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First play party - 4/24/2007 4:23:25 AM   
spankinnewbie2


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Hello everyone,
   I'm new to the lifestyle and I'm going to my first play party. I was wondering what I should wear. Please if you have any suggestions I would like to hear them.
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RE: First play party - 4/24/2007 4:34:29 AM   
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Greetings All,

    i think you wear what's comfortable, but nice to look at as well.  i've only been to one play party an was very nervous and wondered the same thing.  There were no specific requests on how to dress, either from the people having the party or my husband, so i just wore what i would if we were going out for the evening.  When we arrived there were people dressed in many different ways.  Some in jeans an tshirts, shorts, dresses, some leather and fetish wear.  If i recall most people arrived just dressed casually and changed after they got there.  You might try that, taking a bag with a different outfit that you can change into after you see what others are wearing.  Have fun

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RE: First play party - 4/24/2007 6:10:57 AM   
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Some of the clubs near me specify fetish wear or black clothes, the play parties generally do not have a dress code and people can wear as much or as little as they like - just make sure you get the address right (I once went to the wrong house when I was beautifully dressed in latex   )

Are you able to ring/email the hosts to ask them for advice?

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RE: First play party - 4/24/2007 7:08:49 AM   
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All depends on your goals.  If it is to find someone to play with and play, wear something sexy and easy to get out of.  If it is to just meet someone, wear something a bit dressy.  If you want to watch, wear something elegant.

If you aren't going with someone who knows the events well, ask the host and suggest a couple of outfits so they know what you have and can wear. 

Some events are dirty jeans and wrinkled T shirts, others people take showers, and the best to me are ones where people wear tuxedos and dress elegantly.

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RE: First play party - 4/24/2007 7:25:23 AM   
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I wore a little catholic school girl outfit at the request of my Dominant to my first event.  It got an interesting reaction.  Honestly, I haven't encounter that many people who wear fetish stuff to the party.  They just change when they get there.  I have seen people change into pajamas after they played and just cuddle and socialize afterwards. 

It seems like everything is more about what makes you comfortable and you have to draw those lines yourself.  Some people just run around naked.  I've never been completely naked before and I think my Dominant has kind of drawn the line for me at 'panties stay on at all times'.

I just dress normally unless my Domly one wants something else.

Edited to add:

Hey I have a paddle!

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RE: First play party - 4/24/2007 7:27:23 AM   
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If you want to blend in and look like mostly everyone else- sexy and black.

But, unless there's a dress code, you can go with jeans and a tshirt, or a ball gown, or a bathing suit (I've worn all of those at play parties).

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RE: First play party - 4/24/2007 8:53:44 AM   
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To a play party at a private home i tend to wear sexy comfortable clothing that is "street legal" as opposed to fetish-wear which i tend to wear only to a club or event.  i try to select clothing that is easily removed, and that, if i end up naked, will not leave marks where a bra strap or tight waistline has been!  Personally, i never wear pants- always a skirt to any play part or club.  Try not to worry too much about your attire and just relax and enjoy the new experience!  

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RE: First play party - 4/24/2007 9:08:28 AM   
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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

All depends on your goals.  If it is to find someone to play with and play, wear something sexy and easy to get out of.  If it is to just meet someone, wear something a bit dressy.  If you want to watch, wear something elegant.


Excellent advice!

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RE: First play party - 4/24/2007 9:16:21 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: spankinnewbie2

Hello everyone,
  I'm new to the lifestyle and I'm going to my first play party. I was wondering what I should wear. Please if you have any suggestions I would like to hear them.


all play parties are not created equal.  some have very specific rules regarding appropriate dress.  others have a more relaxed, anything goes attitude.
 
find out from the host/hostess(s) of the party what the dress code is and respect it, or you could be denied entry.
 
if there are no restrictions, this slave would suggest as close to naked as your personal and environmental comfort levels allow.
 
if naked doesn't feel fabulous for you, then go with something you feel fabulous in!

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RE: First play party - 4/24/2007 10:51:43 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: spankinnewbie2

Hello everyone,
  I'm new to the lifestyle and I'm going to my first play party. I was wondering what I should wear. Please if you have any suggestions I would like to hear them.



a smile

comfy shoes

your Daddy's collar and cuffs,

and clothes that you won't mind if you never see them again.


