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Kitte9 -> Housework?? (4/30/2007 8:09:56 AM)

I've seen many posts regarding slaves who are expected to do housework. I've even seen references to 'no strings' housework. Are subs also expected to do such chores, or are these things something you discuss before entering the service of a domme?



SweetDommes -> RE: Housework?? (4/30/2007 8:21:23 AM)

In this house, who ever our fourth is will be expected to do housework, although most of the cooking will continue to be done by our current submissive.  We don't do the 'no strings' bit though - I don't want anyone that I'm not in a relationship with to be messing with my stuff (which means no hiring someon else to do it ... sorry). 



DiannaVesta -> RE: Housework?? (4/30/2007 8:21:50 AM)

subs are always required to do housework.



thetammyjo -> RE: Housework?? (4/30/2007 8:22:16 AM)

If I own a slave he (or she) is expected to make my mundane life less stressful. So as I grow to trust him and his abilities I will assign more of my old chores to him. Fox does a good deal of the household chores around here but not all because I like doing some of them (like cooking) and I don't want to become dependent on him so I want to keep up on others.



pixelslave -> RE: Housework?? (4/30/2007 9:02:35 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Kitte9

or are these things something you discuss before entering the service of a domme?


That's right.  With most, it's negotiable.  We subs are only human, have only so much time & energy to go around.  Personally, I've had a low back injury that precludes me from doing certain kinds of housework without aggravating it.  Having me do such things would not be in the best interest of the relationship. [&:] 

- pixel



AAkasha -> RE: Housework?? (4/30/2007 9:05:06 AM)


There are no rules that apply across the board.  In my relationship, my manslut does all the housework. However, in past relationships, I had non-domestic partners who were crappy at housework, so we split the chores and also had a maid. I absolutely hate to cook, clean, vacuum or run errands.  However, I hated more to have my stuff handled improperly.  You look for your own relationship balance.

For just casual, self serving, lust-based interactions, I don't require men to do chores for me or do housework.  In that sense, I'm a pretty fetishy top-type femdom, content as long as my sensual needs are put first.

Akasha



MistressSassy66 -> RE: Housework?? (4/30/2007 9:21:17 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Kitte9

I've seen many posts regarding slaves who are expected to do housework. I've even seen references to 'no strings' housework. Are subs also expected to do such chores, or are these things something you discuss before entering the service of a domme?


I almost always have them do housework.
There are exceptions,but not many.



Enyo -> RE: Housework?? (4/30/2007 10:15:31 AM)

It is a pretty atypical event that I would ask a sub to do household chores.  I generally expect my subs household to be maintained, yard mowed, laundry put away, dishes done, etc and similarly I make arrangements for my household to be maintained.  It should be comfortable for us both to be there and I am not comfortable in/around clutter and dirt....when I am spending time with them I don't want to have to think about those types of things.  When I do ask a sub to do chores...I usually have nefarious intentions far beyond just the completion of the chore.

I have considered looking for a service sub but don't really think I have enough work to keep them busy for any significant length of time, maybe I'm a little too OCD about keeping my house clean [;)]



Dusty15 -> RE: Housework?? (4/30/2007 10:24:29 AM)

I no with the last Mistress i was with and the time I needed to be at work and the hours that I worked  we shared them but most of the big things I did on my day off and we did two major cleanings and she helped. Also if we where going to do something special  I made sure things where done ahead of time



LadyHugs -> RE: Housework?? (4/30/2007 10:42:46 AM)

Dear Kitte9, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
In all things involving another individual, there should be negotiations up front as to allow the other person to make a choice into going into a relationship involving service and or sex, to include what are off limits or deal breakers, what safe practices you expect and will follow and be open to asking as many questions back and forth as to satisfy any doubts, assumptions and last minute bargains or bargain as you go.
 
I suggest for new individuals, to list the questions they have on paper as nerves often give people a sudden 'deer in the headlights' blank mind and frozen in front of other people.
 
Some individuals do not automaticly expect slaves/submissives to do chores.  Submissives/slaves are not automatic in anything, as they are often subjected to Dominants wanting free labor and domestic cleaning without feeding their real needs back to them in exchange.
What you expect out of one another should clearly be negotiated, agreed to and or agreed not to do and all the 'what ifs' that may/can happen in the future.
 
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs



houseboy49 -> RE: Housework?? (4/30/2007 11:19:36 AM)

Housework is a good way for a sub to make him/herself usefull to a dom/me in other than sexual ways.  It is another way to demonstrate submission and it provides an avenue for discipline if needed.



Red82 -> RE: Housework?? (4/30/2007 11:29:37 AM)

quote:

Housework is a good way for a sub to make him/herself usefull to a dom/me in other than sexual ways.  It is another way to demonstrate submission and it provides an avenue for discipline if needed.


