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RE: 25 lbs? - 4/29/2007 9:05:44 AM   
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if you're a happy cookie at 119 - 25lbs less would put you in the anorexic category unless 119 is your end goal.

145-25= 120, that is no where near anorexic for 5'4, LOL

i suppose you didn't see the unless in my response.


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RE: 25 lbs? - 4/29/2007 9:08:03 AM   
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i think it is great you want to shed a few pounds that make you uncomfortable... and im sure the threat of not being married was a tactic to make you take it seriously. I am, however, concerned with a few of the assumptions you have made. at one point you said you are sure he over shot the goal ...what happens if you loose 15 pounds and are happy with how you look and cant seem to get rid of the last ten. I think you need to discuss the what-ifs even if you are frightened by them. I take what he says very literal and would be panicked personally and feel like a complete failure.
He says i am gorgeous exactly how i am but when i expressed my displeasure with how i look he took charge and is helping me to get to a place i will be satisfied. I am happy to have this support from him. My will is stronger when he is behind it.
Good luck to ... though i do reiterate... talk to him. Better to be clear then disappointed later.


i would be willing to bring up this particular what-if scenario, thank you girl for your input.

you are welcome ... hope it helps clarify everything for you and he

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RE: 25 lbs? - 4/29/2007 9:08:15 AM   
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2) Apparently it is a stong and healthy relationship because they are discussing marriage. 

Sadly this is not true.  Mixie has been posting about relationship issues and troubles they have been having through the past few months and on their one year anniversary (less than a month ago) he told her to move out.

IMO he wants out of this relationship but is too weak to simply just end it directly and is using every other device he can think of to make it HER fault and get her be the one to finally have it end.

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RE: 25 lbs? - 4/29/2007 9:08:34 AM   
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as someone who reads my journal, you do have quite the upper hand, but not every thing goes in there, as you must know. its been almost a month since the anniversary, and yes on friday the 13th He did want me to move out due to reasons that i am not independent enough but also since then there have been substantial developments which i have not been sharing as readily since they have been quite personal. i have made great progress, already and immediately, and marriage is not in the immediate future, more like years down the road.

marriage is something we have discussed since we first fell in love last January, and He told me then, over a year ago "you will be the One I marry" so why is using something i already know is going to happen as a tool that awful?

people keep going down the "if you dont lose it you dont get married" road, and i think on all fronts that is just reading into it too far!

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RE: 25 lbs? - 4/29/2007 9:10:09 AM   
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2) Apparently it is a stong and healthy relationship because they are discussing marriage.

Sadly this is not true. Mixie has been posting about relationship issues and troubles they have been having through the past few months and on their one year anniversary (less than a month ago) he told her to move out.

IMO he wants out of this relationship but is too weak to simply just end it directly and is using every other device he can think of to make it HER fault and get her be the one to finally have it end.

wow LA for the first time ever i am genuinely offended by your opinion. you have no place to read between the lines and just becauyse you read my LJ does NOT mean you have the whole story and to say He wants out but is too scared to say so, is fucking rude as hell thanks.

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RE: 25 lbs? - 4/29/2007 9:10:36 AM   
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people keep going down the "if you dont lose it you dont get married" road, and i think on all fronts that is just reading into it too far!


this is what i mean.... you should be positive.

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RE: 25 lbs? - 4/29/2007 9:11:59 AM   
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wow LA for the first time ever i am genuinely offended by your opinion. you have no place to read between the lines and just becauyse you read my LJ does NOT mean you have the whole story and to say He wants out but is too scared to say so, is fucking rude as hell thanks.

Since when do you think a person needs to be given permission to read between the lines and make a good guess? 

You've always said before you admire my intuition and how well I seem to be able to look at your situation beyond the surface and you even were grateful for my advice on how to deal with issues.

Now that my judgements come down lacking in favor of you...you don't like it. 

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RE: 25 lbs? - 4/29/2007 9:12:46 AM   
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Fuck it, let's get this back on topic and talk about how I can snag me some fat girls.

