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LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Spiritual Compatibility (4/27/2007 7:27:01 AM)

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ORIGINAL: CuriousLord
All of this shit about "feeling" something and "believing", having "faith".. words that fools are using to cover up their inability to actually show any effect of their supposed gods..

What about when atheists or non religious folk talk of feelings, beliefs and faith?

Why so much anger and hatred towards something you know is empty? 

You sound like a typical young person raging against the system who hasn't found a relaxed balance within themselves yet.




CuriousLord -> RE: Spiritual Compatibility (4/27/2007 7:39:31 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

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ORIGINAL: CuriousLord
All of this shit about "feeling" something and "believing", having "faith".. words that fools are using to cover up their inability to actually show any effect of their supposed gods..

What about when atheists or non religious folk talk of feelings, beliefs and faith?


Feelings..?  I didn't say anything was wrong with feelings, silly.  Not feelings in general.  I'm talking about feelings with context to believing something mystical to somehow be divining itself into oneself.

It's okay to believe and have faith in things.  It's blind faith in something supernatural that's annoying to me,

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross
Why so much anger and hatred towards something you know is empty? 


It effects me.  It effects the world.  It's the reason I can't walk my slave on a leash in public.  It's why the most intelligent men in history have been tortured to death.  It's keeping people from understanding what this world is really about.

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatros
You sound like a typical young person raging against the system who hasn't found a relaxed balance within themselves yet.


You sound like someone more ready to start a shit-throwing contest rather than debate the logical points presented.
Make your argument, then your conclusion.




LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Spiritual Compatibility (4/27/2007 7:46:26 AM)

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ORIGINAL: CuriousLord
You sound like someone more ready to start a shit-throwing contest rather than debate the logical points presented.
Make your argument, then your conclusion.

I don't have any argument, I was curious about your state of mind.

If you've read the thread on obeying your god and master, you'll see we've already explained the futility of applying logic to an illogical system.

My only conclusion was in how you're coming across here.  And you're not doing anything to suggest otherwise.




cjenny -> RE: Spiritual Compatibility (4/27/2007 8:00:40 AM)

There was a time when I didn't think things like spiritual compatibility, background differences would really matter. I married a man from a religious background & republican as well. Honestly I thought that love would count more, that it would be enough to balance against anything in the world.
Obviously I've changed my mind [;)] . Sure it CAN be done but there is a lot to overcome & sometimes the polarity is too great.
I would not again enter into a relationship where we have such divergent ideas about things. To use a hot button issue, I can compare it to someone pro-choice trying to be with someone pro-life. There came a time when the issues we couldn't discuss became larger than the issues we could discuss.

Even if a person is non religious they still have an ethical code they live by. Everyone does. Yeah some choose really flexible ethics but they still live by a certain way. It filters into everything, how we see people & how we interact. How we view everything from nature to the media.

Reading this over I worry I may come across as inflexible or unable to reconcile differences. I am not inflexible, it is just that I would rather put my energy into something else rather than trying so hard to bridge a gap.

Keep in mind I am not saying this about friends or family.. only about a life partner.




CuriousLord -> RE: Spiritual Compatibility (4/27/2007 8:05:52 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross
I don't have any argument, I was curious about your state of mind.

If you've read the thread on obeying your god and master, you'll see we've already explained the futility of applying logic to an illogical system.

My only conclusion was in how you're coming across here.  And you're not doing anything to suggest otherwise.


Religion is an entirely logical system.  I'll post about it later.. it's a good point to see.  People often fail to see the most powerful reasonings behind religious and superstitous beliefs.  Many seem, however, to act on them, regardless of their inability to understand nor articulate them.
This is why I would apply logic to such a system.   I'll be happy to explain the logic of religion in the later post.

As for the issue of coming across.. Many regular posters, as I'm sure you know, perhaps being the foremost in the stated regard, will have seen me enough to know my nature is logical and well-reasoned.  I will give you that passion is often confused for ignorance, though I would counter that those who would hold this as law are apathetic and ineffectual beings with which their particular manner of regard for me is trivial.

Strange to consider, though, isn't it?  That passion might play some part in a debate?  Still, it's not a debate, proper.  Perhaps, if nothing else, it will serve the dual purpose of basis for implimentation and a counter for oppositional apathy.  I suppose it's the ladder which I have taken the passion against; I'd argue this is practical in effect of presentation.
A bandage for a system of thought afflicted by the nontrivial interests of its own court.




LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Spiritual Compatibility (4/27/2007 8:14:28 AM)

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ORIGINAL: CuriousLord
Religion is an entirely logical system.  I'll post about it later.. it's a good point to see.  People often fail to see the most powerful reasonings behind religious and superstitous beliefs.  Many seem, however, to act on them, regardless of their inability to understand nor articulate them.
This is why I would apply logic to such a system.   I'll be happy to explain the logic of religion in the later post.

Religion- in terms of its formation, its processing, its structure, its appeal and all that, yes that has definite obvious logic and understandability to it.

A particular religion, a particular persons faith and system of beliefs however, are and are applied very illogically- hence why you get so angry over what they do according to their system of beliefs. 
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As for the issue of coming across.. Many regular posters, as I'm sure you know, perhaps being the foremost in the stated regard, will have seen me enough to know my nature is logical and well-reasoned. 

A logical and well reasoned person can still have huge blind spots, or areas of total lack of reasoning.  They often try and layer on logic and reason as a justification to it, but it's the blindness and emotion which is really what's going on.

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Strange to consider, though, isn't it?  That passion might play some part in a debate? 

I dunno, you're talking to a philosophy major/psych minor who often compares understanding philosophy to being in a love affair.  How I love and hate the burn. :)





daddysprop247 -> RE: Spiritual Compatibility (4/27/2007 8:23:55 AM)

i'd prefer that my partner not necessarily share my exact spiritual beliefs, but that their beliefs be as open-minded and accepting as mine. unfortunately that's a very naive preference. as it turns out the right Master for me, not to mention Love of my life, happened to be a practicing Christian, and very passionate about his beliefs. it has caused minor conflicts from time to time, but i think he would clearly prefer i were Christian also, but he does not try to convert me, thank goodness. still, knowing that your partner thinks you are "wrong" and wishes you believed differently (not to mention probably thinks you're going to hell...a place you don't even believe in) feels kinda weird.




CuriousLord -> RE: Spiritual Compatibility (4/27/2007 8:25:44 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross
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As for the issue of coming across.. Many regular posters, as I'm sure you know, perhaps being the foremost in the stated regard, will have seen me enough to know my nature is logical and well-reasoned. 

A logical and well reasoned person can still have huge blind spots, or areas of total lack of reasoning.  They often try and layer on logic and reason as a justification to it, but it's the blindness and emotion which is really what's going on.

It's possible, but why would someone assume a fatal flaw to my character when other reasons are more likely and further inquary possible?  A defensive mechanism?  I would hope this to be a limited portion of readers, though I couldn't claim to care to appeal to such individuals as I'd find great distate for them.

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross
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Strange to consider, though, isn't it?  That passion might play some part in a debate? 

I dunno, you're talking to a philosophy major/psych minor who often compares understanding philosophy to being in a love affair.  How I love and hate the burn. :)


You know.  I wrote something here.  Then it got highlighted and deleted.  So..
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Okay.  Enough procrasting.. work time.  =/




SirDominic -> RE: Spiritual Compatibility (4/27/2007 8:59:42 AM)

Interesting that a question about spirituality has morphed into one about religion. They don't have to be interconnected. I am totally NOT religious, and I am VERY spiritual. Perhaps it is my 20 years teaching yoga. Spirituality has so many meanings. It doesn't necessarily have to have any connections with deities, metaphysical powers, or even with higher planes.

Guess what I practice is a human spirituality. One thing I know is that we are all beings of energy at our basic level. Everything is. Everyone puts out an energy field, weak and held close by some, powerful and broadcasting out with others. Is a "natural" electral field "spiritual". To me it is both, and I see no conflict between it being both.

I would honor anyone's spiritual beliefs, provided it is a belief system they came to themselves; not one they blindly followed from the pulpit. The only other reason I would not honor someone's beliefs is if they tried to prove theirs was better than anyone elses, and trying to change me to their path for my, so called, own good.

Namaste, Sir Dominic

p.s. Did you ever wonder about the fact that in the English language god spelled backward is dog? I have always felt there was something really relevant about that, though I have never figured out what.




Stranger1 -> RE: Spiritual Compatibility (4/27/2007 11:42:15 AM)

Religion is about man's customs. It has nada to do with spirituality. I count myself as one with faith, and a relationship with Jesus Christ. Which means one tries one's best to walk in his path. And he had two most important things to say.


