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Dominate Friends. - 5/1/2007 12:24:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		Hello Ma'ams,
A young Mistress just entering the lifestyle, though having been a natural dominate all my life I've come here seeking friendship and hopefully learn from your leads as my peers.

Also on the subject, becuase I've had mixed feelings from old experinces with other Doms, do you ever find it hard to make friends amoung other Doms? I know its easy to say I myself can be slightly territorial and with every dom and every sub even, everyone's ideas on the subject of how domination should or could work is different and I know myself have met others who feel if its not there way its not right. Anyone ever experince this or is it odd?


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RE: Dominate Friends. - 5/1/2007 12:37:38 PM   
MsKatHouston


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Status: offline 		Sure but it is not too terribly common in my circles.  Admittedly, I'm pretty picky about my circles though.  I don't really have a problem making friends with doms.  Some of them are my best friends.  It's great to trade tricks and tips.  There are always the complete asses but you get that everywhere.  I choose to ignore them or deal with them in an appropriate manner if they get too obnoxious.  But for the ost part, gatherings I go to are pretty social, friendly and respectful. 

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RE: Dominate Friends. - 5/1/2007 12:41:28 PM   
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Status: offline 		Ahh thats very reasuring then. I've yet to go to my first Mush, but ironicly a very close submissive friend of mine has invited me quiet often to one out in Texas for my first experince, in Austin. Im not ready for that yet, for a number of reasons, I am nervous to say and do the wrong thing but usualy I do very well in social settings, butterflies I guess. But thank you.

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RE: Dominate Friends. - 5/1/2007 12:42:47 PM   
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Status: offline 		Austin has a great scene and a lot of really nice people.  I think you'd be comfortable in most of the groups there.  Good luck :)

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RE: Dominate Friends. - 5/1/2007 12:58:01 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think overall you will find that just being yourself in a forum like a munch will serve nicely.  They are typically very informal friendly places...I will NEVER forget my first one..I was shaking like a leaf...by night's end I had new friends in both Dominants and submissives alike!

And as was already said....you find idiots everywhere....it's no different among this community. 

I wish you luck, and if you ever need to bounce something off someone with a couple more years (13) under her corset let me know.

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RE: Dominant Friends - 5/1/2007 1:00:01 PM   
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Status: offline 		And here I thought we were dominating friends.

pssssssst........you might want to fix that spelling before the spelling police........aside from my half ass attempt..........start in.

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RE: Dominate Friends. - 5/1/2007 1:01:41 PM   
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Status: offline 		Oh why thank you Miss! Its very kind of you, and yes I can see now there are those who are a bit assholeish everywhere I guess, I'll learn to take it with a grain of salt.

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RE: Dominant Friends - 5/1/2007 1:03:07 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

And here I thought we were dominating friends.

pssssssst........you might want to fix that spelling before the spelling police........aside from my half ass attempt..........start in.


*headsmacks* Grah I've always had horrible spelling, do forgive. My friends say they know when its me becuase of my spelling. Im fluently spanish and it sometimes can be a hinderance becuase I base spelling on sound alot, not to mention I have a bad knack for not looking back over my messages. But thank you anyhow.


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RE: Dominate Friends. - 5/1/2007 1:08:24 PM   
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Status: offline 		For myself, I try very hard not even to HAVE friends, much less dominate them.

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RE: Dominate Friends. - 5/1/2007 1:12:24 PM   
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ORIGINAL: mstrjx

For myself, I try very hard not even to HAVE friends, much less dominate them.

Jeff


Very intresting, may I ask why? And I in no way mean I want to dominate my friends, if anything Im trying to find equals amoung my Dominate peers. Especially for learning and the usual friendship aspects.


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RE: Dominate Friends. - 5/1/2007 1:17:57 PM   
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Status: offline 		Its time for you to get out of the chats & into the real world because you are getting way too many impressions based on the idiots who's power of dominance is defined by their keyboards.

Take your friend up on their offer to attend a munch & just be yourself. Don't attempt to second guess people as to how they "expect" you to act or attempt to talk, walk, think or anything in a manner that you may think others will anticipate you to behave. Most real people just want people to be their real selves & they will sniff out someone who is giving off false vibes in no time flat.

Be yourself, meet some nice people & have fun.

