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Do you withhold giving pleasure? - 5/4/2007 8:43:23 AM   
mistoferin


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Dominants, do you withhold giving pleasure or granting "wants" to your sub/slave out of a fear that it will dilute your Dominance or lessen your degree of control?

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RE: Do you withhold giving pleasure? - 5/4/2007 8:46:19 AM   
MrDiscipline44


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Status: offline 		No, I do it because emotional sadism is a fetish of mine.

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RE: Do you withhold giving pleasure? - 5/4/2007 8:52:46 AM   
daddysliloneds


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Status: offline 		ah, been reading the 'ask a master' forum have you? ha, ha, ha.

i posted to that one!


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RE: Do you withhold giving pleasure? - 5/4/2007 9:07:30 AM   
szobras


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Status: offline 		No. Witholding or Granting, it is still my decision. I believe both are have thier own place in maintaining control, and I do not find where a balance of discipline and generosity lessen Dominance.

< Message edited by szobras -- 5/4/2007 9:20:57 AM >

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RE: Do you withhold giving pleasure? - 5/4/2007 9:20:41 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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ORIGINAL: mistoferin
Dominants, do you withhold giving pleasure or granting "wants" to your sub/slave out of a fear that it will dilute your Dominance or lessen your degree of control?

Nope- that would mean that fear was controlling what I chose to do.  I won't let my insecurities allow me to not hold up to who I am (well I try at least).

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RE: Do you withhold giving pleasure? - 5/4/2007 9:27:44 AM   
PONYSEEKER


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Status: offline 		No, I do for other reasons though

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RE: Do you withhold giving pleasure? - 5/4/2007 9:51:48 AM   
TigressFL


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Status: offline 		No, I do it for two primary reasons...

A. I enjoy messing with their head
B. It is another reminder of their place



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RE: Do you withhold giving pleasure? - 5/4/2007 10:47:49 AM   
happypervert


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Status: offline 		I prefer to usually grant wants or give pleasure and then at other times take them away as exercises in control.

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RE: Do you withhold giving pleasure? - 5/6/2007 1:12:12 AM   
jaunty1


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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

Another thread spurred this question.

Dominants, do you withhold giving pleasure or granting "wants" to your sub/slave out of a fear that it will dilute your Dominance or lessen your degree of control?

Out of fear? No
 
Because I can? Yes
 
Because I am a sadistic bastard who likes to see her struggle with things like this? Hell yes.
 
Live well
 
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RE: Do you withhold giving pleasure? - 5/6/2007 5:51:53 AM   
mstrjx


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Status: offline 		If anything, I withhold 'receiving' pleasure, for the reasons why others would withhold 'giving' pleasure.

A submissive is geared towards giving of themselves.  Taking away, even momentarily, that outlet is more frustrating than having something taken away from them directly.

To me, giving pleasure is the trigger of the submissive wanting to give everything of themself.  I wouldn't slow that impulse for anything.

Jeff

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RE: Do you withhold giving pleasure? - 5/6/2007 6:01:30 AM   
canupleaseme


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Status: offline 		Ive never witheld pleasure because I fear the reprocutions.  I with hold it to excersise my control and if I think he doesn't need or deserve the pleasure in question.


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