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The One - 4/26/2007 9:32:39 AM

UKEvolutionary

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Wish I could take the credit for this, but I can't, but I think that this is so apt, that I'd share it with all and see the various comments on it

The One
There are so many types of Masters and Dominants.
On one end of the scale, there is the type that believes none of it is about the submissive – it is all about Him.
She learns, modifies and serves, while he teaches, directs, corrects and trains.

And on the other end, there is the type of Master/Dominant that is:-
One that delves into who the submissive is.
One who probes, listens, and learns exactly:
what make her the way she is – her past experiences as well as her present ones.
what makes her ‘tick’
what turns her on
what thoughts does she have – about sex, submission, serving, men, women.
what drives her
what she feels
what hurts her and has hurt her
what does she love, need, desire, fear
what is important to her
All of it He learns, not to criticize or find fault with…
He learns for Their benefit.
He takes this knowledge and uses it, to positively effect their relationship
Actually modifies His own behavior accordingly(( To a point !! ))
To best utilize her hopes, dreams, fears, desires, needs, and loves in a way that
enhances their relationship,
empowers Himself,
and truly enslaves.
He can get in her head like no other
He can read her like no other
He can lead her like no other
He can touch her like no other
In all ways - mentally, emotionally, physically, sexually, sensually, spiritually…
This type, can Dominate her mind, body, heart and spirit almost effortlessly.
And thus makes her submission, surrender, service effortless.
As with this knowledge,
He can become her MASTER – in all ways.
He can become her Dominant – in all ways.
He can enslave her - in all ways.
This type of Dominant/Master is simply.....

One who Knows.

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RE: The One - 4/26/2007 9:40:53 AM

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It is MY way, I lead and she follows.... but it is ABOUT us both, OUR journey together.

As for learning her, how can You control what You don't know and understand. To some extent You must come to know her better than she knows herself, understand what moves and drives her, understand what obsticals she faces in order to help her over them.

But it is never effortless, it ALWAYS takes work on both sides. The trick is to make that work a joy rather than a trial, build her up rather than knock her down. Make her stronger as a slave rather than weaker as a person.

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RE: The One - 4/26/2007 9:41:51 AM

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BULLSEYE! That is the most accurate description of what I feel is a good dom/master/mistress I have seen in a long time.

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RE: The One - 4/26/2007 10:51:31 AM

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kind smile and nod to RavenMuse. well said.

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RE: The One - 4/26/2007 11:47:45 AM

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Greetings A/all,

It was pleasure to read this UKEvoluntary's post and Master Raven's accurate reply.

Have a blessed day,

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RE: The One - 4/26/2007 3:06:40 PM

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That is what I look for and what one must have in my mind to be a good dom/master

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RE: The One - 4/26/2007 3:15:36 PM

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I was blessed to have been found by such a Man. His name here is NChaka, but it is my privilege and honor to be allowed to call Him mon Maître... my Master.

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RE: The One - 4/26/2007 7:40:31 PM

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Well, not quite the response I was expecting but enlightning none the less. I should of anticipatated that it isn't everyones belief, but quite surprised at the innuendo that this is not "accurate" because it doesn't conform to THEIR opinion and yet, when I read two posts in particular and CAREFULLY, they are saying exactly the same thing but worded differently, how strange people's posts can be. However, just because one's opinion doesn't conform to anothers doesn't mean either belief is right OR wrong

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RE: The One - 4/26/2007 7:50:23 PM

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It's spot on for me ... it's what Master and i are striving together to achieve (i tend to think it is a journey that never ends) and it is also the type of Dominant I would seek to be to a slave of My own (male or female). Thanks for posting it!

Maam Jay aka violet[A]

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RE: The One - 4/26/2007 7:57:29 PM

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My question to you would be

Why do you feel that first one listed can not also be the other one described?

I have been with those whose sole intention was to teach me to serve them and their needs; and yet, they are exactly what is described as the second one.