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RE: Dominant Friends - 5/1/2007 1:23:25 PM   
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Status: offline 		ummmm.... the spelling she was referring to was the one that so many people tend to react to like many do when one runs fingernails down a chalkboard

this will help people understand you better because as you can see... by your title to this thread "Dominate Friends" everyone thinks you are talking about just that.... dominating your friends (an action) not "dominant friends"  which I assume you are looking to meet & form friendships with.

dominate is more of an action... we dominate our submissives

dominant is more of a descriptive word, how we refer to ourselves... we are dominants, as opposed to we are dominates

ok?

I'm no spelling nazi but I will give a person a head's up & yup... there are plenty out there that will write you off just on misusage of this word alone

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RE: Dominate Friends. - 5/1/2007 1:27:45 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MstrssPassion

Its time for you to get out of the chats & into the real world because you are getting way too many impressions based on the idiots who's power of dominance is defined by their keyboards.

Take your friend up on their offer to attend a munch & just be yourself. Don't attempt to second guess people as to how they "expect" you to act or attempt to talk, walk, think or anything in a manner that you may think others will anticipate you to behave. Most real people just want people to be their real selves & they will sniff out someone who is giving off false vibes in no time flat.

Be yourself, meet some nice people & have fun.


Thank you Ma'am, I have been making steps toward meeting peolpe face to face, at the moment I don't have the option but some of my close friends are in the lifestyle so it does help me with being comfortable. But I do agree and am glad for that clarification. I've not really had much in the way of being shy or to worried about what others thing. I will admit I do want to make a good impression but more then that just learn a little protocole, I guess I just like the idea regular behaviors but I think I'll just leave that at the door and do as many have said and be myself.

Ohhhh I see, Dominant, I can see how that can be a bad one, again thank you for pointing it out.


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RE: Dominate Friends. - 5/1/2007 1:36:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't consider DS orientation when I consider someone a friend. I think only of the time I've known them, how I've known them, and the degree to which we each support each other.

That said, if you ever feel like you can't trust another person, that might be a good sign that you aren't friends. I had to learn that the hard way in the local bdsm community that once existed where I am currently.

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RE: Dominate Friends. - 5/1/2007 1:47:51 PM   
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Status: offline 		Hello and welcome to the forums!

I have some male dom friends and some female dom friends. The only people I cannot seem to get along with are the ones who are male or female supremacists. I really cannot tolerate their mindsets, also the conservatively religious usually do not care for me either. But other than that, I usually get along well with most people.

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RE: Dominate Friends. - 5/1/2007 2:07:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		I can seriously understand what you mean about the supremasists. So difficult to get along with, I knew one a few years ago, drove me up the wall. But thank you Lashra.

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RE: Dominate Friends. - 5/1/2007 3:04:27 PM   
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Status: offline 		Naaah, as long as nobody in the group has "Top's Disease" or suffers from the delusion that their sexual orientation makes it okay for them to be an asshat to people who aren't their consenting D/s partners.  I've never had a problem making friends with people of all genders and sexual orientations.

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RE: Dominate Friends. - 5/1/2007 3:17:52 PM   
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Naaah, as long as nobody in the group has "Top's Disease" or suffers from the delusion that their sexual orientation makes it okay for them to be an asshat to people who aren't their consenting D/s partners.  I've never had a problem making friends with people of all genders and sexual orientations.



Ahhh I love your signature! I just got into D&D and some other games through my husband. Great to meet another geeky girl like me around here. I've been attached to my Gameboy DS like a 2n'd limb this week.


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RE: Dominate Friends. - 5/1/2007 3:52:16 PM   
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Ahhh I love your signature! I just got into D&D and some other games through my husband. Great to meet another geeky girl like me around here. I've been attached to my Gameboy DS like a 2n'd limb this week.



Cool beans.  I'm strictly a tabletop, larp and interactive text roleplayer.  Video games don't do much for me unless there's an interactive roleplaying element. 

See, you're making dominant friends already. 

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RE: Dominate Friends. - 5/1/2007 4:03:59 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Action
Ahhh I love your signature! I just got into D&D and some other games through my husband. Great to meet another geeky girl like me around here. I've been attached to my Gameboy DS like a 2n'd limb this week.



Cool beans.  I'm strictly a tabletop, larp and interactive text roleplayer.  Video games don't do much for me unless there's an interactive roleplaying element. 

See, you're making dominant friends already. 



<3 It is fun being on this forum. Ive played a little bit of exualted, Vampire, D&D and my friend is starting a werewolf game I've been invited to. I play a game called Furcadia where I run the biggest group rp in the game, its all text based rp. And I lvoe all kinds of video games as well as tabletop and cards.


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