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RE: Asking Questions of a slave vs. submissive - 4/28/2007 11:09:50 AM

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I've been on this site since almost the beginning and i don't even know who is slave and who is submissive, with a few exceptions that are obvious. I don't check profiles of everyone who posts. To me everyone seems very open.

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RE: Asking Questions of a slave vs. submissive - 4/28/2007 12:06:49 PM

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While I generally consider myself a sub, I've been a slave in my past and I have always been a huge chatterbox who just won't shut up.

If I'm not giving detailed answers to a guy or asking him questions, it means he's boring me and I'm not too interested. If I liked him, he wouldn't be able to get me to shut up.

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RE: Asking Questions of a slave vs. submissive - 4/28/2007 12:11:49 PM

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If I am in a conversation and I'm told to "ask any question you want" my mind will freeze. It's not that I don't have any questions, I just can't think of any at the moment. Since some on-line Dominants will limit the "free question" period to that one small window, it's hard to come up with all of the questions you want to ask.

Then again, it's interesting to see what happens when I *do* email a Dominant with questions. Often I never hear from them again.

Just my thoughts....

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RE: Asking Questions of a slave vs. submissive - 4/28/2007 12:36:01 PM

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I have found that slaves desire a structured lifestyle. It's hit and miss-you describe what you have to offer-and they ponder if it's a good fit.

Some call it passive aggressive-but I don't-I call it smart.

I kind of do this, though not in a passive agressive way. I tell people exactly what I'm doing. No amout of conversation is going to tell me whether or not a dynamic works for me and how. I won't even know that until I start doing it. I really don't know until I meet the person, start interacting and see what kind of influence they have over me and how I fare under that influence.

I really think some things are intangible and can't be put into words.

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RE: Asking Questions of a slave vs. submissive - 4/28/2007 12:39:01 PM

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quote:

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I have found that slaves desire a structured lifestyle. It's hit and miss-you describe what you have to offer-and they ponder if it's a good fit.

Some call it passive aggressive-but I don't-I call it smart.

I kind of do this, though not in a passive agressive way. I tell people exactly what I'm doing. No amout of conversation is going to tell me whether or not a dynamic works for me and how. I won't even know that until I start doing it. I really don't know until I meet the person, start interacting and see what kind of influence they have over me and how I fare under that influence.

I really think some things are intangible and can't be put into words.

Yes, this is a very sterile medium. Only day to day life, and physical prescence is going to really define how well things will work out.

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RE: Asking Questions of a slave vs. submissive - 4/28/2007 2:40:41 PM

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A healthy exchange for learning is always welcome. I find it some times difficult to talk about my slavery because most do not understand or judge. Also, if one word is out of place or can be interpreted badly, most jump on the message and tear it apart.

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RE: Asking Questions of a slave vs. submissive - 4/28/2007 3:50:01 PM

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ORIGINAL: WhiplashSmile

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Seems like this is more of an issue with those that don't use the message boards.

So, it doesn't have anything to do with the sub-slave thing? But a difference between people who use the message board and people who don't? Probably because people who post on the boards are already thinking in terms of putting their thoughts into words. I'm pretty forthcoming in writing, but get tounge tied face to face or on the phone and can clam up.

It appears to be an sub-slave thing in those people that don't use the message boards. Most people that post a lot on here don't have a problem asking or answering questions. I swear to God, I don't think I'm crazy. At least yet! I probally should have made this post on Ask a Master or General BDSM to see if any other Doms have noticed this. Does not apply to all slaves, however in these profile types it just appears to be more common, at least in my own perception. For the ones that have Female Slave selected instead of Female Submissives. Perhaps, I've finally lost my mind... Somebody want to hit me with a TENS UNIT... wire me up and Zap me!

Well,,,, let me see...slave-type here, regular poster, no problem with questions - at least when it comes to giving my opinion regarding the questions of others. However, I DO save those questions I need to ask for the person that can answer them in a way that will help me deal with the relationship I have - namely my Master. So, I guess I'm guilty of not asking a lot of questions.

I'm not sure what the point of this is.. (oooh! A question!!) What's the point?

Ahhh....forgive me. I re-read. Since I don't talk to people from here - except for the people I already know in real life that also post here from time to time - I guess this isn't about what is actually said in this forum.

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RE: Asking Questions of a slave vs. submissive - 4/28/2007 6:35:13 PM

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hi i am a slave and also someone that posts on the boards. As far as talking to people here, Whiplash, as you can attest since i responded semi indepthly to the message you sent me about my site (for the middle of the night anyway lol)...i am mostly an open book, or atleast will answer questions to people here online. As long as they respect me (and so far eveyone has been very respectful that i am owned whew!) then i will feel free to answer or ask questions that i think are appropriate.

i was actually just transcribing an email that i sent my Daddy a few months after we met, and i was very straight forward about my wants, needs and the like.

That being said, i have a much much more difficlut time asking my Daddy questions...this is something that i'm working on but.... i tend to hold on to a bunch of them and then ask them all at one time....or i mull them over in my head and then just can't seem to get the words to fall out of my mouth....Part of this is i am not used to asking for anything or letting someone know if my feelings were hurt or if i'm really excited or mad....Then i ask too many questions and sometimes at the wrong time. i will however answer questions that are aksed of me.

It (not asking) is showing my true self, for me, i am more shy in reality and can hide behind the safety of the computer...the true self is the one that's afraid to ask the questions

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RE: Asking Questions of a slave vs. submissive - 4/28/2007 6:42:48 PM

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Cherry i don't get it. you are extremely attractive and intelligent. i feel there is no reason for you to feel intimidated. i am sure your Master would love that. you have no reason to be insecure. i feel you need to start thinking better about yourself and not expect perfection. i only say it because i care.

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RE: Asking Questions of a slave vs. submissive - 4/28/2007 7:02:32 PM

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Cherry i don't get it. you are extremely attractive and intelligent. i feel there is no reason for you to feel intimidated. i am sure your Master would love that. you have no reason to be insecure. i feel you need to start thinking better about yourself and not expect perfection. i only say it because i care.

minnetar

Thank you and so as not to hijack the thread, i'll just say here that i am just super shy and have a history that makes me more reluctant to ask for things/express certain things. Couple that with the fact that though my Daddy is very loving and kind he is also kind of intimidating to me in some ways. Add to that the fact that i sometimes am uncertain about what i am entitled to as a slave. (i have orders to discuss my feelings and am trying to get that one down...it's just hard.)
i'll tell you the rest on the other side.
:) cherry

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