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soultoshare -> RE: Advice on Michigan DUI (5/7/2007 8:41:30 AM)
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jenny, one SMALL detail you might want to impress upon your ex.....if' he gets stopped again for drunk driving, IT WILL BE A FELONY! And i'm sorry, if they do it once, they will do it again......and while i'm not up on michigan law, i do know illinois law, and if he gets stopped for DUI anytime within a time period, it will become a felony charge. In illinois, it's within a 10 year peiod, it's probably pretty similar to MI laws.
Trampler hit it on the head, hun....stop bailing him out! He's an adult, and it's time for him to take some sort of responsibility for his actions....he's lucky he DIDN'T injure or kill someone...I've had to clean up the aftermath too many times in my past to have any pity for anyone who gets caught driving while drunk. My ex is an alcoholic, so i know all about alcohol and it's cost to a family. Yes, it was hard to walk away from the marriage, and him, but it had to be done in order for me to keep my sanity.....i lost too much sleep worrying about whether or not he'd make it home. I had a child to think about, and at that point in our marriage, my ex just didn't want the responsibility of a wife and child. We are friends now, and all worked out for the best, he no longer drinks, has a life w/awife and 2 more boys, but even now he drills it into ALL of the boys heads NOT to drink and drive. It worked, because my son may drink, but he won't drive. So I can understand how you're torn about helping him out, but you have to quit sometime.
The least he can expect is loss of his license for probably 6 months, the loss of BIG BUCKS for fines and costs, and community service. Tell him to ask for a provisional license, that will enable him to drive to work, the doc's, any alcohol counseling that he chooses to get, or is orderd to attend. God save him if he gets drunk on a priviisional license, tho. In New Yourk, they have what's called a weekender program for DUI, the person serves his time on weekends....it enables the person to keep their jobs, stay at home during the week, and stay w/family. Maybe Michigan has some sort of program like that. Unfortuantely, most courts/states are making serious examples out of DUI drivers, hopefully he'll get a judge in a good mood. But DON'T take on his guilt, OK? I know how tough it is, but sometimes the only way they grow up is to be tossed into the deep end and forced to swim. Jails have suicide watches, if they get any inkling that he may hurt himself, they will handle it. And as it's been said before, tell him to get a public defender....NOW!!! Even an overworked attorney is better than on attorney at all!
Good luck, hun......take care.
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