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MasterMagnus321 -> First Experience (4/22/2007 6:15:56 AM)

Greetings and salutations, all.  I am wondering if you were approached by a Dom or sought the experience yourself, and what your first experiences were, or are, like.  Thank you in advance for your replies, and blessed be.



Celeste43 -> RE: First Experience (4/22/2007 6:57:25 AM)

Accepting his right to dominate me took months. I didn't go out looking for that, but for a friend with benefits situation. I couldn't submit to him until I came to trust him enough. I can't imagine how anyone can submit until after they become friends and sufficiently familiar with the other person to trust them.



sambamanslilgirl -> RE: First Experience (4/22/2007 10:58:11 AM)

i wasn't looking for another Dom after leaving my former who wanted a stable of women and forced me into being bi (have no interest in being bi and/or sex with women) however it was Daddy who was looking for me. i was newly divorced and had self-esteem issues ...meeting guys just for sex when i received His message on another site.  we didn't jump right into our D/s relationship and dynamic immediately - He knew i have major trust issues especially with men while gradually building our friendship. He gave me time to feel comfortable and safe before meeting Him in person.

when He started discussing about being in a Daddy-daughter relationship and promising that He would take care of me since i was to Him a wayward orphan in need of guidance and assistance for her life. i didn't take what He said seriously because i had my doubts.  i thought He was just like all the other guys i've met before however He was definitely different - Daddy knew me better than i knew myself.  He knew what i needed in my life ...how i could be more successful in my career and life ...the right man for me, etc. plus He took a general interest in the welfare of my 2 UMs.

long story short, i was chained before Christmas and collared on Jan 16th about 6months after we first met. currently in our 8th month of this ldr Daddy-daughter relationship, i'm happier and more confident ...even have my self-esteem is high. i'm becoming successful (and somewhat locally famous) in my writing as a concert reviewer for Fearless Radio ...i definitely have changed from the woman i was to the woman i am today.



greeneyes1962 -> RE: First Experience (4/22/2007 11:14:21 AM)

I had a profile up on another BDSM website, when i was curious about the lifestyle 8 or 9 years ago. I was approached by a Top male who introduced me to BDSM play. At the time, i would have never replied to another's profile.



spanklette -> RE: First Experience (4/22/2007 11:27:53 AM)

I already answered what my first experience with my Daddy was like, and meeting Him...but my first experience had taken place years earlier.
 
I was attending a party in New Orleans with a friend of mine...He said it was going to be, "a little different." I was bored with the party scene and was ready to see "something different." So, we went to a club, walked through all of the people dancing and went through the VIP room to an area in the back...It was set up as a dungeon for what, I know now, is called a play party.
 
I knew the bouncer and he let me in, with the caveat that I wasn't allowed to play at all. I was 17. I met the man who would be my first Master there. He wouldn't touch me until I turned 18, but I attended plenty of functions and had plenty of eye-witness experience, as He owned a "stable" of slaves. The stable situation suited me just fine, because I didn't have to be there all the time or, later when I came of age, compromise any of my limits. If I didn't want to do it, there were plenty of willing "victims" around.
 
So, my first physical experience was a birthday scene. I hit the ground running and never looked back.[:D] It was a wonderful time in my life. I wouldn't give it up for the world, but I know that the situation wouldn't suit me now. I need more one on one time now, that I didn't need then. I've also found myself more emotionally available, which doesn't lend itself to the situation I was in then.
 
I think I would have found the lifestyle eventually, but my friend just hit fast forward for me. Very cool.
 



gypsygrl -> RE: First Experience (4/22/2007 12:44:00 PM)

I sought out the experience by posting on a personal site, but didn't have a clue how to really get started so basically spent my time responding to responses to my profile.  I hadn't really heard about D/s and was more focused on SM but a very literate Master contacted me and he was so interesting to talk to, I kind of forgot what I was doing and spent a couple months operating under his influence.  I was pretty skeptical, and could never tell whether or not he was just trying to get laid but he had such a theoretically evolved approach to picking up chicks, I couldn't pass him up.  He woo'd me with long discussions of attachment theory and lectures on the reptilian brain.  There wasn't a whole lot of chemistry between us physically, so the couple times we got together were difficult, and he really liked to argue which isn't my thing; but I still tend to work within his basic framework which emphasizes attachment (as opposed to love...reptiles don't fall in love) and how to foster it.  He talked about his girls as servants, rather than slaves or subs, and emphasised adoration.

