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Irony - 5/6/2005 2:11:54 AM   
FelinePersuasion


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Status: offline 		You know. I bet if I had posted I'm not looking I would have tons of email flocking to me everyday , as it seems that way mostly when ya say taken, not interested, or not looking:))
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RE: Irony - 5/6/2005 4:52:16 AM   
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You know. I bet if I had posted I'm not looking I would have tons of email flocking to me everyday , as it seems that way mostly when ya say taken, not interested, or not looking:))


But think of the kind of person that would approach a woman who was taken and try to lure her to him/her... do you really want to date this person?

Patience, is a virtue.

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RE: Irony - 5/6/2005 5:45:48 AM   
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Status: offline 		your profile indcates switch dont know to me dom or dome that want switch u might redo that and explain u are only a switch with ur boy friend

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RE: Irony - 5/8/2005 12:56:13 AM   
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Status: offline 		Yup lady A patience is a virtue, I was just musing you know.



I'm a switch with every one, not just my mate. It's who I am not what I do. untill certain people have earned the trust submission requires I don't submit to anyone. It takes a mighty special person and it's been years since I've seen someone I wanted to submit to. He of course had hangups about letting me know he liked me the same way back so nothing ever came of it lol.

Switches, subcharmed, Are capable of being both Dominant and submissive, given which ever situation and current event is right for them. I'm very outgoing and agressive* usualy* and I enjoy finding sub or bottom minded people for potential play partie guests and other activities where it's suitable to need a bottom.

There's also other times I am the one in need so the action is done to me. I like my headspace when the endorphines are flying and I go to my happy space. Comeing out of it is a bitch tho cause the drop back to normal can be hard..

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RE: Irony - 5/8/2005 10:45:14 AM   
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your profile indcates switch dont know to me dom or dome that want switch u might redo that and explain u are only a switch with ur boy friend


Must say, I disagree. Both that she should say she's soemthing she isn't and that people won't consider switches.

I know plenty of people (tops, bottoms, and switches) that think switches are pretty nifty.

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RE: Irony - 5/8/2005 11:58:58 AM   
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Status: offline 		Switches do not do a thing for Me on a serious relationship level, but that really does not mean much. The next person will think they are the bees knees. That said, the thing with saying that you are married or attached means that you are a challenge. Many people like the challenge. It is not necessarily that they want you. They just want to achieve the feat of wrenching you from the grasp of someone else. Conquer their personal Mount Everest so to speak. It is a trip. A boost to their ever so pathetic and frail egos.

When you are single too long there is usually a reason for it. The longer you remain single, the less desirable you become to a suitor. It is a wierd thing, but it is true. They figure there must be something wrong with you or something. That you have personal or interpersonal issues. The more desperate you become, the more you push away possible suitors.

I see this kind of thing happen all the time in My chatroom. It is an ongoing game. I have even seen the desperate trying to pick up My girlfriend, even though I own the room and everyone knows she is with Me. They just think I do not know, but I see all.

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RE: Irony - 5/8/2005 12:05:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		Sk nobody is going to be "wrenching me away" I'm quite firmly and whole heartedly commited to my current mate of 2 years and 3 years friends, If I should choose any one to be a dominant or heaven forbid I took on a submissive* grins they's hard work ya know* They'd take both of us. Or leave, simple as that. Nobody who deems it their goal to get me to leave my mate has ever been welcome past that knowlege comeing to light. I've already sent two potentials away because they had ultierior motives.


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RE: Irony - 5/8/2005 12:14:15 PM   
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When you are single too long there is usually a reason for it. The longer you remain single, the less desirable you become to a suitor.


Does it work the other way too though? Like, a person who's hardly ever single for more than a few months at a time, wouldn't that eventually be off-putting as well?

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RE: Irony - 5/8/2005 12:22:28 PM   
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Does it work the other way too though? Like, a person who's hardly ever single for more than a few months at a time, wouldn't that eventually be off-putting as well?


It is for us (we are also cautious with those who have just come out of an extended relationship - anything over 6 months that they have been out of for less than 2 months)... Too much potential baggage. We don't dismiss them out of hand, but we do take it WAY slower with them than we do with others. The only time that I see someone being single for a long time as a red flag is when they have NEVER had a serious relationship (i.e. over 3 months long) and they are over 25.

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RE: Irony - 5/8/2005 12:26:50 PM   
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ORIGINAL: FelinePersuasion

Sk nobody is going to be "wrenching me away" I'm quite firmly and whole heartedly commited to my current mate of 2 years and 3 years friends, If I should choose any one to be a dominant or heaven forbid I took on a submissive* grins they's hard work ya know* They'd take both of us. Or leave, simple as that. Nobody who deems it their goal to get me to leave my mate has ever been welcome past that knowlege comeing to light. I've already sent two potentials away because they had ultierior motives.




We have had potentials like that too. Somehow they get the idea that they can "cure" us of being lesbians (even though we are actually bi, but whatever). I would say that at least 1/4 of the ones that we have talked to have had the idea that eventually, Holly and I would break up and he would get to stay with the one that he liked better *rolls eyes* As soon as we found that out, they were gone.

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RE: Irony - 5/8/2005 12:30:04 PM   
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ORIGINAL: BobcatsLilMinx

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When you are single too long there is usually a reason for it. The longer you remain single, the less desirable you become to a suitor.


Does it work the other way too though? Like, a person who's hardly ever single for more than a few months at a time, wouldn't that eventually be off-putting as well?


