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RE: How many of you are willing - 4/26/2007 4:28:48 PM   
MsKatHouston


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Status: offline 		I have no problem with inexperience as long as there is willingness to learn as others have also stated.  I also state in my profile that while I have no problem with newbies, I also play at a level that is sometimes too extreme for those just starting out.  So, if the person is looking for a long term relationship, they know what they may be getting into.  If they don't think they could ever do some of the things I enjoy, I'm probably not a good fit.  But for casual play or training I'm all in.  Again, it depends on the willingness to learn and the openness they may have to particular possibilities. 

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RE: How many of you are willing - 4/26/2007 4:33:34 PM   
sissypinkpanty


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RE: How many of you are willing - 4/26/2007 4:34:38 PM   
sissypinkpanty


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RE: How many of you are willing - 4/26/2007 4:37:29 PM   
sissypinkpanty


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RE: How many of you are willing - 4/26/2007 6:02:12 PM   
Kitte9


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Status: offline 		No. I just like being warped from time to time. (Okay, most of the time *s*.)

Well done, MsKat! Love the disclaimer!!!!

< Message edited by Kitte9 -- 4/26/2007 6:10:05 PM >

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RE: How many of you are willing - 4/26/2007 9:21:59 PM   
MsKatHouston


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warped is good...and a lot of fun

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RE: How many of you are willing - 4/26/2007 9:47:57 PM   
Elorin


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From: San Antonio, TX
Status: offline 		I love teaching new people. Love working with new subs. Since I'm not expecting to be sexually active w/ male subs, most male subs I work with I am anticipating that they will keep looking and eventually move on, but I still love teaching.

I consider training to be what I do to teach someone how to please me and serve me.
Teaching is exposing someone to new experiences, having talks about BDSM, consensuality, limits, communication, etc.

I am both willing to teach newbies and train someone to serve me who is new.

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RE: How many of you are willing - 4/26/2007 9:51:32 PM   
joyinslavery


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RE: How many of you are willing - 4/26/2007 10:05:41 PM   
imthatacheyouhav


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quote:

ORIGINAL: NakedGirlScout

I've found that my master gets quite annoyed with me because I have so much less experience than he does. He finds many of my questions very naive and has expressed his frustration at them. I wish I'd been pre-trained, he's got far too much experience!

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RE: How many of you are willing - 4/26/2007 10:13:20 PM   
imthatacheyouhav


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quote:

I understand many people dont find this lifestyle til their 30s, 40s, or older, and thats fine. But if I'm aware of it at 19, 20, and aware that this is a part of who I am, why should I deny it until Im 30 or 40? By then I could have gained 10 or 20 years experience and become a wonderful sub. *shrugs*

RIGHT-ON!!!!...i feel like i'm playing beat the clock. i WISH i had know about this when i was younger, skinnier, and stronger. i find i almost apologize for my age and experience level, but i also feel compeled to stay on this new journey i have started.

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RE: How many of you are willing - 4/26/2007 10:18:39 PM   
Elorin


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quote:

ORIGINAL: imthatacheyouhav
RIGHT-ON!!!!...i feel like i'm playing beat the clock. i WISH i had know about this when i was younger, skinnier, and stronger. i find i almost apologize for my age and experience level, but i also feel compeled to stay on this new journey i have started.

Don't apologize. Just don't. You are who you are, and you have no need to apologize for how old you are, who your parents were, how much experience you have RIGHT NOW. You can't change any of those things. Only ever apologize for the things you can actually change in the future.
You have someone who you serve, you are learning, and you are enough for him. That is ALL that matters.

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RE: How many of you are willing - 4/27/2007 1:32:10 AM   
MistressRouge


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Kitte9

To take a newbie and instruct them in the lifestyle, supposing they are honestly willing to make the effort for you? Is it something you enjoy, or avoid like the plague? Why? All answers submitted become property of the OP and will not be returned.


I adore and welcome beginners and novice's. A blank canvas is so appealing

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RE: How many of you are willing - 4/27/2007 1:50:24 AM   
MariaB


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Status: offline 		I think that there really are some good and caring sub trainers out their, some of who are on these boards but a word of warning to new subs.
A good Mistress will teach you many things and these include self respect, good self esteem, correct protocol, manners, servitude and a whole positive way of developing and growing and celebrating your submission but there are some leeches out there so be careful.
Walk away from a training Mistress that demands you pay for everything or gift her with luxurious presents ( unless of course this is a pre-planned agreement). See the red light if all she can feed you is negativities and walk away from someone who oversteps your limits or disrespects you as a human being.
 I don’t know of any females (Mistress) that do this but know of certain men on the scene that ‘groom’ newbie girls, usually young and naive ones in the art of what they consider to be a good submissive. This includes being promiscuous, having little self respect, having no limits and putting the rest of their life on hold so that Master can get his rocks off! He uses the disguise of ‘dominance’ as a means to an end with what he considers a bit of fresh meat. He is not interested in knowledgeable subs because they can see straight through what he’s really about

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RE: How many of you are willing - 4/27/2007 5:43:05 AM   
MsSonnetMarwood


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Status: offline 		I'm more than happy to point a novice in the direction of where they can find decent information about BDSM and how they can find activities reasonably local to them.

That said, I have zero interest in hand holding someone through the entire learning process.  I expect a novice to be interested enough to do some reading both books and online (NOT including porn) and possibly go to a couple munches.  THAT is what shows willingness to me, not them typing every two minutes online about how willing they are.

I have on occasion played with inexperienced subs.  My expectation of them at that point though is that they are going through the process of learning about themselves, and I take it for what it's worth at that stage in their journey.   For the most part, I actually think that's a healthier way for a novice to deal with the lifestyle - don't run around looking to be "slave" or for a "TPE" or the like right off the bat - without some experience, you really don't know what you want or need or are capable of doing.

< Message edited by MsSonnetMarwood -- 4/27/2007 5:46:38 AM >

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RE: How many of you are willing - 4/27/2007 10:44:06 AM   
Unrepentant1


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

The answer was pegged in the original question.  Depends on the amount of willingness.  It has to come with a desire to learn.  They also have to come with at least some expression of what it is inside of them that makes them a submissive.  They don't have to know all of the proper terminology, but they have to know that there is a part inside of them that makes them who they are.  Not one of those silly explanations of "kinky sex would be fun".
 
I don't avoid inexperience at all.  Bringing a submissive to new heights is very thrilling.  Excuse the analogy, but it's a lot like watching first steps.  We see people walking everyday, but there's no big deal in it.  But, watch the taking of first steps!  The joy, the delight, the utter thrill of something new, never done before!  The exhileration for the student, as well as the teacher, has little comparison. 


Nicely put, I wonder what new steps I would take with you!

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