As i do agree with your point, there are plently of "non sexual" ways to make oneself useful to their Dominant.

My stance on the issue is simple, if she wants it from me, i will do my best to meet her desire. Her knowing me will also help for what she knows i cannot do, or how long i can do something due to certain disabilities. Lady Hugs wonderfully exampled the need for negotiation and communication in anything and everything.



goodmanners -> RE: Housework?? (4/30/2007 1:57:34 PM)

i am required to complete a lengthy standard list of household chores by noon on Saturday. There may be additional duties posted on the frig door to be done once my regular duties are complete. Inspection immediately follows when i advise my Owner the tasks are finished.
gm



Calandra -> RE: Housework?? (4/30/2007 3:10:26 PM)

My slaves both work outside the home and long hours (they get home at 8:00pm). My roommate works also. I am disabled and I am here to see the roomie's daughter get off the bus, and do most of the daily chores.
 
To Me, that's not serving them, it's maintaining MY household - period. If I do want the dishes washed after dinner, or a load of laundry folded, I feel empowered to ask one of them and it gets done immediately with no problem.
 
On weekends, I schedule the big stuff. Washing cars, mowing lawns, cleaning out the garage, home improvements, etc. Everyone pitches in and though I am delegating specific jobs and organizing the workforce, I still do almost as much (sometimes more) that everyone else. Then we usually plan family time, or atult time, or scene time. I've found that compartmentalizing helps the family know whats expected when.
 
I laugh when slaves think a Domme shouldn't do housework. I'm  Domme whether I have someone in service to Me or not. I'm also a neat freak. Having a slave who is WILLING to assist is the important thing.



mp072004 -> RE: Housework?? (4/30/2007 5:41:07 PM)

No, it's not a requirement. It is relatively common to have some service element in an ongoing d/s relationship. But as I seem to write a lot, you get to structure your BDSM relationships however you want, keeping in mind laws, logistics, and morals.

Some people like to do housework, or to receive domestic service, and they build relationships centered around non-sexual, non-SM services like dishwashing and errand running.

Some people like to integrate service into a d/s relationsip, but don't want service to be the focus. Many people who do d/s seem to do this.

Some people don't want to provide or receive service at all, but do want d/s relationships. While I interact according to all of the other approaches I have listed and will list, I don't tend to form ongoing d/s relationships in which service is absolutely off the table.

Some people don't want submission or domination out of scenes at all, and thus no service.

Some people don't want submission or domination, in scene or out of scene--it's about fetishes, or SM, or bondage.

Monica



Kitte9 -> RE: Housework?? (5/1/2007 9:15:06 AM)

Thank you all for your replies. Anyone else? Always looking for more opinions/ideas/information.



LadyPact -> RE: Housework?? (5/1/2007 7:13:05 PM)

Ask for an opinion, and you'll certainly get it from Me.  *laughs*  Some of it is repeat information on this particular question.

Yes, I do require some form of domestic service.  I relate it back to the skills thread that was active earlier today.  I see domestics as what One might consider 'non-skilled' submission.  OK, you don't know how to unlock My computer, but I'm sure you know how to dust My computer desk.  You may not know about much to grow My a flower bed, but I'm sure you have the aptitude to mow My lawn.  You may not have the interest level to read the books that I find fascinating, but I'm sure you can organize them and straighten the bookcase.  Can't give the best massage in the world, but I'm almost certain you can draw My bath and lay My clothes out for an evening at home.

These are all simple, mundane things that require no special skill in particular, except knowing how I like things, and therefore pleasing Me.  Little signs of devotion that show that a submissive is in this with Me for more than just the kinky sex.  I want to be shown they are in it to please Me, and receive My gratitude for their effort in return.  I don't think that's a far stretch for anyone who sincerely believes themselves to be submissive.

Kitte, you have come up with some excellent threads recently.  Keep them coming.



Ericus1 -> RE: Housework?? (5/1/2007 7:19:44 PM)

i personally have always maintained the house.  it just comes naturally in making Her life easier.

ericus



earthycouple -> RE: Housework?? (5/3/2007 4:58:10 PM)

I have a journal entry to this effect too...
I expect my slave to help around the house but think of Alice and Mrs. Brady...how they worked side by side in the kitchen....that's what I like. 

Currently, I have a WONDERFUL girl coming once a week to help me around here and I don't work side by side with her too much as I'm doing other things such as spend time with my little family members and doing homework.

D~



maledave7 -> RE: Housework?? (5/18/2007 7:44:07 AM)

I do think that each relationship is different and that you discuss many things before hand. I do feel as a submissive male that I should do any and all the housework. As I am looking for a long-term relationship, I would not be interest in “no strings” housework.



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