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ORIGINAL: BlkTallFullfig

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ORIGINAL: asissyforher

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I wish this post was in Ask A Mistress or Ask a Submissive... Would actually love to hear more of what the subs seeking think of it.. M

so what do YOU see is wrong then, BlkTallFullfig? "i' fail to see a problem.. i live/think/feel/ vanilla..i type..vanilla. 'spose YOU t r y to explain to a an ole country boy?
i would seriously like to know..
thanks
a slave

Say what?? Did I say there was a problem here? I said that I would like to know what other subs/slaves think of this service premise/post??
As for how I feel about your thinking? I'm going to plead the 5th.. M

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ORIGINAL: GoddessDustyGold

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

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ORIGINAL: panzerwagon


How can you serve your Mistress - what are the ways?

Here are some suggestions:
Make sure her home is clean and neat.
Make sure her clothes are clean and neat.
Prepare her favorite foods for her.
Prepare her bath.
Rub her feet after she comes in from working all day.
Offer her a massage if her day was very stressful.
Offer to do her manicure and pedicure.
Have her favorite music playing or find her favorite show or movie
on TV.
Surprise her with flowers.
Serve her coffee as soon as she gets up in the morning.
Ask what clothing she wants laid out for her.

And, on a final note, I would like to ask other femdoms if they'd consider a sub who followed the above list to the letter on a daily basis to be an absolute joy -- or a smothering pain in the butt? I think what makes all those things special is a guy that knows how to read when things are appropriate and things are not. The right guy *knows* when he could offer a bath, or it's time for a massage -- etc. What I've seen happen in some cases is a service-sub --- in his NEED to be of service to his femdom -- smothers her if she really doesn't need anything. Then, here come the unwanted footrubs, the resentment if she didn't fall over in shock over a job well done, or the attention-demanding he so craves from his duties. Thoughtfulness for the joy of doing it is something completely different from thoughtfulness in order to get something in return.

Akasha

You and I are very different, Aakasha. For Me, yes, it would be an absolute joy. And no,, I would not feel smothered. Because I am the one with all the authority. It is not an equal partnership, so when I need time and space, I will have it. In a vanilla relationship, that time and space is not as easy to demand and command. Part of My submissive boy's service also includes serving Me the way I wish, when I wish. If I don't require a particular service or attention at any given time, if I want or need a break, I can say so, and there is no fallout. Or there had better not be.
It is not balanced, and some may feel it is not right, but that is why I seek a boy who is just as happy to serve Me by not doing anything, as to serve Me by doing something. I am also there if and when they need something special and I am a nurturer by nature. But I am very comfortable with being in complete and total charge. Even if it means that today I am watching a taped mini-series for 10 hours, and the boy can just go somewhere and read. Until I ring the bell, that is. *W*
Yes, you are right. There is always that expectation of reward that just has to be stamped out of these boys. That is why it is so hard to meet a true submissive. They will get their festish needs satisfied. But it will be on My terms. That is what it is supposed to be about. And that is what We are constantly promised. Finding one who really enjoys the service is quite another thing.