One of the Pharisees, a lawyer, asked Him (Jesus) a question, testing Him, and saying, "Teacher, which is the great commandment in the law?" Jesus said to him: "You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself. On these two commandments hang all the Law and the Prophets" (Matthew 22:35-40).

If someone I seek an intimate relationship with-one that will be lasting and satisfying......did not have this as her foundation-I doubt I could trust her.

Being in a church does not make you a Christian,any more than being in a garage makes you a car. No matter what spirituality you may hold-what you hold in your heart, and can share-is what really matters. Any thing else is just "keeping up appearances."




Padriag -> RE: Spiritual Compatibility (4/27/2007 12:09:26 PM)

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ORIGINAL: szobras

How important is it to you? What aspects are important to you?

I'm neither a spiritual nor religious person so neither is of any importance to me.  So far as a potential submissive's beliefs, my chief concern is that whatever those beliefs may be do not either conflict with me nor offend me (repeated attempts to "convert" me, to "save" my soul, or repeatedly questioning my lack of belief or interest in all things "spiritual" is patently offensive to me).  Generally, however, the less "spiritual" a submissive is, the easier it is for us to get along.

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Is it in the basic principles, the integrity to follow their beliefs? The openness to perhaps, realize those beliefs may change over time? Or even so much that you may feel that you must practice the same path. Does it even matter?

I might respect someone who follows their beliefs in spite of criticism or different beliefs, but not if that goes beyond reason.  Beyond that I frankly don't pay much attention to it.  I'm definitely not going to change my beliefs to suit a submissive.  It matters only if their beliefs create a conflict.

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I have felt strong spiritual connections with some that were not practicing the same path as I. I do not find that a spiritual journey cannot be shared even by walking two different paths. For me it is that they are open to share it. Open to learn about mine. Basic beliefs may change. I seek similar spiritual principles practiced. I find importance in that there is a desire to seek their spiritual self.

That's a fairly good description of something that would eventually annoy me.  I'm not spiritual, I'm not going to become spiritual, ergo there is nothing to share.  I might learn about someone else's beliefs out of curiosity, but don't expect me to embrace them.  This is the chief reason I prefer submissives who are neither religious nor spiritual... reduces the potential for conflict.  Too often I've found that submissives with religious and/or spiritual beliefs feel the need to eventually "share" (i.e. push) those beliefs with me.  Someone who believes in some form of divinity and an afterlife tend to be most prone to this, since invariably those beliefs also would consign me (a non believer) to some form of "hell" and this endlessly troubles the submissve.  I can more easily accept their belief than they can accept my non-belief... usually it doesn't work for them and the relationship ends. 

What tends to perplex me most are the bewildering variety of things people find to be spiritual.  I've been told I'm "spiritual" because I'm creative, or because I like poetry, or because I enjoy the outdoors.  There's nothing "divine" or "spiritual" in my creativity... its just me being me.  I don't "commune" with Nature... I just enjoy the outdoors, simple as that.  There's plenty of wonder and beauty in my world without me inventing "magic" or the "mystical" or the "spiritual".  I'm quite happy with the mundane, rational, scientific world I live in.  That seems hard for some to accept.




Suleiman -> RE: Spiritual Compatibility (4/27/2007 3:05:03 PM)

My spirituality is my own business. I am not in the habit of sharing or discussing it, save in the most vague and academic of contexts. I have no problem with persons of faith - any faith- but find that those who are strident about making their beliefs known are annoying. Born Agains - those who have newly converted or newly reaffirmed their faith - are the most annoying. Born Again Pagans actually irritate me more than their christian counterparts. A born again or fundamentalist christian is expected to go out and try to convert people. Born again pagans or wiccans often do much the same, along with happily attacking other faiths - especially christianity - while claiming to be open minded about and accepting of other people's beliefs. Either way, rote recitaion of dogmatic views without any deeper understanding is what really bugs me. I don't want to have these conversations, because their faith is their business. I can't tell them how to connect with the divine - it's not my place, and it's something they need to figure out for themselves - and I don't appreciate being told.

There are people who have my respect as spiritual individuals, and ther are those who have indicated some respect for what I do, but it is not something that I inquire about nor discuss. It's just that, once in a while, there is a light of recognition that transcends the boundary of dogma and label, which allows us to come to an understanding. I do not look for it, I do not expect it, but I am always pleased with it happens.




mixielicous -> RE: Spiritual Compatibility (4/28/2007 8:52:30 AM)


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ORIGINAL: szobras

Certainly I would consider that the importance and range of a partner’s spiritual path, beliefs, and outlook will vary depending on the nature of the relationship we are in or seeking.

