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Aswad -> RE: Micro Management, what does it mean to you? (5/8/2007 6:47:50 AM)
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ORIGINAL: WhiplashSmile
Thank you, I don't feel so alone in defending the use of Micromanagement for these very reasons. I am suprised at the number of people opposed using it entirely. As if micromanagement has no use or value or merits whatsoever. It's a dirty swear word in many peoples book, but come on here...
I think you'll find the word means different things to different people, and that some of those who are opposed to it (in the sense of the word you and sublimelysensual use) are looking for a different kind of D/s dynamic.
For me, what you are describing is not something I'd necessarily call micromanagement. Perhaps that's just me putting too much emphasis on "micro".
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there has to be Dom/mes that use it as part of training or teaching process at times. [paste] In the end it saves times and clears up misunderstandings or confusion. Micromanagement is a wonderful core building block tool with value.
Certainly, in that sense of the word, for those goals. Although in my case, me and neph started out vanilla, so we have had years of getting to know each other in detail already.
If I were to take on another slave in the household, I would imprint my preferences in order of priority, whether by explaining them or by the use of conditioning, until said slave had internalized or habituated my preferences.
This might extend to a preference for a certain informal dress code, or a dislike of certain colours or articles of clothing, for instance, which I would not consider to be micromanagement, although whether I'd insist on it would depend on the particulars of the arrangement. What I would not want to do, however, is pick their clothing for them every time they're getting dressed, even if I would tell them to dress a specific way for a specific occasion if there was a reason to do so.
Similarly, if I tell one to do the dishes (the meal itself is out of the question; I love cooking and the kitchen is mine, all mine, bwahahaha), I would just expect the dishes to get done, I wouldn't tell one to do them in a specific order, or check up on one while working, although I'd certainly teach one to do it properly if the skills were lacking or the standard inadequate.
Also, while I get the idea of some people considering some things, like asking to go to the bathroom, a matter of protocol, it's not a protocol that would work for me, and not something I'd want to manage. If they need to go, they go, unless I tell them otherwise. I don't need to be bothered with it, and would quickly go insane if constantly pestered with trivial questions.
I guess you could say micromanagement, in the sense I mostly use the word, is one extreme of the role of a sub/slave in the dynamic along a certain spectrum/axis. On one extreme end of the spectrum is the fundamentalist Islamic "ideal" role, translated thus: the duties of the slave are "magically" carried out without being perceived or acknowledged, and the slave should only be noticed insofar as it is being actively used for something that involves interaction. I use the word micromanagement to denote the diametric opposite of this.
I think others may be using the word in the same sense, and I think it might then be more apparent why this is a "bad word" in some people's books.
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