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RE: 25 lbs? - 4/29/2007 9:14:09 AM   
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ha well this my infuriate you but i have known since day one being fat is grounds for termination [shrug]. so He claims. it doesnt bother me in the least, seeing as how, we will never really know till we get to that bridge. and considering i have been wanting to loose it for some time now maybe this is just the motivation i needed :)
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The only thing that makes weight loss stay is you do it for yourself. Losing weight for another person or a special occassion are not reason to keep it off.

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RE: 25 lbs? - 4/29/2007 9:14:29 AM   
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wow LA for the first time ever i am genuinely offended by your opinion. you have no place to read between the lines and just becauyse you read my LJ does NOT mean you have the whole story and to say He wants out but is too scared to say so, is fucking rude as hell thanks.

Since when do you think a person needs to be given permission to read between the lines and make a good guess?

You've always said before you admire my intuition and how well I seem to be able to look at your situation beyond the surface and you even were grateful for my advice on how to deal with issues.

Now that my judgements come down lacking in favor of you...you don't like it.

no, its just that you have absolutely zero information from Him and to claim He is such and such a way without even knowing ANY of His opinions, just what i say, what i choose to relay, well, it is quite stupid.

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RE: 25 lbs? - 4/29/2007 9:15:04 AM   
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ORIGINAL: mixielicous
wow LA for the first time ever i am genuinely offended by your opinion. you have no place to read between the lines and just becauyse you read my LJ does NOT mean you have the whole story and to say He wants out but is too scared to say so, is fucking rude as hell thanks.

Since when do you think a person needs to be given permission to read between the lines and make a good guess? 

You've always said before you admire my intuition and how well I seem to be able to look at your situation beyond the surface and you even were grateful for my advice on how to deal with issues.

Now that my judgements come down lacking in favor of you...you don't like it. 


it is easier to appreciate it when it is directed at someone else.

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RE: 25 lbs? - 4/29/2007 9:15:53 AM   
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Status: offline 		does this look like someone who secretly wants out to you?

no i dont think so

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RE: 25 lbs? - 4/29/2007 9:17:18 AM   
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no, its just that you have absolutely zero information from Him and to claim He is such and such a way without even knowing ANY of His opinions, just what i say, what i choose to relay, well, it is quite stupid.

Funny you never said that any of the other dozens of times you've seen me do it here and on LJ.  All those other times you thought I was very accurate, wise, and pretty impressive- or at least that's what you told me.

I'm not saying I can't be wrong, of course I can, this is only my own intuitive guessing here.

But you must see your sudden change in perspective, yes?

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RE: 25 lbs? - 4/29/2007 9:18:36 AM   
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Status: offline 		LA-- I think you have a pretty good perspective based on what you've read & since the LJ link is there, the rest of can read it as well.

<edited to add: you have been posting the issues, your words & yes, nothing from him. You have created the image that we the readers are able to see. If your depiction is not a fair representation of what he truly is then it is you that has tarnished his image, not us. This is why you have to be very careful about what you decide to write in a public forum, especially when things are painted a bit rosier or more clouded than what they are. Your right, who are we & how do we know what is going on... but since you decide to write about it... we only have your words to draw conclusions on.>

In the original post mixie "revealed" what I believe she truly thinks... he is using this as a excuse to prolong a empty promise & by her rapidly back-peddling in her feigned attempt to defend/justify his take on this... revealed a lot more truth that is easily "read between the lines".

The truth comes out no matter what type of picture we attempt to paint. I too recalled many postings on relationship woes & did a little search through the archives.

I will close this with what I said earlier... I look forward to a follow up post in a year or two years & HOPE that I read that life is blissful & all is well.


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RE: 25 lbs? - 4/29/2007 9:20:10 AM   
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no, its just that you have absolutely zero information from Him and to claim He is such and such a way without even knowing ANY of His opinions, just what i say, what i choose to relay, well, it is quite stupid.