How important is it to you? What aspects are important to you?
Is it in the basic principles, the integrity to follow their beliefs? The openness to perhaps, realize those beliefs may change over time? Or even so much that you may feel that you must practice the same path. Does it even matter?

I have felt strong spiritual connections with some that were not practicing the same path as I. I do not find that a spiritual journey cannot be shared even by walking two different paths. For me it is that they are open to share it. Open to learn about mine. Basic beliefs may change. I seek similar spiritual principles practiced. I find importance in that there is a desire to seek their spiritual self.

i was born and raised Agnostic/spiritual so i have always been very naturally drawn to people of great devotion. Although i personally find religion too conformist and/or selective, protective, elitist and condemning, when people are of a strong devotion i am immediatly enraptured by it, for reasons unknown to me as of yet. my D is very devout Jewish [my first] and i actually find very deep connections with Him and His religion which is so surprising to me. He is a firm believer my [unknown] bio dad is jewish just because i enact so many of the same quirks/beliefs/actions/opinions as a Jew w/o ever being exposed to any.

i dont know if i could be with someone who was atheist, or even claim to be on my "own" spiritual plane because it is something that is very personal to me [the lack of faith but not a lack of belief in some thing more than i] and i feel if someone claimed to be in the same place as me, well it just isnt possible IMO. they can be in one of their own but when they dont embrace a churches following thats where i think beliefs become very diverse and personalized [even when you do embrace them too]. So someone of different spiritual following is important to me, in that way, and there is also more to share and learn from e/o with the ability to teach new beliefs and ideologies and take what you want to improve your own.




mixielicous -> RE: Spiritual Compatibility (4/28/2007 8:55:01 AM)


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ORIGINAL: daddysprop247

i'd prefer that my partner not necessarily share my exact spiritual beliefs, but that their beliefs be as open-minded and accepting as mine. unfortunately that's a very naive preference. as it turns out the right Master for me, not to mention Love of my life, happened to be a practicing Christian, and very passionate about his beliefs. it has caused minor conflicts from time to time, but i think he would clearly prefer i were Christian also, but he does not try to convert me, thank goodness. still, knowing that your partner thinks you are "wrong" and wishes you believed differently (not to mention probably thinks you're going to hell...a place you don't even believe in) feels kinda weird.

Mine also has no intrest in conversion [kids will be Jewish though and i dont oppose] i find myself thinking often of conversion regardless though, just as the ultimate "thank you" to Him if that makes any sense. But i am lucky His mother is catholic so me converting is not a big deal for His parents either.




dovie -> RE: Spiritual Compatibility (4/28/2007 9:10:19 AM)

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ORIGINAL: SirDominic

Interesting that a question about spirituality has morphed into one about religion. They don't have to be interconnected. I am totally NOT religious, and I am VERY spiritual. Perhaps it is my 20 years teaching yoga. Spirituality has so many meanings. It doesn't necessarily have to have any connections with deities, metaphysical powers, or even with higher planes.

Guess what I practice is a human spirituality. One thing I know is that we are all beings of energy at our basic level. Everything is. Everyone puts out an energy field, weak and held close by some, powerful and broadcasting out with others. Is a "natural" electral field "spiritual". To me it is both, and I see no conflict between it being both.

I would honor anyone's spiritual beliefs, provided it is a belief system they came to themselves; not one they blindly followed from the pulpit. The only other reason I would not honor someone's beliefs is if they tried to prove theirs was better than anyone elses, and trying to change me to their path for my, so called, own good.

Namaste, Sir Dominic

p.s. Did you ever wonder about the fact that in the English language god spelled backward is dog? I have always felt there was something really relevant about that, though I have never figured out what.


greetings,

ditto!!

be peace, be well
dovie




MiladyElaine -> RE: Spiritual Compatibility (4/28/2007 9:36:14 AM)

Just so they believe in an entity stronger and wiser than humans. A goodness, a light to follow, a place to go after death, etc. 
And I enjoy Christmas and would wish to share it.




Vendaval -> RE: Spiritual Compatibility (4/28/2007 2:30:37 PM)

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ORIGINAL: szobras

Certainly I would consider that the importance and range of a partner’s spiritual path, beliefs, and outlook will vary depending on the nature of the relationship we are in or seeking.

