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ORIGINAL: SirDominic

agirl,
It's not that the word "love" is overused so much as that in English those four little letters are supposed to mean so many different meanings. There are other languages who are much more sensible about this, having different words for many different kinds of love.

Since we are stuck with one word, it is important that when you tell someone you love them, you back that up with some description of what that means to you.

Otherwise I am with the group that feels one should say it if one feels it. If the worst results and that sentiment is not returned, that does not cheapen your love at all. And really, isn't it better to know sooner rather than waiting years before finding out the other is never going to love you in return?

Finally, a Dominant who knows their stuff often knows how their sub feels before the sub ever admits it to them, and possibly even before they admit it to themselves. If one does admit to love and the Dominant is surprised, that would be a concern for me; they are not focused on you as they should be.

Not that every fetish relationship has to have love involved, but from reading these forums and talking to a lot of people, most seem to want and need love to be part of their relationship.

Namaste, Sir Dominic