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RE: First play party - 4/24/2007 11:01:59 AM   
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my 1st play party was just alittle over 4 months ago.... i was not prepared for what i saw. it was not bad or anything it was just right there in my face....(and everyone elses LOL) i remember being really uncomfortable at 1st but i was there with a group from a chat room i hung out in then and they were very helpful to me in explaining protocol and such. and the men in our group were very protective of the "free" ladies there from our group. and DEFINATELY dress up...this is the FUN part...go for it...be as bad as you wanna be...LOL....One of the biggest laughs of the night was when i was walking along and  heard a BIG smack whip noise i jumped and ran out of the room with my hand behind me covering my butt....i thought the girls in my group were gonna pee on themselves laughing.

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RE: First play party - 4/24/2007 11:12:44 AM   
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ORIGINAL: imthatacheyouhav
my 1st play party was just alittle over 4 months ago.... i was not prepared for what i saw. it was not bad or anything it was just right there in my face....(and everyone elses LOL) i remember being really uncomfortable at 1st but i was there with a group from a chat room i hung out in then and they were very helpful to me in explaining protocol and such. and the men in our group were very protective of the "free" ladies there from our group. and DEFINATELY dress up...this is the FUN part...go for it...be as bad as you wanna be...LOL....One of the biggest laughs of the night was when i was walking along and  heard a BIG smack whip noise i jumped and ran out of the room with my hand behind me covering my butt....i thought the girls in my group were gonna pee on themselves laughing.


That is a GREAT story! I'll let you in on a secret. When newbies show up some of us old timers, on the Dominant side of the flogger, love to see if we can scare the newbies. After all, we are sadists!

I remember taking beth to the Lair for the first time. Next door is a 'strip club'. I told her that the club's initiation was that she had to dance at the club until she collected the $20 entrance fee. The club's owner went along with the ruse. Once beth was let in on the joke she was ready for just about anything else that night. 

Two important rules to remember for the first time going to the club. No pointing and laughing; and keep the "OH MY GOD's!" to yourself.

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RE: First play party - 4/24/2007 12:28:07 PM   
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definately check with the host.  sometimes there's a theme, like for halloween or valentine's day.. or other types of requirements.. then again some times it's anything goes.   whatever you wear, be comfortable.  there is really no 'wrong' thing to wear unless it's against the host's wishes.

i've worn everything from a black velvet gown, to a skimpy teddy.  the black velvet was great because it was october. brrrr..    the teddy was great because it was mid summer.

just remember to have fun, be respectful and you'll get return invitations.
sunfleur

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RE: First play party - 4/29/2007 12:03:19 PM   
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a smile

comfy shoes

your Daddy's collar and cuffs,

and clothes that you won't mind if you never see them again.


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Rhythym, you so crazy!

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RE: First play party - 4/29/2007 5:05:22 PM   
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First, find out if the party has a dress code. That will limit your options.

I'd suggest that you wear something that suits your body, your coloring, and your preferred image. Many people do wear black. Wearing an accent color will make your black dress more interesting than the eight zillion other black dresses there; wearing non-black clothing will draw attention to you (often perfectly good attention, but you may not want attention). As a submissive/bottom woman, you could project a number of different images: demure is one option, slutty is another. Generally, people show more of their bodies than ordinarily (not necessarily more skin, but more fitted clothing if not revealing skin), so you should probably figure out what features of your body you would like to call attention to. If you already have a strong sense of your personal style, then know that BDSM doesn't require much in the way of modification--you will be able to grasp what your local communities wear, generally, and how your personal idiom fits into that.

I wear a lot of knee-length and above-the-knee dresses, and leather skirts. Rarely black, because it's not my best color, and I'm okay with looking like a traffic beacon on a dark night. I pay close attention to my shoes, too, but I think that's more applicable to dominants and tops than to submissives and bottoms.

Turning from general principles to specific play-party advice: Assuming your closet is categorized somewhat like mine, "date clothes" are probably good, work clothes, weekend leisure clothes, probably not so good, but you might want to draw items from those categories. A fitted cocktail dress and coordinating high heels will likely not be out of place. A slinky top and above-the-knee skirt might work, too. Dresses and skirts seem common among women at play parties, but they are hardly required. I've worn a pair of suede pants more than once, to casual parties I routinely wear the new skinny jeans, and I've seen one stunning, very fit woman wear a pair of what were effectively leggings made from black shiny PVC.

It's great that you're taking care to choose something that makes you feel attractive and that suits the occasion, but don't agonize over it. Have fun!

Monica

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RE: First play party - 4/30/2007 7:26:10 PM   
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I usually go for tasteful and easily removable.

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RE: First play party - 4/30/2007 8:17:54 PM   
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If its a public play party, most will have a web site that you can find out FAQ's.

Its what you feel comfortable in and what you have to wear, any kind of costume, black clothing, leather, or fetwear will do.


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