Definately

How important is it to you?
Highly important

What aspects are important to you?
Having compatable ethics

Is it in the basic principles, the integrity to follow their beliefs?
Yes

The openness to perhaps, realize those beliefs may change over time?
That as well

Or even so much that you may feel that you must practice the same path.
That is desirable, but not absolutely necessary

Does it even matter?
Very much so

I have felt strong spiritual connections with some that were not practicing the same path as I. I do not find that a spiritual journey cannot be shared even by walking two different paths. For me it is that they are open to share it. Open to learn about mine. Basic beliefs may change. I seek similar spiritual principles practiced. I find importance in that there is a desire to seek their spiritual self.

You analyze this subject quite well, szobras.
 
Regards,
 
Vendaval





Aswad -> RE: Spiritual Compatibility (4/28/2007 5:15:30 PM)

Okay, I'm probably going to go down in flames for this one, but here goes... please try to keep an open mind when reading this everyone, and assume good faith.

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ORIGINAL: Suleiman

Born Agains - those who have newly converted or newly reaffirmed their faith - are the most annoying. Born Again Pagans actually irritate me more than their christian counterparts. A born again or fundamentalist christian is expected to go out and try to convert people. Born again pagans or wiccans often do much the same, along with happily attacking other faiths - especially christianity - while claiming to be open minded about and accepting of other people's beliefs.


I'd have to agree with that. A lot of Christians annoy the heck out of me, but not nearly as much as their equivalents in the Pagan communities. Adding hypocrisy to dogmatism, while condemning both of these, is frequently the last drop with regards to my patience.

But I'll point out that there is one other group of born-agains that annoys me more: the born-again atheists. Nowhere have I ever found as devout believers as these; they are absolutely blind in their faith in "science" (which would be mostly fine by me, if they understood actual science, hence the quotation marks), as absorbed in their dogma, and as hypocritical. They're fanatically bent on converting everyone else to their own beliefs, frequently spouting that any faith but their own should be banned, as well as often proclaiming tolerance, open-mindedness and a profound dedication to (e.g.) humane-ethics, while being the most intolerant, close-minded people I've ever come across in truth, as well as spending far more time fighting other faiths than living by the tenets of their own.

Agnosticism, or whatever it's called these days, is an absence of faith. Atheism is the presence of a secular faith, or counter-faith if you will.

It seems to me that a lot of people start out getting their lives and/or minds messed up by religious fanatics, and then convert to their concept of the opposite of that faith, just as fanatically as the people who messed them up in the first place, before starting to propagate the injustice that was visited upon themselves, as if two wrongs would make a right. It usually goes one of two ways: either they convert to atheism, or they convert to some appropriate inversion of their original faith. Which it is will generally depend on their subconscious ideas of what would be the greatest inversion.

Of course, frequently, this inversion is generational. I've seen families where the first generation is strictly religious, leading to the children becoming atheist in opposition and being equally strict about their children being atheist, leading to the grandchildren becoming religious again in opposition to their oppression.

To the born-again atheists credit, however, I have yet to see this chain start with atheism, but there is a definite propagation of the same mindset, just with different faiths.

This kind of brings to mind what Nietzsche said about master and slave morality...

The master creates values, and deems them good. Whatever is harmful to him/her is bad in itself. There is no intrinsic concept of evil, as such, at least in Nietzsche's opinions.

The slave, however, starts from what is "evil", derived from their opposition to their oppressors and the values those hold. A sense of good arises as a complement to evil, not by itself, and tends to focus somewhat on utility.

I definitely get a sense of this bit going on with certain atheists, although I'd be quick to point out that many religions also appear to start from "evil" and work their way from there.

The Abrahamic faiths certainly seem to do this, for instance. They start out of opposition to their oppressors in Egypt, and Leviticus deals (to a large extent) with defining the tenets of the faith in terms of opposition to the faiths, values and practices of the surrounding lands.

That said, I subscribe to a personal form of the Judeo-Christian faith, with some gnostic elements, but believe that any "vertical transmission" (divine inspiration) has been severely watered out, if not lost, along the path of "horizontal transmission" (the scriptures and religious organizations). In my view, the Bible has to be interpreted as a flawed and incomplete translation of a document targetted at the masses of prehistoric times, not as a literal guide for the spiritual individual in the modern age. Anyone hoping to get in touch with the faith through the Bible, will have to sort through the cultural context of the time, the compromises made to give it some positive impact rather than none, and the literal integrity of transmission (vowel points, translations, redactions, consensus on selection of scriptures to include, etc.). A formidable task, as such.

