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Travelino -> RE: What do you look for in a sub's age? (5/9/2007 7:10:34 PM)
/me looks around at all the females with whips in their hands...what da.....? /me looks at where this post was located........... Ask a Mistress .......AAACK! My apologies to anyone I offended with my presence. I had no right to post in this tread. /me looks for the nearest exit and respectfully takes His leave ........... to find the Little Dom's Forum.....

LadyPact -> RE: What do you look for in a sub's age? (5/9/2007 7:22:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Travelino /me looks around at all the females with whips in their hands...what da.....? /me looks at where this post was located........... Ask a Mistress .......AAACK! My apologies to anyone I offended with my presence. I had no right to post in this tread. /me looks for the nearest exit and respectfully takes His leave ........... to find the Little Dom's Forum..... You didn't offend. I just wanted to see if I could get your comments to fit where W/we wouldn't have to adjust the screen. Feel welcome anytime.

Travelino -> RE: What do you look for in a sub's age? (5/9/2007 9:11:18 PM)
Dangit!! Caint win fer losin'!!! ....lol. I usually type out what I have to say in notpad, then C/p it into the lil window. I must have had notepad a little tooOo wide, and no way to edit, as far as I can see. Once again, apologies 2X........lol. Thanks, LadyPact. :-) Travelino. ~~ edited to say "hmmmm, I guess you can edit the posts!!!. Must be on a timer of sorts." Back to you regular scheduled posting...

LadyPact -> RE: What do you look for in a sub's age? (5/9/2007 9:19:48 PM)
You are quite welcome. No problem at all.

Trampler -> RE: What do you look for in a sub's age? (5/10/2007 6:16:07 AM)
hehehe. Interesting thought. Dating wise I prefer guys as close to my age as possible, though have dated guys 8 years older then me. But sub-wise I am more lenient in the 26-42 age range, though would possibly accept younger if his/her replies to questions and overall demeanor seems mature. And also considering a man that is 45. And of course if I feel there is alot of chemistry, (not just sexual, then I would be inclined to have him/her as my bf/gf, to introduce to my family and non-lifestyle friends.) I am also looking for a Mistress for myself, looking in the 30-43 age range, though hopefully not with a husband that she would be inclined to want me to sleep with.

Einzelganger -> RE: What do you look for in a sub's age? (5/11/2007 2:25:19 PM)
Thanks for the reply, Travelino...great post. smiles I specifically have to point out a specific part of your post: "I, myself, am looking for a longer-term relationship and currently feel that basing a relationship on "playtime" is somewhat fruitless and a guaranteed dead end." - Bravo! I wish more felt this way. It seems as though everyone wants to market their bedroom/play skills before they market themselves as a person these days. While that's certainly going to be an important part of the equation, a relationship isn't a 24/7/365 play session. Just my $0.02... -Einzelgänger

rick19 -> RE: What do you look for in a sub's age? (5/11/2007 9:30:25 PM)
It seems like all the women in my age group just want money. And of course, no older women are interested in guys my age :(

Vendaval -> RE: What do you look for in a sub's age? (5/12/2007 12:00:33 AM)
Greetings EG and welcome to the boards, I have a pretty wide age range, anywhere from 21 - 60 is fine with me. Mental and emotional maturity are high on the list along with compatable interests, values and sense of humor. Try looking for a Next Generation group in your area. A great resource is the Society of Janus, based in San Francisco. They have a page with links to Kink groups all over North America. http://www.soj.org (edited to include link)

rob425 -> RE: What do you look for in a sub's age? (5/12/2007 1:16:55 AM)
personally as a young submissive with 3 years real life experience I still find it hard fore a Domme to take me seriously but i understand why considering most the "submissives" my age are actors

SweetDommes -> RE: What do you look for in a sub's age? (5/12/2007 4:08:52 AM)
For us, it's not so much that we don't think you are serious as we just don't have that much in common with anyone who is more than a few years younger than we are. Think about it - at 21 or 22, you were just graduating high school when I was graduating with my second college degree ... you are enough younger than me that you could have been in the elementary school class that I was a cadet teacher for my senior year of high school ... I could come up with other things that would show how important the age difference is right now, but those are the two that are up there in my mind right now. In 10 years, the age difference probably won't matter to us so much (if we are still looking) ... but right now, it does. We want someone who is in about the same stage in life that we are, someone with similar goals and interests and backgrounds. There are people who want younger - you just have to find them ... just like everyone else has to find the person who is looking for them.

