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Have you Ever? - 4/23/2007 4:05:18 PM   
CrimsonMoan


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From: Portland, Me via Las Vegas Nv
Status: offline 		felt the urge to submit? I ask because i have gotten a very interesting message from a domme interested in being dominated and punished for a change.  i want to know has any other felt this way before and to be honest i am surprised. Of course I am switch so I shouldn't be too surprised and its possible thats why she picked me. So what do you ladies think? Go for it and show her what its like to be on the otherside of the ridding crop?
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RE: Have you Ever? - 4/23/2007 4:18:33 PM   
MistressRouge


Posts: 876
Joined: 3/18/2005
From: Birmingham West Midlands UK
Status: offline 		Well since joining here a month ago, I have been inundated with mails especially from Dom/Masters revealing that they would love to submit to Me.

I find this very flattering, and enduring  as it shows that some like to explore both sides of the coin. 

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RE: Have you Ever? - 4/23/2007 4:28:49 PM   
GoddessDustyGold


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quote:

ORIGINAL: CrimsonMoan

felt the urge to submit? I ask because i have gotten a very interesting message from a domme interested in being dominated and punished for a change.  i want to know has any other felt this way before and to be honest i am surprised. Of course I am switch so I shouldn't be too surprised and its possible thats why she picked me. So what do you ladies think? Go for it and show her what its like to be on the otherside of the ridding crop?


I have not...
If she requests it, and she has the urge and has come to you...then decide for yourself.  
Do you want to Top her? 

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RE: Have you Ever? - 4/23/2007 4:46:57 PM   
thetammyjo


Posts: 6322
Joined: 9/8/2005
Status: offline 		Zero interest in switching here.

I would treat a woman the same as a man approaching me frankly.

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RE: Have you Ever? - 4/23/2007 5:18:33 PM   
VeryMercurial


Posts: 620
Joined: 6/5/2006
Status: offline 		I will submit only to what I want from a submissive, if that makes since.
I might want to feel the crop on my legs, but it is under my direction, and only
the way I order it.  So I don't call that being submissive, I call that gettting
what I want.  If I want to find out what a crop feels like, I will feel it, but it
is always my choice and my call.

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RE: Have you Ever? - 4/23/2007 5:30:04 PM   
LadyPact


Posts: 32566
Status: offline 		Can I bottom, yes.  Do I have a desire to do it, no.  It isn't really who I am, so it doesn't have that much of an appeal to Me.  I can, however, make a wonderful "fake" because I've been on the other end of the whip long enough to have picked up a thing or two.  When I have, I've basically reacted as I would want a submissive of Mine to act and it works pretty well.  As to being actually submissive for more than play, I can't do that because it is not in My nature.

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RE: Have you Ever? - 4/24/2007 8:47:09 AM   
LadyeSaige


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Status: offline 		I bottom occasionally to my husband, where I'm directing him to do what I want.   I never bottom to my slave.  Overall I don't consider what I do "submitting" because it's really about me getting what I want at that point in time rather than doing what he wants.

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RE: Have you Ever? - 4/24/2007 10:15:33 AM   
Lashra


Posts: 4900
Joined: 2/9/2006
Status: offline 		I do not submit but I have bottomed occasionally. I know that many Dominants do. I've also heard of Dom/mes that do submit occasionally. So have I? No but some others have.

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RE: Have you Ever? - 4/24/2007 10:16:47 AM   
Nikolette


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Status: offline 		I haven't felt any urges to submit.

BUT.... I have sort of switched. It only involved me directing the person to do X, Y and Z though. No actual switching. No actual work of submitting to another person. (as others have described) ... and in that sense I enjoy it a lot. I'm pretty masochistic so I enjoy leading my slave through using some of my whips/crops/canes on me. This is not even remotely like submitting though since I have to force them and "twist their arm" to get them to do it. Same sort of situation goes with some other bottomy activities I enjoy... its totally me in control, and since its something they don't like in the slightest there is no submission even remotely apparent. I'm in control, I'm the boss, I'm the initiator and orchestrator of the entire event.

But I have occasionally wondered what it would be like. I've often played with the idea of submitting to someone to experience it and thus aid my knowledge of the experience that my own slaves have-- and perhaps dominate them "better". But I inevitably lose interest in it, or can't find anyone who I might be willing to try it out with on rare occasions.

