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Dusty15 -> Meeting someone (5/6/2007 7:22:11 AM)

I have been talking to a Mistress on Collarme and we have a lot in common and she gives me the feeling that I am looking for but what I would like to know how do i get her to sit down and meet me in person




shyinini -> RE: Meeting someone (5/6/2007 7:25:05 AM)

just as her respectfully~~ would you like to meet me?  i would like to meet you.

Be prepared for no.




BeachMystress -> RE: Meeting someone (5/6/2007 8:02:01 AM)

Ask if she'd like to have dinner, lunch, coffee .. her choice, with you. Let her know that you find her to be a fascinating person and would like to get to know her a little better. While I've always preferred to be in charge of setting dates with submissives, many of my Domme friends still wish the guy to pursue them. If she says no.. do you still want to continue to be her friend and keep chatting via emails? If so, let her know that too. It is nice to be valued for more than just our Dominance.




Dusty15 -> RE: Meeting someone (5/6/2007 10:02:58 AM)

Well we are talking and will let you know that I have been hurt but a Mistress before but she gives me that feeling again




pixelslave -> RE: Meeting someone (5/6/2007 11:14:55 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Dusty15

Well we are talking and will let you know that I have been hurt but a Mistress before but she gives me that feeling again


We've all been hurt at various times in our lives.  At some point, you've got to 'dust yourself off and get back on the horse again" so to speak.  Just be honest with the woman you're in contact with, as hopefully she is doing the same with you.  She may be sensing your vulnerability from the past experience with a Mistress and waiting for you to give her a stronger signal that you've moved byond that before making any moves. [&:]
 
Asking her if she'd like to meet for coffee or tea at a modest restaurant would be a good way of showing her that you're reached that point.  The coffee or tea idea can be a good alternative to use as opposed to lunch or dinner.  That way, if there's a lot of discomfort or absolutely no chemistry, neither has to stay as long as they would if there's a meal being served.  However, if things are going well, you can always suggest that since you're there and having such an ejoyable time, the two of you have a meal together.  There are many alternatives and lots of flexibility.  Be sure to pick someplace very public where she'll feel safe, yet private or secluded enough that the two of you can talk without everyone in the place hearing every word of your conversation. [:D]
 
I speak from experience and met my Mistress on CM.  Our first time meeting each other was lunch at a restaurant.  Go for it, you've nothing to lose by asking. [;)]
 
 - pixel




Kitte9 -> RE: Meeting someone (5/6/2007 1:41:54 PM)

By all means ask...and give me all the dastardly details later




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