My "strongest" spiritual experiences haven't been in a religious setting at all.

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Either way, rote recitaion of dogmatic views without any deeper understanding is what really bugs me.


Me too, whether it is secular dogma, Christian dogma, Pagan dogma, or any other form. I have no problem with agnostics, and very little problem with atheists who have a solid grasp of scientific method, philosophy and logic, but presentation without content is still just window dressing.

In this regard, I'd say James Randi is a modern day prophet, of sorts. Rather than try to reach out to the masses with scientific method, philosophy and logic, which I'm sure he realizes the futility of as well as I do, he tries to replace their existing faiths with another kind, one that is tended to by the "religious" (in a secular sense) leaders that he has the most faith in. Unfortunately, the message of science is frequently lost on the masses, so he's just trading one problem for another. Kudos for what he has done for the atheist faith, though; few evangelists have been as successful in reaching the masses.

The million dollar (or whatever it is now) challenge stands as a sort of Ark of the Covenant for the atheist faith. It is something many people with no grasp of the science involved place great faith in, but which is not usually subject to closer inspection. Few of the people who have brought it up when debating with me have been aware of the stringent non-scientific requirements involved; the need for full disclosure including identity, the requirement that you pay the associated costs of subjecting your claim to his tests, and so forth are things they rarely consider.

I'm not positing the existance of provable supernatural phenomena as a part of this argument. I'm just saying that even if they were to exist, his challenge would most likely go unmet. Let's say you could cure cancer, as a hypothetical case. Would you have the finances to pay for the equivalent of a phase 3 trial, which is what it would take to prove it to medical science? And, if you did, would you agree to make the fact known to the world, so every hopeless case around, or their families, would come knocking down your door, trying to cart you off to wherever to heal "everyone"? There are other issues too, but I think these should suffice.

Quite simply, if such phenomena were to exist, they could not be commonplace, or we would have proof by now. And if they aren't commonplace, then the supply (whether it be time, energy, money or whatever) is far less than the demand, making a million dollars worth exactly zilch in terms of quality of life subsequent to exposure.

To my mind, atheism qualifies as a faith- the scientifically unprovable belief in the absence of something- whereas agnosticism is just the absence of faith. It's a valid faith, to be sure, but a faith nonetheless. And one whose adherents can display all the good and bad qualities found among adherents of other faiths, and whose leaders and organizations have the same positive and negative qualities to them as the leaders and organizations of other faiths.

Anyway, just my 2 cents. Sorry if I wasn't very clear here; this topic seems like it might be prone to blowing up, so I didn't feel like investing as much effort as usual in it until I see if it does.




Aswad -> RE: Spiritual Compatibility (4/28/2007 5:25:29 PM)

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ORIGINAL: szobras

How important is it to you?


The exact faith isn't important to me, as long as it isn't diametrically opposed to my own. My nephandi is Pagan, I'm something along the lines of a gnostic Judeo-Christian, it has rarely caused significant problems.

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What aspects are important to you?


That they must respect my faith and the fact that I have one, if I am to engage in a relationship that involves anything more than play and/or sex. Compatible ethics would be a major plus.

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Is it in the basic principles, the integrity to follow their beliefs?


Integrity is the most important principle, for me. Despite being Judeo-Christian, I can respect a Satanist, and value their integrity and willingness to be true to their beliefs, even if I don't agree with said beliefs.

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The openness to perhaps, realize those beliefs may change over time?


Being open-minded is important, but the main turn-offs are hypocrisy and neverending attempts at evangelism. I don't try to convert others, and I don't see that anyone else has any business converting me. At least they have to be able to back off if I say "no". Debating their faith, or something related to it? Sure, I'd love to. Conversion? No.

If they want to convert me, they should demonstrate their faith through their deeds, and show me what it is about and that they understand it by debating it openly with me. If I am to convert, ever, that is how it would most likely happen. Not by evangelization.

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Or even so much that you may feel that you must practice the same path. Does it even matter?


No, practicing the same path is not required, though I do appreciate an element of spirituality in my partners.

The person matters more to me than their faith.





domiguy -> RE: Spiritual Compatibility (4/28/2007 5:25:47 PM)

When I am fucking some sub in her ass or cunt and she starts shouting...."Oh God! Oh God! Oh God!! Oh God!!! Oh God!!!! Oh God!!!!!".....I have found there lies the possibility that we might be spiritually compatible.




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