You really can have your cake and eat it too

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RE: The One - 4/26/2007 8:48:12 PM

Stazia

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that is exactly what i am loooking for in a master!!

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RE: The One - 4/26/2007 8:51:04 PM

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I think I did say that !
"and yet, when I read two posts in particular and CAREFULLY, they are saying exactly the same thing but worded differently"
With the use of CAPS and then someone else saying "accurate" insinuated to Me that in their view, the passage was wrong. That's the problem with the written word, so easy to read the wrong meaning.

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RE: The One - 4/26/2007 8:53:33 PM

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greetings,

mine is a mixture of both ends. :) we have our cake and eat it.

annabelle.

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RE: The One - 4/26/2007 9:05:20 PM

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Thank you for sharing this piece it reminds me of somthing i wrote a long time ago.

*smiles* i knew he was my ONE when ... "He can get in my head like no other." The only reason he could get into my head is because he took the time to learn me and understand me.

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RE: The One - 4/26/2007 9:06:48 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: UKEvolutionary

Well, not quite the response I was expecting but enlightning none the less. I should of anticipatated that it isn't everyones belief, but quite surprised at the innuendo that this is not "accurate" because it doesn't conform to THEIR opinion and yet, when I read two posts in particular and CAREFULLY, they are saying exactly the same thing but worded differently, how strange people's posts can be. However, just because one's opinion doesn't conform to anothers doesn't mean either belief is right OR wrong

I thought I was rather clear rather than making an inuendo. My post didn't seperate out the part that yours did. I didn't place the fact that she learns, modifies and serves, while he teaches, directs, corrects and trains at one end of the spectrum (With the implication that such was in some way wrong)

I DO teach, direct, correct and train My girl. I shape and mold her both to please Me AND to be a better, stronger, more confident and capable girl. she will learn, will be modified and changed and she will most certainly serve Me.

It isn't ABOUT Me, but neither is it ABOUT her.... it is ABOUT Us

That is done under the auspice of My duty of care, building her up rather than breaking her down. I see NO spectrum there because I am BOTH those ends you list as seperate and opposed.

If you asked My last girl to describe who she was when We first met, you would not recognise her from who she is today. The confidence she now has was seeded during our time together. BECAUSE I shaped, trained, molded, modified......etc.

We are most certainly NOT saying the exact same thing. If fact I directly contradict your point about 'effortless' pointing out that it requires strength and hard work on BOTH sides.

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Thou canst not then be false to any man.

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RE: The One - 4/26/2007 9:12:24 PM

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Well, let's see...I was the one who used the caps.....I also used the term accurate as well as 2 others. I can see a close resemblence in mine and Casie's post. But so...does it matter? Ok, we have the same opinion. What kind of responses were you looking for if these weren't it? Looks like to me everyone felt the same about it.

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RE: The One - 4/26/2007 9:27:55 PM

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Most of that list a decent vanilla husband could do. It is just all tarted up with chatroom D/s wankerisms.

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RE: The One - 4/26/2007 10:15:27 PM

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As I said when I initially posted this, it was a passage that I'd found, I read the part about effortless to mean with all the hard work described above, only made it seem effortless, but we all have different ways of reading and understanding, and after all, I invited input, so I thank you to have heard your second post, which seemed to Me to be more informative and less hostile than the first.

And thank you for your post michael, as always with your posts, intuitive, helpful, informative and as eloquent as ever. I'm just suprised it took so long !!

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RE: The One - 4/26/2007 10:18:41 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: UKEvolutionary
I thank you to have heard your second post, which seemed to Me to be more informative and less hostile than the first.

The hostility was from your reading. The diffrence between the two posts of Mine was because after glancing at your profile I realised I would have to spell out a few things rather than assuming it was obvious.

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And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.

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RE: The One - 4/26/2007 10:37:23 PM

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That may be true Micheal...but to me, it's foundations such as tat list that helps make a good master/mistress.

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