I dunno.

He was a cool guy.  He was also the first right wing conservative I had ever seriously interacted with and since then I've stopped using a political litmus test as a criteria in selecting mates.





slaveish -> RE: First Experience (4/22/2007 1:48:39 PM)

Since my life did not begin until I met Master ... ~stifled chuckle~ ... after several conversations, he told me that he would own me and that I would take my place at his feet. I didn't believe him. We're working on it.



imthatacheyouhav -> RE: First Experience (4/22/2007 1:55:08 PM)

i had found out that what i am has a name about 1 and a half years ago this past Nov i started actively seeking answers ...i had i 1st ever Dom/sub experience in Dec of 06 it was surreal.....the session lasted 26 hours ...i saw him one other time and that was it....



leili -> RE: First Experience (4/22/2007 10:04:24 PM)

I didn't really seek the Dom although I was already in the lifestyle.  I just sent a message to say hi and make friends with no further intentions...but things happened, and I'm glad they did! :D



Suleiman -> RE: First Experience (4/22/2007 11:11:43 PM)

Hmmmm. A bit of a reminisce for me, that was a while ago. Approached or sought? A little of both, I suppose. I mean, I didn't exactly hunt him, but I was looking. We met at a party. He was interested, but was with someone at the time. He asked a mutual friend for my contact information, she asked me if it was alright. I consented, he called, we made a date.

What was it like? It wasn't LIKE anything other than what it was. I was tied up, I was beaten, I was sodomised, and I was thoroughly used. Hell of a way to lose your virginity. He was a perfect gentleman. We had a few more dates after that, but he wasn't in the market for a full-time thing, and to be honest, I didn't feel that kind of chemistry with him. I learned a lot from him, though. Every time we were together, he was always showing me things, explaining things to me. I think I learned more from him in a few dates than the year and a half I was in a TPE later.



myobedience -> RE: First Experience (4/22/2007 11:39:28 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl

i wasn't looking for another Dom after leaving my former who wanted a stable of women and forced me into being bi (have no interest in being bi and/or sex with women) however it was Daddy who was looking for me. i was newly divorced and had self-esteem issues ...meeting guys just for sex when i received His message on another site.  we didn't jump right into our D/s relationship and dynamic immediately - He knew i have major trust issues especially with men while gradually building our friendship. He gave me time to feel comfortable and safe before meeting Him in person.



My experince was alot like this.  But the former dom also was deceptive and it took me a long time before I truly woke up and had the guts to turn around.  Fear kept me back, fear of not having another One to fill the need inside of me.  The need to serve and please, to obey because I wanted to.
I had three profiles on this site, all at the request of the other dom.  I took em all down.  When I was ready, I put up another one.  I said in my heart, "my last."
Sir didnt find me on this site. 
He read my blog, commented on it.  I saw he visited my blog every day.   Who is this one I thought.  I waited.  He reached out to me.  I had hid my private email address in the profile body and he was the only one that ever found it.  
Before we started emailing long letters, he simply wrote, "you are wanted" in a blog response.
I went from a dom 1000 miles away to one in my own back yard.
On April 9 he asked me, as I knelt in front of him,  when was the first time we met?  I told him March 9.  He asked me, do you want to belong to me?  His big brown eyes looked deep into mine, as if he was seeing my vulnerable, still fragile soul.  Yes.  I simply answered.
He told me one day, There is no failure except in no longer trying.
It was the same quote I had carefully kept from a college magazine years ago.  It is now on my wall. 
His domme friend wrote me and told me I am the truest sub he has ever had.  I cried.
I am no one special, but I am special to him and that is worth so much to me.  He told me my best virtues were sincerity,  openness and loyalty.
Am I happy yet?  [:)]



eyesopened -> RE: First Experience (4/23/2007 2:50:13 AM)

my first experience happened by accident, a person i had known professionally (same company different cities) was going through a divorce at the same time i was and we happened to be in the same city at the same time and while there weren't any discussions of "the lifestyle" our short affair was both D/s in nature as well as BDSM and since i was already in my mid-30s i was convinced it was the only time in my life where all the planets had aligned perfectly for me to have the experience i had craved all my life.  Since then i have sought passively, with some other great experiences but without ever finding the stability i need.  i don't know exactly what i do wrong, but i have yet to first approach a Dom and have a positive result.  All my good experiences have come when i wait to be found.



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