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LadyHugs -> RE: Is it just me or............... (4/28/2007 4:34:21 PM)
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Dear MariaB, Ladies and Gentlemen;
Respect is earned--not a given. Unfortunately, some individuals feel entitled to respect due to picking a Dominant title and or have't found their place in the larger scheme of things. But, I will say as a seasoned and old style Dominant woman, I've paid my dues the long and hard way prior to the Internet Chat rooms and play party mentality and or kinky sex mentality some people bring in with them.
What plucks my last nerve with other Dominants, are the younger Dominants trying to publicly out Dominate a more seasoned Dominant.
To me that is rude. If I did that to a more senior Dominant in my day I would be sitting tenderly on an enlarged area. Perhaps those days--manners were taught, used and enforced and not such the Political Correctness that nobody knows what is correct anymore, as the standards are lacking of what will be tolerated and won't be tolerated. I do not know if such youthful Dominants understand how they present themselves and how they behave really affects their reputation more than the people they brow-beat. Sadly, I have some canes that are older then some of these female Dominants.
Being a Dominant is not a vehicle for competition. Unfortunately, some make it into a sport, as to see how much they can entice away from another Dominant or get a stable full of admirers. I wonder outloud if having titles for this or that within the community, is more of a vote of a popularity contest instead of picking a representative that brings knowledge, skill, good intent and spirit to rally the community and live to the epitome of standards of what the title originally stood for. Now days, titles seem to be skewed and only a resume` booster. Yet, occasionally a good representative comes from the drama and represents the title well.
There are those Dominants who need attention and must be the loud noise and full of drama, as to draw attention away from others onto themselves. These people often are the ones who complain loudly about others and do not stay quiet long enough to hear what they are saying, to which might be the answer to the problems.
Yet, the quiet and unassuming Dominants may have more knowledge, power and inspiration in their pinky then a clutch of Dominants sitting in council and or at a meeting; wearing titles and presenting across the Nation. Something to think about.
There are many seasoned Dominants about, who don't have anything to prove and have the mileage earned, they have been Final Leather and properly entitled to their status. Unfortunately, some demand from me and other seasoned dominants; the information, knowledge and or skills which were earned by doing. Forgotten is my/our right to keep our knowledge, information and or skills to ourselves and, is not subjected to pressure of others who won't walk the journey to be Final Leather. When unwilling to share, for whatever reason-- its met with ugly attitudes and behaviors as well as attacks on individual's reputations. To me, I don't need the drama. People need to start learning for themselves, instead of being book wise--they need to be life wise. Nobody can ever walk the path I took and nobody can have the advantages I had and or disadvantages.
I disagree with the term of being in a "sisterhood" as that is too close and personal. And, how some behave -- I would want to divorce from such a 'sisterhood.' Again, it has to do with respect. It is lacking in so many areas its disturbing to me.
That said, it will come to be the time when I'm dust and those who currently have youth like my parents complained about my generation and my generation that are parents sound like their parents--its called maturity. I'm sure it will continue until time ends.
There will always be attention vampires, emotionally bankrupt and mentally wasted who draws the life out of others who have a giving and or gentle nature about them. One has to draw the line as to how much energy such draws out of your internal stores, emotionally, mentally and or physically. Drama is always about such individuals.
If one wishes a peaceful way--its necessary to remove yourself away from such energy vampires.
Just some thoughts.
Respectfully submitted for consideration with bits of wit,
Lady Hugs
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