If I were you, I'd go for it though. :P



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RE: Have you Ever? - 4/24/2007 10:30:57 AM   
MysticFireTopaz


Posts: 50939
Joined: 4/23/2005
From: Dallas/Ft. Worth, TX
Status: offline 		No desire to submit at all.  However, I was getting so many requests from male dominants wanting to submit to me that I actually added wording to my profile to discourage them, which has helped.  I've never heard from any Dommes wanting to submit.

As to whether you should go for it or not, if the idea intrigues you, why not?  It could be fun and educational for both.  If the idea is doesn't appeal to you, then I'd pass.
 
Lady Topaz 


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RE: Have you Ever? - 4/24/2007 2:02:59 PM   
Unrepentant1


Posts: 283
Joined: 8/25/2006
Status: offline 		Yes, but one look at you and your profile makes it easy to understand, your a natural.

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RE: Have you Ever? - 4/25/2007 1:10:13 AM   
MsCfromMelbourne


Posts: 777
Joined: 2/15/2007
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quote:

ORIGINAL: CrimsonMoan

felt the urge to submit?  So what do you ladies think? Go for it and show her what its like to be on the otherside of the riding crop?


Yes, I have explored submission to some very beautiful and talented pro-dommes.  They are always "Mistress" to me and I have no difficulty feeling submissive (in a  "little sister" kind of head space, not sexual submission).

More often, I co-top with pro-dommes with me in the role of "junior Mistress" which in and of itself is a submissive kind of  headspace - submissive to the senior Mistress(es) but dominant to the submissive(s)

BUT I am nearly always happy to drop my clothes and be spoilt for a while for free !!!  Who wouldn't be?  Subbing is fun in the hands of an expert.  And I learn a LOT in the process - it has made me a much better Domme.   It means I really know first hand what I am doing to my sub and how it feels.  And how does subspace feel?  AMAZING - try it some time!!!  You will then understand why subs chase the dragon, thats for sure!

One caveat - I don't sub in public (ever) and my sub(s) have never seen me sub.  It confuses matters too much.

So my advice is go for it.  Treat her as if she was a femsub wanting to play with you but with one caution: is she looking for a power struggle with another Dominant for supremacy?  That's a pretty hot kink too, but sort out what she really wants before you start.

Does she really see you as capable of dominating her or is she planning to turn the tables on you fast? 

Be flattered - a Domme would not choose another Domme (or switch) to top her unless she was pretty impressed with your technical ability.  Go for it!!

< Message edited by MsCfromMelbourne -- 4/25/2007 1:17:57 AM >

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RE: Have you Ever? - 4/25/2007 1:41:33 AM   
MariaB


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Joined: 4/3/2007
Status: offline 		I am a sadomasochist, so I occasionally like to test my own levels of pain but submission is something that just doesn’t happen unless his physical strength pins me to the floor!!
Up until recently I had become very  pigeon holed. It had become a case where I felt I was expected to be a particular way and I found myself not wanting to disappoint others by not being who they want me to be!!!

I remember a time when I was a lot more fun and adventurous. I was always exploring different avenues of my kinky self and so lately I have returned to being just that.
Yes Im a Mistress and yes Im a sadist but first and foremost I have a free and very diverse spirit and as such I will never say ‘never’

A few months ago in the middle of a busy club with me as ‘dungeon mistress’ I suddenly decided to strip off and go and ask a well known rope master to suspend me off the scaffold. I wanted to know how it felt.
He did at one point ask me if I was spacing and I replied that I was actually getting quite bored and wanted a cigarette so could he hurry up!!!

Sometimes I think about the ‘Story of O’ when the Mistress walks into the club only to become totally submissive to a very special man. I have pondered on this idea but only because I am an exhibitionist!

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RE: Have you Ever? - 4/25/2007 7:23:57 AM   
canupleaseme


Posts: 775
Joined: 7/9/2006
Status: offline 		I have done it , I do it really well, I can take a lot of pain and apparently make a very good submissive/slave. 
I made myself go for an afternoon and have a session as a sub/slave and whilst I can do it and take it I dont like it.  Its not me I dont get into any headspace thats nice I just felt like I couldnt wait to be untied so i could scrathc his eyes out!!!
It was one of the best learning expereinces I have had though, I understand a lot more about what i'm doing to my boy and how it makes him feel.  I appreciated how important it is for the domme/dom to know what they are doing when playing hard and most of all I learnt that I will always only ever be Dominant.

I love being spanked and enjoy moderate pain but not when im in a submissive situation.  I only like to recieve them when ive demanded it and its never to please anyone else



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