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RE: Age gaps - 4/25/2007 12:44:00 PM

imthatacheyouhav

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the naughtyness of being with someone 10/15 years older/younger than you

LMFAO.......

Edited to add: For the record i have a high age limit of 55 and a low age limit of 30. my Master is within that range....LOL, i couldnt do anyone close to or under my kids ages...i just couldn't..... yuck...ick... you're a daisy if you do...its just not for me is all.....

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RE: Age gaps - 4/25/2007 1:00:11 PM

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I do have a sub that is 15 years younger , most are always older. I dont have any problems with age gap as long as they are a legal age to consent .

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RE: Age gaps - 4/25/2007 3:05:31 PM

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Actually, to the secondary question, yes, I do have age limits, but I say that in initial contact. If they write Me, I've very up front about saying they are either too young or too old to fit My criteria, so they don't waste their time persuing something that isn't a possibility.

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RE: Age gaps - 4/25/2007 4:00:05 PM

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Well now that you mention it-upper age limit I would say 60- but have never have been higher than 48

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RE: Age gaps - 4/25/2007 5:21:24 PM

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Distance would be more of an issue for me than anything. I want someone nearby that I can touch and spend time with. Time NOT on the phone or in front of a computer screen.

They either have to be willing to get their ass to me or have lotsa cashola to get my ass to them on a regular basis. Otherwise it's just not going to work.

Yeah, that's my big dealbreaker too. I don't mind travelling (I do it a lot anyway), but's difficult because I somehow always end up living hours away from an airport. Let's not even talk about a local scene.

If I was to meet somebody, in my vicinity, who was older and I was compatible with...Can I say "hell yes" strongly enough?

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RE: Age gaps - 4/25/2007 6:12:54 PM

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If given the choice i would prefer older to younger...but that's more of a state of mind then a defined number. Class is key and is the best currency in any relationship.

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RE: Age gaps - 4/26/2007 7:12:35 AM

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Do they work?

I know of a number of couples where it works for them, and has for many years.

As a younger female sub, would it work for me, personally? No. While I think older Doms are a great resource, and would accept training from one, I could never be in a long-term relationship with one. My family just wouldnt accept it, and while Im not hell bent on gaining their approval, nor need or want them to approve 100% of everything I do, when I'm in a D/s relationship, the Dom is a big part of my life...And it wouldnt be right for me not to share that person with my family, another bit part of my life, or attempt to share it and have Him be shunned. I think 5-7 years is my limit, there.

Jinx is only 3 years older then I am, but he had been involved in the lifestyle for 9 years before we met, so He wasnt completely green. He didnt have hardly any real-time experience, and I had only had a small amount, but while He was self-concious about it, I wasnt that concerned. We've learned and grown (and still are) together, and that works for us.

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RE: Age gaps - 4/26/2007 7:23:11 AM

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Physical age doesn't matter one bit. I had a decade long relationship with My now ex-wife, 10 years My junior... the main time it came up was when other people assumed it was a boss and his secretary having an affair, which used to make us both chuckle.

I've had playpartners 20 years My junior

Now I am building a future with another beautiful young slave, just 9 years younger than I.

It is who the people are, not how many years they have under their belt. IMO it helps that the Dominant has more life experience to draw from than the submissive but wether that is by a few years or a few decades doesn't make too much diffrence.

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RE: Age gaps - 4/26/2007 7:42:57 AM

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I tend to prefer a younger submissive in that they are not as "set in their ways" as are the older subs, and also haven't had so many bad relationships that they stereotype more easily. Trust comes easier to those who haven't had it betrayed quite so much.....

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RE: Age gaps - 4/26/2007 8:40:15 AM

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I'm attracted to younger men. My significant other is almost 10 years my junior, but he's pretty mature for his age. What he lacked in maturity he made up in attentiveness and enthusiasm. We had the stereotypical "older woman/boy toy" thing going on initially, with me being a corporate exec at 33 and him being fresh out of college at 23, but he wasn't a drunken frat boy with the maturity of a high school kid. We haven't had any problems as we've gotten older, nothing "petered out" at 38/28, and I don't anticipate any problems.

I think when you connect on the right levels, things like age don't matter. Granted, I don't think there's any 23 year olds that I would have been able to have lengthy intelligent conversations with that were stimulating beyond sexuality - he was definitely unique in that category. I didn't get a young, dumb jock and wait for him to mature; he was booksmart beyond his years and socially very sophisticated due to his upbringing. I had a few "boytoys" around that time that I could not take to a formal work function without worrying about their maturity (hell, I had guys my age I was worried about taking to a work function do to the sophisticated/political nature of my industry) -- he was absolutely stellar in conversation. I would recommend that if you seriously do want to date an older woman, you really refine your social skills, know how to be a conversationalist, and be knowledgable about current events.

The only problem we had is that at 23 he looked 18. People gave a second look a lot, but as soon as he opened his mouth, they realized he was mature.

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RE: Age gaps - 4/26/2007 8:46:34 AM

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Age does matter to me. I would not get into a relationship or even play with a 20 year old. He or she would have to wait until they were at least 21 years old <laughing> because to me that is legal age. I also think about how much I have grown as a person since I was in my 20's. I have matured tremendously and have a lot more adult life experience under my belt. I remember when I was 23, I had a boy that was 19. Even then he was too young for me. I have been told I have an old soul when it comes being responsible and maturity. While I still listen to young music and enjoy many things that are considered younger, I put responsibilities first. I cannot say that I would "never" be in a relationship with someone much younger or older than me but I can say that I prefer people that are closer to my age. I think it would be "hot" to have a young hot boy under me, however, I am skeptical that it would be practical for me lol

Good luck in your search!

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