MsKatHouston -> RE: What do you look for in a sub's age? (5/12/2007 12:47:45 PM)
Theoretically age and experience are pretty open. As far as age is concerned, the sub has to be at least 21. If I want to send him to the store to get alcohol or go to a bar and want him with me, I don't want someone who can not accommodate me. But based on experience with much younger subs I have found that in general I have much more in common with those who are closer to me in age. That brings the most harmony in my experience. As far as experience in the lifestyle, a willingness to learn and an openness are much more important to me than actual time having done x, y or z. That being said, though, I do like some activities that are not always for the faint of heart and have found that those who have more experience or who have at least been exposed to various types of play are more willing to do what I like.

DrkJourney -> RE: What do you look for in a sub's age? (5/12/2007 12:57:42 PM)
With me it's not experience I'm looking for, actually I like those with little or no experience, then I don't have to wade through all of their past "baggage". In my case I am looking for someone who will be a life partner....so I would like to have things in common with him. I usually date guys younger than myself, always have, didn't look for it, just always seemed to work out that way. But not that far of a gap in age. I just don't want to invest time in emotions and training only to have someone in a year or two want to move on to someone closer to their age...and a twenty-something who would be with a forty-something is likely to do just that. They start wondering all that they missed by settling down so early in life. Just my thoughts on what I've seen from friends and what's stored in my widdle brain...lol

HayaSierra -> RE: What do you look for in a sub's age? (5/12/2007 5:14:28 PM)
I like submissives and slaves of all ages, as long as they are sincere and honest with me. There also of course has to be a connection for any full-time or long-term arrangement. For me servitude is not about play-time but about service and living the life and this is something that many of the younger crowd usually does not like. I tend to go more for slaves than for submissives, but I have taken on a servant or two in the past for training, guidance and service. Very few do more than serve long-distance or for short term visits, because most love to fantasize about being enslaved but realize very soon that they only fantasized about the "fun" parts of being a slave. Sadly this has happened more than once in my time as a Head of Household, so the best advice I can give you is to be 110% forward and honest about what you are seeking in a relationship. Good luck in your search, and if you wish, feel free to drop me a line...

Einzelganger -> RE: What do you look for in a sub's age? (5/12/2007 10:59:10 PM)
Vendaval, thank you for the welcome, the link to SOJ, and the advice. smiles I found a few other links in there that caught my as well. DrkJourney, I agree that most my age, were they to settle down, would start to discover things they thought they'd missed, or things they wanted to experience before 'settling down'. However, I've done pretty much everything I'd thought was cool, fun, or worthwhile, and I pretty much found out it wasn't all it was cracked up to be. Take racing for example. Racing was fun, but working at a racetrack, be it as a driver or pitcrew, means wading around in a veritable ocean of testosterone, and temperatures inside the cars are not fun. After a weekend at the track, I felt like I'd physically aged more than the two to four days I'd been there. To top it off, I'm starting to notice a few gray hairs here and there. And that's just the racing stuff. So, I'm ready to 'settle down', although, in my humble opinion, settling down doesn't have to be boring in any way, shape, or form. I just feel as though I've been able to cross off the solitary activities on my list I'd wanted to do, and I want to be able to spend the rest of my life in service to someone I love. HayaSierra, I have to say, you hit the nail on the head regarding typical views of 'service'. It's just that, in reality; which is the reason it's not called 'play'. So often the line is blurred, but sometimes that makes it easier to tell who's serious, and who's just looking for some kinky fun. Not that there's anything wrong with kinky fun...but honesty really is the best policy, and I hate to sound judgemental, but alot of the people I've met online would really be better off if they simply stated what they were looking for. Besides, if kinky fun is what I'd wanted, I'd have a much easier time finding it than what I seek. Just my $0.02. Thank you all for your replies. You've given me some great ideas for some self-improvement, and a ton of food for thought. smiles I've got another question for you brewing at the moment; I might start another topic soon... smiles -Einzelgänger Edit: Bad spellers of the world, untie!

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