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jauntyone -> RE: Sigh (4/27/2007 8:23:16 AM)
Greetings Emotions are tricky things J It is hard for a person to control who they will have feelings for. Unfortunately, sometimes, these feelings can cause the break up of relationships. Since you are not willing to change the ‘equal’ feel of the relationship; and she is not willing to ‘be second’ anymore; I would think that your options are extremely limited. I wish you well melissa

mons -> RE: Sigh (5/3/2007 2:54:07 AM)
greetings you have taken someone and now they fallen in love with you. someone will be hurt badly to love as you said you love you girlfirend i do not see your love as deep as you think. if so you would not have you doll and have no love in the way she wants you too . then your girlfriend what would she do if she knew and oh by the way she must likey knows. woman are very close and know when something is going on trust me on this. have you ever heard of the song "There is a thin line between love and hate. it goes that he would mess around on he girlfreind and she would always be there. never said a word and know what he was doing. then she exploded. with rage, your hurting two lovely women you should have you girlfriend try bdsm or maybe she does already? but do not keep the doll hanging on i had a broken heart it almost took me apart i had not an ideal of what to do LOL i even try voodoo on him i know some thingsbut i was young and just diumb to stay with him now you should let her go what do men do this hang on to the two knwoing the pain will almost kill this dolll of yours and you have feelings for her but no love let her find someone who will respect her with love your not helping at all .you must know she is hurting knowing she is just your doll . i am not angry like someone women would get i want a another slave too but i would tell him. i do wish and hope things come out ok ' mons

Shanghaid -> RE: Sigh (5/3/2007 11:06:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Focus50 quote: ORIGINAL: topcat try to keep in mind that conscoisly on not, she is trying to extort your love. Stand firm, be fair, be ready for a visit from the drama llama. *Crikey - extort???* *I hardly see the OP as an innocent victim here, esp as we've only heard her side! Not wanting poly yet living simultaneous (and separate?) relationships surely invites drama, no?* *Focus.* quote: try to keep in mind that conscoisly on not, she is trying to extort your love. Stand firm, be fair, be ready for a visit from the drama llama. Focus, I've seen and respected your posts here but I believe topcat is right. This girl quite knowingly & willingly took a position as a 'distant second', now she wants something else. Now, I'm fine with communication but give the OP, he seems very strongly to be on receiving end of someone trying to get something though emotional manipulation. You also make a quite valid point in; "Not wanting poly yet living simultaneous (and separate?) relationships surely invites drama, no?". Just because he's lived the 'good life' - significant one at home, bit of fluff on the side - doesn't mean that the doll is playing nicely however. All-in-all, piper-paying time. SH'd

Focus50 -> RE: Sigh (5/4/2007 5:28:33 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Shanghaid quote: ORIGINAL: Focus50 quote: ORIGINAL: topcat try to keep in mind that conscoisly on not, she is trying to extort your love. Stand firm, be fair, be ready for a visit from the drama llama. *Crikey - extort???* *I hardly see the OP as an innocent victim here, esp as we've only heard her side! Not wanting poly yet living simultaneous (and separate?) relationships surely invites drama, no?* *Focus.* quote: try to keep in mind that conscoisly on not, she is trying to extort your love. Stand firm, be fair, be ready for a visit from the drama llama. Focus, I've seen and respected your posts here but I believe topcat is right. That's ok, if topcat, you and a hundred others is "right", it still doesn't make me wrong - it's purely personal opinion, not a democratic vote. BTW, topcat did disassociate himself from "extort" in a later post, but I still disagreed with his alternative "compel" lable, too! quote: This girl quite knowingly & willingly took a position as a 'distant second', now she wants something else. And I bet she did it in good faith, too! But I'm guessing like 99.999% of humans, she was ultimately unable to control who she developed feelings for. Her "crime" was to express them - like almost any caring friend would encourage one to do.... quote: Just because he's lived the 'good life' - significant one at home, bit of fluff on the side - doesn't mean that the doll is playing nicely however. Even with topcat's backing, I still don't see what "doll" did wrong beyond being honest when pressed and I certainly don't see the OP as being the innocent victim portrayed in this thread. When you intimately interact with others, emotional attachments can form, desirable or not - it ain't rocket science. When teenagers are sexually active and the girl gets pregnant; it's the girl's fault, not his too? The consequence (pregnancy) may not have been desirable but it's ridiculously immature and naive not to forsee the possibility of it occurring! And the OP is no teen.... *Focus.* *Oops, the dreaded edit....*

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