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ORIGINAL: spanklette
So, do you really get your Dominant involved in internet conflicts or do you handle them yourself?
Hey Spanklette - good question.  i have a bit of a twist on this situation.  i don't get Master "involved" in them, though W/we do talk about them and usually laugh about them.  However, one particular psycho who, really for indecipherable reasons has decided i'm a horrible individual, actually messaged Him with a long-winded, rambling rant about how He owns the worst slave ever.  After telling him how i should be ashamed of myself (apparently for disagreeing with her and some of the other posters she idolizes?), she described her heart problems and indicated that i somehow exacerbated them by posting something she didn't like[image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m20.gif[/image]!  She went on to provide him a laundry list of nasty things that i am, including "bratty."  This really broke Him up because i may be alot of things, but a "brat" i ain't[8D].  It would have been a bit scary if it wasn't so funny and pathetic. 
 
She is unowned, doesn't seem to really grasp too many of the concepts of bdsm, and certainly has no understanding of etiquette as far as contacting another slave's master and blasting His slave.  So - this presented both of U/us with the question of how to respond to this.  i didn't get Him involved - this stranger with an axe to grind did.  He didn't take her seriously for one second as He knows me inside and out but it did thoroughly piss Him off that she would have the nerve to not only publicly insult me for no reason but then to contact Him and blame all her behavior on me.  W/we don't have drama and chaos in O/our lives and her sad little attempt to interject some did not amuse Him.  So, this is an instance of a slave not getting her Master involved to "defend" her but a stranger trying to bring Him into it.  There is a major difference there, don't you think Spanklette?    luci 

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ORIGINAL: slaveluci

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ORIGINAL: spanklette
So, do you really get your Dominant involved in internet conflicts or do you handle them yourself?
Hey Spanklette - good question.  i have a bit of a twist on this situation.  i don't get Master "involved" in them, though W/we do talk about them and usually laugh about them.  However, one particular psycho who, really for indecipherable reasons has decided i'm a horrible individual, actually messaged Him with a long-winded, rambling rant about how He owns the worst slave ever.  After telling him how i should be ashamed of myself (apparently for disagreeing with her and some of the other posters she idolizes?), she described her heart problems and indicated that i somehow exacerbated them by posting something she didn't like[image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m20.gif[/image]!  She went on to provide him a laundry list of nasty things that i am, including "bratty."  This really broke Him up because i may be alot of things, but a "brat" i ain't[8D].  It would have been a bit scary if it wasn't so funny and pathetic. 
 
She is unowned, doesn't seem to really grasp too many of the concepts of bdsm, and certainly has no understanding of etiquette as far as contacting another slave's master and blasting His slave.  So - this presented both of U/us with the question of how to respond to this.  i didn't get Him involved - this stranger with an axe to grind did.  He didn't take her seriously for one second as He knows me inside and out but it did thoroughly piss Him off that she would have the nerve to not only publicly insult me for no reason but then to contact Him and blame all her behavior on me.  W/we don't have drama and chaos in O/our lives and her sad little attempt to interject some did not amuse Him.  So, this is an instance of a slave not getting her Master involved to "defend" her but a stranger trying to bring Him into it.  There is a major difference there, don't you think Spanklette?    luci 

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ORIGINAL: simplyangelic1
I think I know who you are referring to luci and the best way to respond to her is not to respond.  She's looking for validation and if you two just ignore her that will drive home the point that you and your Master don't really give a shit what she thinks or says.  If she sent the email via CM she knows that your Master read it and doesn't give it any weight.
Thank you.  After the initial shock of how much gall she has wore off, that's exactly what i asked Master to think about - just NOT responding.  He brought up the same point about her seeing that He'd read it and not responding but it really irked Him that she'd even have the nerve to contact Him with such nonsense.  As i said, i certainly don't bring any of the "drama" from the forums to Him and for her to have the nerve to do so and lie about me in the process just floored us for a minute.  Then, W/we realized how pathetic the whole thing is and had a good laugh[:)].  Thanks for responding..........luci

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania
Some people need meds sweety, they cannot help themselves. I am being serious here, you should only worry if this person lives close by you because it sounds as though she is not completely rooted in reality.
julia,
Thank you.  i think you're absolutely right.  There are people out there - online and in r/t - who just aren't in touch with reality.  She is definitely well within that category.  i don't know where she lives but hopefully she doesn't know where W/we do[image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m28.gif[/image]......luci

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ORIGINAL: shyinini

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ORIGINAL: MasterGremlin

I have known Dominants online who insisted on knowing and being involved in any problems, disagreements, drama etc  that their subs were involved in for a couple reasons.  One was that they so totally owned their sub that they also owned their actions.  They would speak to who ever the other party was and either make it clear where the proverbial line was, or make any sort of amends that were necessary.  It also gave them the chance to take corrective action with their subs if necessary, and even administer punishment. 

Just a matter of how two (or more) people negotiate a relationship. 

Sincerely,
minxy [:)]

minxy~  Thank you for sharing this.
Even after we talked about it, I still didnt seem to comprehend, altho I understood; but now the light bulb goes on.
There was a situation ( real childish psycho drama) surrounding an exfuck toy and my Sir. I heard about it, was questioned on how the fucker got his number. I had NO clue !  Sir believed me.  
He did however give me corrective discipline ~ that no longer would my cell be out of my presence...ever !!  [:)] 
I get it!  Thank you for posting this.
 
OK back to the scheduled programming [8D]

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ORIGINAL: spanklette

Here's the thing, though, I try to keep Him away from any of the crap that comes along with being on the internet, because He has His own account and has His own set of drivel to deal with.

Besides, there's a feeling of impotence that comes along with arguing with someone who won't listen or is just intent on being a jerk. I prefer to hit the block button and keep Him from dealing with anything that would bring Him any negative, well, any negative vibes
Spanklette,
i couldn't agree more.  This is what made the whole situation so bizarre.  i absolutely go out of my way to keep such "drama" and negativity out of His head and then she circumvented me, basically, and went directly to Him and laid the garbage in His lap.  That, more than anything, is what made the entire incident so frustrating....luci

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ORIGINAL: cjenny
So many do run things by their dominant, so I asked mine this morning.
He laughed [:D] and said if I can't handle the idiots online he has an awful lot to work on with me
Exactly, same here.  It would make me seem pretty helpless if i couldn't handle a stranger on a forum.  i read what i thought was a great quote once on another site.  There was a discussion about whether or not a master should want his slave to be "helpless."  One master replied that, for him, he didn't want his property "helpless" in any situation she may find herself in, but rather only "helpless in the face of" His desires and wishes.  i thought that was great and would have to say that's how O/our relationship is structured.  Helpless in the face of some stooge online?  Never [:D].......luci

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross
What would they do if their doms were unavailable and the ones around were themselves and this one dork asshole?
That's what i've always wondered.  If i'm not able or permitted to "handle myself" when Master isn't around, i'd feel pretty helpless and weak.  That's not what i am or what He wants me to be.....luci