Funny you never said that any of the other dozens of times you've seen me do it here and on LJ. All those other times you thought I was very accurate, wise, and pretty impressive- or at least that's what you told me.

I'm not saying I can't be wrong, of course I can, this is only my own intuitive guessing here.

But you must see your sudden change in perspective, yes?

yes of course since you are terribly offensive and honestly i cannot believe you had the balls to say something like that. but when you start saying that MY D is such and such and calling Him too scared to leave, you cannot seriously be mystified by my reaction, especially when you are basing opinions on half of the information.

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RE: 25 lbs? - 4/29/2007 9:21:24 AM   
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D said He would marry me if i lost 25 lbs... granted, this would only peg me 5 lbs lighter than when i first met Him [my profile weight is not accurate, lol but was at the time] it would take me down to .... 120/119 [very reasonable i am only 5'4]



I'm sorry but I just think it is incredibly shallow to make a demand like this. Plus I suspect that even if you lost that weight he'd just find another reason to not marry you.

Either he wants to marry you or he doesn't. It is pretty simple.

If he loves you so much why not get married then start exercising with you and do the cooking so he can help you be healthier, better still why can't the both of you go to a nutricianist and see how you both can improve your health? Then you can have a new eating lifestyle together where you each support each other and create a household where healthy eating and living is there from the start.

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RE: 25 lbs? - 4/29/2007 9:22:18 AM   
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2) Apparently it is a stong and healthy relationship because they are discussing marriage. 

Sadly this is not true.  Mixie has been posting about relationship issues and troubles they have been having through the past few months and on their one year anniversary (less than a month ago) he told her to move out.

IMO he wants out of this relationship but is too weak to simply just end it directly and is using every other device he can think of to make it HER fault and get her be the one to finally have it end.



Respectfully, thsi is your view on it.  You may have more knowledge of whats going on than the rest of us so you have a more informed opinion about it. But, The important thing is , does mixie feel that way? Does she feel like he wants to end it and cannot so is trying to force her to?These things you speak of may all be part of their dynamic.

The reason i think this way is  i have  a similar dynamic with mine. For certain reasons, i wont disclose, im rather strict  with her and at time can be extreme. But i  know my slaves personality very well and i do it because i feel i need to to keep her on track. mixies dynamic could be similar to my own and i could see her dom handling her this way for the opposite reason you give.

Sometimes a girl needs a  heavy hand to keep them  in line. because of their stubborness or general personality they  often test the bounds. prodding at your dominance( almost reminds me of a two year old  and you tell them not to touch  something and they ease their hand up their again testing)  and you sometimes have to make it clear to them your in change.


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RE: 25 lbs? - 4/29/2007 9:23:15 AM   
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Mixie... you asked a question to the forum... when you got some replies you didn't like or want to hear, you have gotten very  snarky... and others have hopped on.  If you didn't want to hear ideas that didn't fit into what you wanted to hear, you should not have posted your 'dilemma' for all and sundry to make comment upon.  You have been around this block enough to know that you are going to get all kinds of responses... you also should know that sometimes there is something to take notice of, even in the posts you find most uncomfortable to hear.



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RE: 25 lbs? - 4/29/2007 9:23:21 AM   
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yes of course since you are terribly offensive and honestly i cannot believe you had the balls to say something like that. but when you start saying that MY D is such and such and calling Him too scared to leave, you cannot seriously be mystified by my reaction, especially when you are basing opinions on half of the information.

Well just that you're having the same reactions that most of the people have when I make these sorts of statements.

But I suppose I had hoped that you'd seen enough of them to know that I'm not just talking out of my ass here to rise above your own immediate knee jerk emotional reaction to think "Well if I thought she was right and wise in all THOSE situations, maybe she's got something valid about THIS one, even if it's about me and hurts to hear it."

Such is life. 

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RE: 25 lbs? - 4/29/2007 9:24:40 AM   
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p.s nice pic by the way...and you dont look like you need to lose any weight

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