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RE: What don't we show up when we say would? - 4/29/2007 1:15:00 PM

m0rgan

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not an entirely identical situation, but similar;

i was once an attendee/donor at a bukkake party that was organised by a D/s, and all twelve inviteds turned up (an unusual situation in itself, as most times fear/trepidation or genuine reasons - one guy once rang the designated number halfway through proceeding and wanted us to hold on as he was stuck in traffic, i am not sure we bothered to have a vote on it - caused 30% dropouts) but one guy, as the scene was set up, stood up and said " i can't do this" and left, which i thought showed a rather good kind of courage and honesty! sometimes fear has to be walked through, one step at a time, and i have never yet met anyone that i have spoken to online, yet i have come on unknown girls, and more, for their pleasure and mine, and presumably that of her D! as and when i meet anyone by arrangement, i will walk with fear, and my hands will sweat, but i will walk, and talk. if i decide then that it will go no further, and have to say so, that will be hard, and i would not wish to hurt feelings by rejection, and that is part of the fear! i hope that who i decide to meet will have been as honest as i, for then there is no question of rejection. those that are careless of their impact on others definitely are not worth meeting anyway!!

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RE: What don't we show up when we say would? - 4/29/2007 1:17:15 PM

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ORIGINAL: openmindedslave

Okay, very simple.I realize many who will read this will never admit it, but why is it subs/slaves make it sound like they are so interested in a Mistress/Master to the point of a meeting is set ..but never follow through with it? In fact some go as far as disappearing from the face of the planet . Why would someone do this to another, specially when they are so close to discovering a level of happiness and content they have not had before???

Why do vanillas stand each other up?

Assholes exist in all walks of life.

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RE: What don't we show up when we say would? - 4/29/2007 1:33:47 PM

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speaking of not showing up, my pics haven't showed up on my profile yet, where is the complaints department so that i might poke the mods with a stick?

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RE: What don't we show up when we say would? - 4/29/2007 1:36:20 PM

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I agree. Have the curtisy to think some thing through before you answer and then you wouldnt be likey to stood them up. Just a thought.

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RE: What don't we show up when we say would? - 4/29/2007 3:14:06 PM

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I was so nervous meeting my Master. I though he stood me up but he was just running late. I think eveyone is a little scared meeting someone new. Some let their fear of it not working out ovreride their hope that it might. If you meet and it is not there ok it is not there but at least meet the person face to face. Even though i did not know i was going to belong to Master before i met him. If i would have let my nerves stand in the way i never would have been his and as happy as i am today.

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RE: What don't we show up when we say would? - 4/29/2007 5:14:31 PM

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I think I've only ever had one incident where the other person didn't appear. Wasn't pleasant, as I had 'no' indication that her fear was what it was. Although many months later she addmitted to the fear.

Even on the times when I was 'certain' I would not have a good time or be uninterested, I've done the right thing and shown up.

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RE: What don't we show up when we say would? - 4/29/2007 5:51:52 PM

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When I went to meet my Master the first time, we live 7 hours apart, I had a tire blow out! I thought OH great He will think I am just losing it and backing out! After it was changed, I called to say I am on the road again and he said great see you soon. Twenty minutes later He called and said I will be late,. I started to wonder till he said ,I just blow a tire too. We finally meet and now we are together. It could have gone bad,but we both just laughed it off and had a great time!!

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RE: What don't we show up when we say would? - 4/30/2007 6:40:28 AM

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i agree, i was to meet a Dom this last weekend, W/we had been talking online and on the phone, but a couple hours before it was time to meet He called and told me He was sick, and i have not herd from Him since, i was very serious about Him also and i dont know how long i should wait with out hearing form Him before i just forget Him and move on.

