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Deaf culture? - 5/4/2007 5:02:30 AM

ChainedAngel

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im not sure how to start this tread... but i did the search of deaf culture on CM.. and only found fews.. i was trying to find if there's any of hearing impaired sub/slave or Dom/Me thats are in the lifestyle or whatnot.. i have been in the lifestyle and HAD a Master for 5 years. i am also trying to get into deaf culture since my parents never really intro me to it. i did went to hearing public school but in deaf's classes. when i first found out about the BDSM lifestyles.. i thought no way i can possible be in it.. but i was wrong.. i really did enjoyed those 5 yrs i had with my Master.. but its was a " mismatch ".. the communation was sucky..and its failed.. and i dont want to make the same mistakes again. but we all learn something from the mistakes right ?

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RE: Deaf culture? - 5/4/2007 5:05:27 AM

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There are actually more than you probably realize It just makes communication all that more important on both sides to make it work.

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RE: Deaf culture? - 5/4/2007 6:10:19 AM

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Hopefully we do angel

As long as you have a means to communicate, as you certainly do as you are here and communicating quite well, then you should be able to find a partner. As far as others in the lifestyle that are hearing impaired, i suppose there probably are, the only way to find out is to either make it a part of your profile for others to contact you if they are hearing impaired or to go to groups where you can find out for yourself by asking others.

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RE: Deaf culture? - 5/4/2007 7:22:55 AM

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I'm afraid I don't know much about your particular area, but there are a lot of great kink deaf groups, definitely in MD it's a very large and respected presence in the overall community.

I'd say start going to the non deaf related events in your area and ask around there, some people should have connections if they exist.

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RE: Deaf culture? - 5/4/2007 8:27:46 AM

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i can relate my personal experience on this.

about 10 years ago i was in a car accident that left me completely deaf for about a year. i am still a little hearing impaired but by no means deaf.

during that year, i still was able to enjoy being an active submissive. i had to learn to be understanding of others, some of who could not handle being emotionally close to a hearing impaired person. i also had to learn the difference between someone who truly was interested in ME, and someone who was simply wanting to find out what it would be like to play with someone with a disability.   it was almost like some folks were star struck.  " i play with this sub and she's deaf" somehow this gave them a sense of kink and/or power, not as a Dominant but as a user.

thankfully, those types of users were few in number.

i found that making people aware right up front was the quickest way to not only weed out those who couldnt handle it, but also save me from the hurt that is sometimes inevitable.   i pretty much MADE them figure out their ability to accept me or not right away.

i'm pleased to say that i made many friends during that time, and they are still friends today. there ARE good people out there, and , they outnumber the users.   your value as a submissive or human being is not in any way deminished simply because you dont hear.

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RE: Deaf culture? - 5/4/2007 8:37:51 AM

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I had an ex who was hearing impaired but he wasn't a dom so I doubt he would appreciate me passing his name on to you

It might give him a heart attack. All the best.

Here are some past threads-
http://www.collarchat.com/m_681279/mpage_1/key_deaf%252Cdom/tm.htm#681279

http://www.collarchat.com/m_428530/mpage_1/key_deaf%252Cdom/tm.htm#428530

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RE: Deaf culture? - 5/4/2007 2:39:01 PM

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I am going to give you my personal opinion of deaf culture, so if it pisses anyone off, i'll say sorry now, k?

I think your parents did well if they kept you involved in the "normal" community, rather than isolating you in the deaf comunity. I work with alot of dead people who may or may not have other disabilities. My one deaf staff member is the most well adjusted deaf person i have ever met and he HATES deaf culture. He sees it as limiting and i have to agree with him. We have tried to find work for people who went to deaf schools where they taught them that "deaf speak" was ok for writing. Which is fine until they try to get a regular job and have no grammar skills so they can't get hired.

I'm not saying you shouldn't seek out deaf/hearing impaired people in the lifestyle or out, but give the rest of us a chance too and you'll have alot more opportunities i think. I do sign ASL somewhat (better receptive than expressive skills, as with all foreign languages for me), but i don't think it would be necessary to interact properly.

Best of luck!

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RE: Deaf culture? - 5/4/2007 8:14:56 PM

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I've met a couple of kinky people from Gallaudet, but I don't know if they had an organized group or not. But there is a very large deaf community in the DC area, so I wouldn't be surprised. Good luck with your search!

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RE: Deaf culture? - 5/5/2007 7:12:37 AM

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Chained Angel:

Greetings to you, and I wish you well.
Two years ago, I had a viral infection. It took my hearing. I lost everything including my job, my home, etc.
It has come back for the most part. Now I am 40 percent hearing impaired and wear a small hearing aide.
If you would like to talk, I would be happy to talk with you. Just drop me an email on Collarme and tell me who you are.
I am working again, but not doing what I was trained to do. I cannot be a dispatcher for obvious reasons.
I find the community as a whole does not discriminate against hearting impared folks. I am treated the same in real time and online.

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RE: Deaf culture? - 5/5/2007 8:35:54 AM

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It's not uncommon for the national level Ms events to have interpreters, especially on stage. It's fun to watch them sign "dirty" words. *chuckle*

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RE: Deaf culture? - 5/5/2007 8:55:46 AM

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ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

It's not uncommon for the national level Ms events to have interpreters, especially on stage. It's fun to watch them sign "dirty" words. *chuckle*

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One of my UMs took sign language in high school. Some of the first words she learned were the "dirty" ones, mostly because it's so easy when someone is learning sign to flub a regular word and insert a dirty one instead. For a while I knew quite a few dirty words in sign. Made for some interesting conversations at work.

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