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Apprenticeship... - 5/2/2007 11:35:27 AM

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I saw a similar thread and as much as I enjoy learning through books, experince and from this site I know I am lacking the real life experince of an older Superior Mistress. I have my husband who has been a long time Dominant but he's very casual and we've never been in a "community" before. Im willing to earn my stripes and having been on this forum only a few forum have seen many friendly Mistresses and belive in a true sisterhood, something I've wanted a long time.

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Im in the process of moving into a house with my husband so it'll be about half a year before I am able to visit and meet. So it would mostly be online corespondence and phone conversations, due to my recent living conditions descretness is a big issue with me (Im staying with family and they mean alot to me, I dont want to know a thing about my private life, very conservative)

If intrested I'll be on this forum reading any replies, I am offering myself as a humble student, but this in no way promotes that I am your slave/sub and will not be a toy but a STUDENT. I will answer all replies and if you don't wish to contact me on the forum Im willing to chat on messengers or through emails/private messages.

Humbly willing to learn,
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RE: Apprenticeship... - 5/2/2007 11:43:49 AM

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I'm going to recommend that you not look to be an apprentice or find a mentor while you can only be online.

I think you'd be wiser to just gather information from as many sources as possible and apply your own reason and empathy to it.

Why?

First, I consider apprenticing to be for activities, to learn a specific thing. For example I have apprenticed to learn: flogging, knife play, rope bondage, mummification, and fire play. I have also taught to an apprentice: knife play and flogging.

Second, I think a mentor may be more what you are looking for. Someone you can talk to and ask questions, someone you can get close to and learn from on an ongoing basis not just about specific activities but to help you figure it all out for yourself. I think you will great difficulty finding a good match if you only do so online.

I've had many people ask me if I would mentor them but frankly I turn them down unless I can meet with them face to face to talk on a regular basis. There is so much more that can be shared when you have body language and voice tone to work with. Plus, I think part of being a mentor is being a friend, a more objective friend than let's say a "best friend" or "buddy" but still I personally need face to face time to feel like a friend with someone.

I'm sorry, Action, I'm sure this is not what you wanted to get back to your inquiry about a very important step you want to take.

As a peace offering or a more helpful tone, I am a book reviewer so if you like, I (and many others I'm sure) would be happy to offer reading suggestions. It can be expensive since most libraries are unlikely to have the books we might suggest.

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RE: Apprenticeship... - 5/2/2007 11:54:18 AM

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Im not at all detered and Im glad you answered like you did. Yes I can see a mentor being more what I want, but also it won't always be soley online. I intend to bond and get mentorship online and of course filly my private library and learn what I can through both that and a mentor, but also when I am capeable I do want to meet face to face so as much as I take your concern I do still have a faith in growing a relationship slowly, not someone who demands face to face and can't understand my current situation but understands I fully intend to meet face to face and am "real".

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RE: Apprenticeship... - 5/2/2007 12:16:57 PM

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TO cut down on emails let me explain our situation...WE will on occasions take on a so called apprentice,this one Will watch and learn until we deem them capable of participation.They are taught the proper use of toys ,why we do things like we do etc and when no means "NO"...WE closed our center do to the work load however we will take on a hard core slave/sub needing to be put in their place..AT the end of summer this one apprentice will have a good working knowledge of the lifestyle and then can determine if the role of Dom/master is for them..Just a way of giving back what other gave me at a very young age...THE world as this ol' master sees it..

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RE: Apprenticeship... - 5/2/2007 12:20:31 PM

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I saw your reply to another similar thread, and even though I couldn't do it this summer if ever you considered doing it again next year I would be first to sign up and hopefully learn from you both. Its a very considerate and I thank you kindly for opening up for an apprentice.

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RE: Apprenticeship... - 5/2/2007 12:26:42 PM

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I"LL certainly keep you in mind smile..bounty

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RE: Apprenticeship... - 5/2/2007 1:13:39 PM

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You're more than welcome to come up and visit sometime for a FAD event (Female Artists of Domination). Also glad to chitchat on the phone. I don't seek a formal teacher-student relationship, or any kind of heirarchy or protocol, but I'm happy to help as I can in the spirit of friendship and fellowship.

I'd beware of "online mentors" who may have motives other than healthy and pure. Meeting people in person is probably a better idea.

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RE: Apprenticeship... - 5/2/2007 3:06:15 PM

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I'm always willing to lend an ear as well, as I stated before!

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RE: Apprenticeship... - 5/3/2007 9:05:59 AM

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Im not at all detered and Im glad you answered like you did. Yes I can see a mentor being more what I want, but also it won't always be soley online. I intend to bond and get mentorship online and of course filly my private library and learn what I can through both that and a mentor, but also when I am capeable I do want to meet face to face so as much as I take your concern I do still have a faith in growing a relationship slowly, not someone who demands face to face and can't understand my current situation but understands I fully intend to meet face to face and am "real".

I have a pretty big library here at home and I've reviewed over 200 books so far about BDSM and human sexuality. If you want any opinions about reading materials, let me know in an email. I'll probably ask a few questions (like I would if someone came to the bookstore) so I can better recommend something.

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