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RE: What don't we show up when we say would? - 4/30/2007 7:03:13 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: openmindedslave

Okay, very simple.I realize many who will read this will never admit it, but why is it subs/slaves make it sound like they are so interested in a Mistress/Master to the point of a meeting is set ..but never follow through with it? In fact some go as far as disappearing from the face of the planet . Why would someone do this to another, specially when they are so close to discovering a level of happiness and content they have not had before???

In cyber, you can be anything, it's easy.

In life, you have to fill those shoes-that's hard.

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RE: What don't we show up when we say would? - 4/30/2007 3:32:58 PM

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As I posted before, my experience has been they show up, maybe once or twice, then they disappear. I've learned not to get too involved online as emotions can run high in fantasy land then the freak out happens in real life. As they say, be careful what you wish for...

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RE: What don't we show up when we say would? - 4/30/2007 4:14:00 PM

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I would also suggest that doms have satisfied their fetish fantasys by talking to them.The so called subs stay in their safe world and never vnture out except for the foreplay ( for lack of a better word) that doms give them concerning what you will do with them. In a sense they got off without ever meeting..

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RE: What don't we show up when we say would? - 4/30/2007 6:08:51 PM

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that's funny, i always show, it's the other people that tend to pussy out.

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RE: What don't we show up when we say would? - 4/30/2007 8:59:01 PM

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Because people like to play and fantasize, but when the fantasy turns into an all too real reality...they duck and run.

I completely agree

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RE: What don't we show up when we say would? - 5/1/2007 9:33:34 AM

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RE: What don't we show up when we say would? - 5/1/2007 10:20:44 AM

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It's a given, I never have a fear of meeting people, and I go out to meet people alot of times just to give them some REAL person in the lifestyle they know. 90% of the time, I end up showing up at the resturant or meeting place and waiting 20-30 minutes for them to show up or call and then wandering off to home, occasionally they really do show up, I am used to it. Too many people want the fantasy, but are afraid to take the step, no matter how small to make it a reality.

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RE: What don't we show up when we say would? - 5/1/2007 2:49:50 PM

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This thread is suddenly making me feel better about where i live. In order for most of the subs i meet and i to get together they must travel to me (says so in my profile). I used to offer to meet part way, but enough no shows and now i figure the first meeting is their test to show me if they really are interested or not. Show up for that one and we can compromise after that!

I never had this problem with online vanilla dating. That leads me to think that fear is bigger in this lifestyle. I think the expectations may be more? Are people more afraid they will not live up to a domme's expectations?

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RE: What don't we show up when we say would? - 5/2/2007 9:48:52 AM

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Many chicken out at the last minute, afraid of being hurt.

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RE: What don't we show up when we say would? - 5/2/2007 4:31:06 PM

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The otherside of not showing up is what the dom feels.Rejection..anger... lied too...you name it.And yet so many people don't give a dam about when a dom is hurt!!!!!
Isin't there something wrong here!!!!

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RE: What don't we show up when we say would? - 5/2/2007 5:26:13 PM

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I must admit the number of times I have hed others show up has been far less than the number of times that they have not. Those that have called and given me a reason why they did not show up I acknowledged and was willing to reschedule if they wanted. Some did and some did not. Those that showed up and later said it was not what they wanted, I said nice meeting you. Those that just didn't show up or have any excuse, what can one say to them ?

I have gotten to the point I am pretty good at telling who will show up and who will not. If I have any doubts about them or their ability to be truthful, the odds are they are not going to show up. As was said earlier, they are afraid of being found out that they are not what they portraid themselve to be. Problem for them is they have already proven that by not showing up. I can always say she had an off day and give her more time if she shows up but not if she never makes it when she says she will and does not even have the decency or integrity to call and give an excuse as to why they could not make it.

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RE: What don't we show up when we say would? - 5/5/2007 9:50:32 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: openmindedslave

The otherside of not showing up is what the dom feels.Rejection..anger... lied too...you name it.And yet so many people don't give a dam about when a dom is hurt!!!!!
Isin't there something wrong here!!!!

amen. the reason I'm taking myself out of all of this for awhile.

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