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BiteGirl -> RE: How much is too much to spend on toys/fetish clothes & gear? (12/27/2007 10:01:28 PM)
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ORIGINAL: TheScrivener
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ORIGINAL: BiteGirl
I am quite sick of the older members of the "scene" striking out at the younger ones, we are advancing in leaps and bounds if, at the age of 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21 we are further along on our life trail than people who, in their 30s, 40s and 50s still have no clue what they want out of life or who they are, let alone what their kinks are. Age means nothing.
I'll start out with something positive. To an extent, I agree with the last part of this. Age doesn't mean much at all. What does matter, especially in the professional realm, is experience. An inexperienced Dominant, male or female, has absolutely NO business attempting to sell themselves as a Professional Dominant. At the very least, if you're considering professional domination/sessions at 18, you need to find a mentor who's already established to guide you. I have a friend here in Columbus that is 18, who is involved with an experienced couple who have been providing Professional services for 5 years now. She's come along nicely, but that's largely a result of having the guidance of a pair of individuals who have plenty of experiences to share with her along the way. Along with gaining experience, you have to be receptive to the advice and insights of others. If you go into anything, kinky or not, and tell yourself "I may be young, but I know what I'm doing, and I don't need to listen to what those people twice my age have to say about it!", you're just going to hurt your own progress.
What exactly would you offer a submissive? It's one thing if you want to put up a paypal link and make a little post saying you'd love to have extra spending money (It's been done before, and it will be done again) but to offer a physical session with another person - without any real perspective on what it is you're doing - is reckless and more importantly, dangerous, for both parties.
Also, as a whole, young people are not advancing in leaps and bounds. Being exposed to life's realities at a younger age does not equal advancement.
I figure since I'm 21, and look 17, you won't disregard any of this because I'm a part of an "older members" clique. [;)]
I am not disregarding this because you put reason behind what you were saying instead of just laughing it off like some joke.
I was looking at a traineeship at a dungeon and not at starting out on my own, as i agree that is a really dangerous and stupid thing to do, at leaste at a dungeon you would have a chance to develop your skills with pro's who have been doing this for years before you were to put a person under the whip.
There is a lot that a younger dom can bring to a scene that perhaps an older, more jaded dom could bring. This being said, I would never jump into this and would take it as slowly as i needed and as long as i needed to refine my tellents to a T.
By my estimates, if I got into pro domming tomorrow, I would be at leaste 20 before I was in a position where I was co-domming and 21 when I would be a "trainee" (working by myself but with the client being fully awair that I have so much experience) and probably 21, 22 before I was a full dom, if even.
This is not something I am jumping into because I want more toys, quick money, etc. It is a legitimate interest I have and want to pursue.
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