the actual words describing them and it kind of strange.

Thank You for writing,
patrice




patrice3737 -> RE: True No Strings Housework (4/25/2007 8:01:21 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Opalkitty

There would be a great opportunity for some one that likes to organize every thing, they could keep a list of house boys/girls, maids, etc. by state. I have been looking for one who doesn't expect sex! in return!


That is a great idea, sort of a service submissives clearing house! What a fantastic service for both those who want cleaning done as well as those who want to do it, but have no idea how to make it happen.

Thank You for writing,
patrice




MistressSassy66 -> RE: True No Strings Housework (4/28/2007 2:57:17 PM)

A rare breed indeed to find.
I'm glad I found one [;)]




mixielicous -> RE: True No Strings Housework (4/28/2007 6:05:16 PM)

to no one besides the OP in particular i suppose,

i do not do out of the house cleaning but i do pick up and keep house after all the house mates [me, Him, and a roomie]. There are some things i do not do [since it is not required & the areas are too personal for the roommate: ie- his bathroom, his cats litter box and his bedroom. i also do not enter his office too generally]. but all the common areas, dishes, floors walls etc etc etc i keep, not so much for no strings [well maybe] but that no one else can keep it up to my standards. although i have been pleasantly pleased and surprised when the roommates gf [100% vanilla] has been helping out cleaning the kitchen up. and although i know it means almost nothing to her, it feels kind of like bonding to me. since we have nothing else in common i suppose!

i do like the feeling of a job well done and accomplished but its not all the case in my situation.




NakedGirlScout -> RE: True No Strings Housework (4/28/2007 6:27:06 PM)

Interesting... I do not enjoy housework, in fact can be a lil piggy in my house on my own, but I get a rapturous joy from doing things (chores, errands) for dominants whom I admire. I remember helping a friend take down a chinchilla barn, which involved hundreds of cages full of feces and urine, as well as carrying dozens of cinderblocks. At the end of the day I was aching and exhausted, and coughing up lungfuls of the dust that I'd inhaled cleaning the very fine sand that chinchillas nest in. There was no dress-up, no sex, no talk of anything except the chore at hand, nothing afterwards except my going home, and little gratitude. Although this was 20 years ago, I still remember it as one of my happiest ever days. But I only feel this way for dominants I've come to personally admire and want to please, not for anyone else; so doing service for the elderly or any other group won't work for me.




MellowSir -> RE: True No Strings Housework (4/28/2007 8:08:01 PM)

I don't really require it, yet have known a few subs that enjoy it, so I'd not deny them the pleasure, and also if they do enjoy it, then maybe even denying them the activity could be a punishment . It's nice to have a clean place no matter who does it . They can sure fold the laundry cause I hate doing that anyway lol.




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