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Shrink the Domme! - 4/25/2007 6:24:29 PM   
MissSCD


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Here is my situation.  I am asking for nice, honest answers and not critisim for what I am going through at the moment. 
It is kind of silly, but I want to know why I am doing this.
I have a slave.  I have local friends in the scene, but at the same time, I still have to come in and chat and post for some reason.
The thing is, I closed my online group recently because I was burnt out on the drama.  Drama continues to exist from rudenest I observe in here, but why can't I just leave it alone and turn off the pc for good?  Do I have to see things in a little box or something?
What is wrong with me?
I work. I have things to do.  I really don't spend much time online anymore.  I think I need to cut it off, but cannot.

Regards, MissSCD
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RE: Shrink the Domme! - 4/25/2007 6:29:04 PM   
Kitte9


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Status: offline 		It's all part of my evil plan to overthrow the government! Bwahahahahaha!

Oh, sorry. No, I really haven't a clue, but I just had to get that in.

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RE: Shrink the Domme! - 4/25/2007 6:29:29 PM   
DCroommate


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Status: offline 		MissSCD,
Maybe it is the same reason the traffic slows to a crawl when there are flashing lights on the interstate,, even if the flashing lights are on the other side of the highway..
We like to see how bad it is... or (in the internet case) we like to laugh at how bad some individuals can be.

G

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RE: Shrink the Domme! - 4/25/2007 6:31:24 PM   
MissSCD


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Status: offline 		You all are on it.  These are great!  Maybe, I am looking to see it for the worst.     Keep them coming. I would not have thought about that.

Regards, MissSCD

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RE: Shrink the Domme! - 4/25/2007 6:38:17 PM   
minnetar


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Status: offline 		maybe because it is more entertaining than drama by running a group.  You can come in and choose if you want to post to a subject instead of controlling everything.

minnetar

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RE: Shrink the Domme! - 4/25/2007 6:54:24 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Watching and observing drama is fine.

Adding to drama is not.

The funny thing is when lots of drama gets started when people start talking about too much drama.

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RE: Shrink the Domme! - 4/25/2007 7:24:42 PM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		Are you saying that you're addicted to the computer, internet or drama? Actually, it doesn't matter...a good therapist can help with any addictive behavior.

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RE: Shrink the Domme! - 4/25/2007 7:36:23 PM   
Casie


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Status: offline 		Simply because it is quite entertaining. And it's like the accident on the side of the high way you don't really want to look but just can't NOT look.

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RE: Shrink the Domme! - 4/25/2007 7:38:09 PM   
mp072004


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Status: offline 		I don't know about you, but I have BDSM relationships and friends from local groups, and I post, read, and correspond with people on here. I find it entertaining. Why is it strange or wrong to want to like to participate in collarme.com? Sure, it has its problems, and some of online BDSM can be irritating, but problems and irritation are present in just about every leisure activity, no?

But you wrote that you "have to" do so. Is it a compulsion, or was that an offhanded colloqiual word choice? If you feel like you must log on here, not merely that it's part of your leisure routine, then you may have a problem.

Monica

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RE: Shrink the Domme! - 4/25/2007 7:43:07 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		The drama part aside, message boards and chat can be somewhat addicting.  It can be an extention of self to be able to log on and jot down thoughts about whatever particular topic runs across the screen.  I would think that would be less stressful than running the group.
 
Having a slave a r/t friends in the lifestyle might not be covering all of the bases for you right now, so don't be so hard on yourself if you're really not spending that much time on line.  If your priorities are straight, you'll log off when you're ready.

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RE: Shrink the Domme! - 4/25/2007 7:43:47 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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Status: offline 		Maybe because you feel that something may come up that you might learn from?..Tempting

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RE: Shrink the Domme! - 4/25/2007 7:52:29 PM   
MissSCD


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Status: offline 		Excellent advice.   Seems there is no real answer to it.
Thanks everyone for your help.

Regards, MissSCD

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RE: Shrink the Domme! - 4/25/2007 7:57:57 PM   
DominaSmartass


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Status: offline 		Glad someone said it first, but yeah, it sounds like you might be addicted. I would say this is fine as long as it's not bothering you but perhaps it is? Is being on the computer disrupting your everyday life? Keeping you from doing things you otherwise would be? Can you try turning off the computer for a few days or a week and see if you can make it? Most of all, I suggest finding rewarding things in your real life to replace all the time you spend online if it's really something that bothers you. If not, then don't worry about it. Many of us are "addicted" to something or another that we just choose to live with.

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RE: Shrink the Domme! - 4/25/2007 8:54:24 PM   
Mystique567


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Status: offline 		Sometimes I think it is just too fascinating to turn away. Truly I know I am addicted.

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RE: Shrink the Domme! - 4/25/2007 9:46:14 PM   
TigressFL


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Status: offline 		I do not see anything wrong with you. Every aspect of life has good and bad sides to it. Work, family, relationships, hobbies, tv, reading, etc. so to me participating in the forum is just like any other activity I do. It has good parts and bad parts. As long as it does not become your life then I see no harm in participating even when there are things that drive you nuts or piss you off... seems like everything in life does that to me at times lol I get annoyed when there is nothing on TV when I hundreds of channels or the book I am reading is starting out really slow or the real life group I belong to has people there that get on my last nerve or a family member pisses me off lol

Good Luck!

Tigress~FL

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RE: Shrink the Domme! - 4/26/2007 6:17:17 AM   
thetammyjo


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Status: offline 		This is a different type of "community".

Regardless of any rudeness or silliness you may encounter there are also very friendly, helpful, insightful and lovely people here.

Plus unlike in meatlife where it might be difficult to truly ignore someone who comes to a munch and gets into your phsyical space, you can also place people online on ignore or block.

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RE: Shrink the Domme! - 4/26/2007 6:54:35 AM   
MissSCD


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Status: offline 		These answers are really quite good, and I appreciate all of them.
I really do not stay online much anymore.  I probably spend about an hour a day unwinding after work. 
The only thing that annoys me to know end is the lack of respect for Dom/mes I see coming from the new generation which is a whole different topic. 
There is only one room that totally annoys me, so, I have made the decision to stay totally out of it. 
The rest of the chat rooms are great and a pretty good way to unwind after work in the evenings.
Regards, MissSCD

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RE: Shrink the Domme! - 4/26/2007 7:18:47 AM   
MrDiscipline44


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Status: offline 		Have you put any thought in the prospect that you may be an emotional sadist? And that although you don't want to be in the middle of the emotional conflict, you still get  some sort of pleasure from it. A kind of sadism by proxy.

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RE: Shrink the Domme! - 4/26/2007 7:24:19 AM   
CreativeDominant


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MrDiscipline44

Have you put any thought in the prospect that you may be an emotional sadist? And that although you don't want to be in the middle of the emotional conflict, you still get  some sort of pleasure from it. A kind of sadism by proxy.


Good point...and with a touch of voyeurism added in.  She enjoys watching the emotional conflict, gets aroused in some way from it, and yet has not contributed to it which ...if you stop to consider...can be a form of pleasure in itself.  "Look at these delightful goings-on...and I didn't cause any of it".

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RE: Shrink the Domme! - 4/26/2007 10:10:53 PM   
moki1984


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Status: offline 		this lil box is addicting

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