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PairOfDimes -> RE: Damaged goods (4/29/2007 4:33:40 PM)
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Scars from play would provoke a minor aesthetic objection in me, because incidental (that is, non-decorative) scars aren't generally something I regard as pretty. (Pretty, deliberate cutting scars are different, and often lovely body mods.) But the context of the accidental scar doesn't really matter--whether your scar was from a kitchen accident or a sensation cutting wouldn't really make a difference to me. And, if it needs to be said, this would not change my mind about whether to play with you, because it's unlikely that a person could reach adulthood and not have any minor injuries that healed with scarring. I prefer to play with and form relationships with people who have enjoyed BDSM before me, and as I like to play with relatively heavy bottoms, some scarring can be part of the "experienced SM bottom" package.
And yes, Mederma works very well. Regularly massaging moisturizer into scarred areas is good, too.
Now, if you had lost sensation in or use of a body part, it might be valid to call yourself "damaged." In that case, I would find you more attractive if you had sensation or use in that part, but I doubt a bit of lameness or numbness would be an absolute disqualifier alone.
I think this is two insecurities put together and multiplied--body image, and the "unspoiled virgin" ideal still prevalent in the raising of daughters. So: it is okay to have scars on your skin--everyone has some irregularities. It is okay, indeed, desirable, to have some experience in your chosen style of sex and relationships.
Monica.
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