I do not think so. In fact, allow Me to share My own experience. I have never been single for more than a month or two in the last fifteen years. No sooner do I break up with one (or vice versa) and there is another one to take their place. This last time there were several that were waiting "in line" (ugh, forgive My poor terminology) and were very disappointed when I Veronica beat them to the punch.

So, as far as My own experience goes, I can not say that it has mirrored what you are suggesting. I am not saying, however that it is not that way with others or that some potential suitors are in fact put off by that. However, if you are in that position, you do not have to worry about whether this or that person is put out by it, as there is always another to take their place.

Know what I mean?

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RE: Irony - 5/8/2005 12:32:22 PM   
SirKenin


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ORIGINAL: FelinePersuasion

Sk nobody is going to be "wrenching me away" I'm quite firmly and whole heartedly commited to my current mate of 2 years and 3 years friends, If I should choose any one to be a dominant or heaven forbid I took on a submissive* grins they's hard work ya know* They'd take both of us. Or leave, simple as that. Nobody who deems it their goal to get me to leave my mate has ever been welcome past that knowlege comeing to light. I've already sent two potentials away because they had ultierior motives.




I hear you and not for one moment am I suggesting that they have a chance with you. I merely tried to explain what goes on in these people's minds. For the last two years I have witnessed it first hand, so I thought that it might help in shedding some light on your musings.

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RE: Irony - 5/8/2005 12:38:10 PM   
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Status: offline 		Ok, I just haven't been single much at all in the past 3 years (which feels a lot when you're only 19, but not so much when someone then turns around and says the same thing, but replaces that measly lil 3 with 15!!), and was beginning to worry how that looks...

I find it interesting that I got two different replies to the same question - one yay, one nay - notes the gender difference too, and feels the psychology student racing around inside, ponders starting a poll about it...

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RE: Irony - 5/8/2005 12:43:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		Heh, I just assume (especially if they are in this lifestyle) that they are picky - and I like that quality. We don't want someone who would submit to just anyone, we want someone who choses to submit to us. Because of the difference in availablilty between male subs and FemDom, we see a male sub who has never been without a partner as someone who has few to no standards (there are exceptions to every rule - so if you are a male sub who has never been without a partner for long, but has high standards, don't take offense, because I'm not talking about you).

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RE: Irony - 5/8/2005 12:46:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		I do not see why you can not have high standards and still never have to go without a partner for more than a short period of time. I have made a few bad choices, I freely admit that (ugh), but when you have your choice of potential partners you can get to know them all and pick the one you like. I am hoping that I made the right choice this time around. So far I believe I have.

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RE: Irony - 5/8/2005 1:06:10 PM   
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Sweet, these guys I turned away were not suitable in the fact they said yeah sure ok I'll talk the talk but don't walk the walk.

One was perfectly ok with me having a mate was gonna be my dom, and when it came out that he had herpies, and I said ok we won't be having sex anyway, Turns out he was expecting me to like him sooooooo much after the first meeting I'd dump joe and be his girl, so we could have relations as well as bdsm.



Iwould be put off by someone who jumped from lationship to lationship. It says to me the girls do not mean that much to them or he's or she's trying to excape or out run something.

My x is a wonderfull example. His X finace did a royal mind fuck on him tore him up he didn't deal with it and when we became an item she did everything in her powers to hurt him and confuse him forcing herself back into his life. They worked for the same w*oman for renisaunce fair booths. Well he let it get to him an it distroyed the us, he kept saying he didn't have time or the energy right now to deal witha relationship he needed space blaaaaaaaah blah blah. All the while spending all his time talking to my supposed best friend and devoting all his attention to her. we had an agreement you have 5 months to get it together or I will leave, I finally left his lame ass. 5 days till our 5 month anniversary. He was still ignoreing me treating me shabilly and spending all his time on My "best friend" Even was lying to me saying he was going for walks to clear his head he needed ot get away, and was going to her place all night.


A week later she and he come on her saying sis, I am dating him I didn;t mean it to happen. it just did


BULL SHIT IT JUST DID. they planned it. He'd been flirting with her and doting on her for weeks, and she was fully aware she was driving a wedge between N and I.


If you can jump right into another womans or mans waiting arms w/ith in weeks of breaking up, Then the next woman probably doesn't mean much to you.



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RE: Irony - 5/8/2005 2:37:40 PM   
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ORIGINAL: SirKenin

I do not see why you can not have high standards and still never have to go without a partner for more than a short period of time. I have made a few bad choices, I freely admit that (ugh), but when you have your choice of potential partners you can get to know them all and pick the one you like. I am hoping that I made the right choice this time around. So far I believe I have.


Keep in mind that I was specifying male subs - as you are not a male sub, that does not apply to you so if you take offence that is your problem.

To make my point a bit clearer: There are so many more male subs than FemDoms that a male sub who is never without a partner for very long is suspect to us. It is incredibly difficult for a male sub to find a FemDom that is compatable enough for a real relationship (ask around, the male subs will tell you that it's true) so the situation of jumping from one relationship to another just screams of no standards and/or total player/faker/wannabe.

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RE: Irony - 5/8/2005 2:39:29 PM   
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Status: offline 		Blah, I hate people like that - we've had multiples who have thought something similar to your 'herpes dom' ... although with us, they thought that we would dump our boys for them, not that we would leave each other for them. People just suck.

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RE: Irony - 5/8/2005 5:24:57 PM   
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ORIGINAL: SweetDommesKeep in mind that I was specifying male subs - as you are not a male sub, that does not apply to you so if you take offence that is your problem.



Oh no, I took no offence at all. I just thought I would give it to you from My perspective. I am not sure how pertinent it is to a male sub's perspective.

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RE: Irony - 5/8/2005 5:28:36 PM   
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