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RE: What does it mean to you? - 4/24/2006 10:25:31 AM   
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ORIGINAL: OnyxGoddess
You like pain like people like chocolate. 


That is a neat way to talk about likes and taking things to the extreme.

I think of a true masochist as someone who enjoys pain for pain's sake... instead of pain for pleasure’s sake. I think for them, that pain and pleasure is the same thing. But that is just my opinion.

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RE: What does it mean to you? - 4/24/2006 11:32:34 AM   
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Having had the pleasure of witnessing your last scene, I have seen the ecstasy in your face as the needles were pushed through and your head falling back and forth on your neck and shoulders as your body was engulfed by the endorphins.  WOW!
 
I love masochists.  A masochist to me is someone who derives pleasure from pain.  That pleasure can be sexual but doesn't have to be.  For me, it's better if it's sexual pleasure that they are enjoying simply because that's how my sadism manifests itself.  I am sexually aroused by creating and giving pain.  There is little in the world that's better than having throw down, wild, all out, no holds barred sex after a hot pain session, IMO.



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RE: What does it mean to you? - 4/24/2006 11:58:10 AM   
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ORIGINAL: yourMissTress

enthralled,
 
Having had the pleasure of witnessing your last scene, I have seen the ecstasy in your face as the needles were pushed through and your head falling back and forth on your neck and shoulders as your body was engulfed by the endorphins.  WOW!
 
I love masochists.  A masochist to me is someone who derives pleasure from pain.  That pleasure can be sexual but doesn't have to be.  For me, it's better if it's sexual pleasure that they are enjoying simply because that's how my sadism manifests itself.  I am sexually aroused by creating and giving pain.  There is little in the world that's better than having throw down, wild, all out, no holds barred sex after a hot pain session, IMO.




Wow!  As someone who has enjoyed that wild, all out, no holds sex after a Domme session with Tress ... all I can say is WOW!!!!!

Yeah, ok, until I met Tress I can honestly say that I did not associate sexual arousal with my pain play.  I still don't think it is the pain per se that arouses me ...  the pleasure for me comes in taking the pain then enjoying the after care and getting to top my Domme in bed.

The pain play is my gift to my Domme.  I continue to have a difficult time enjoying any kind of sexual play in public.  For me, that remains a private pleasure ....  I am not sure if that will ever change.

As for the comments from Enthralled about not being hard core ... well, girl, after watching your last scene with your piercer, if you aren't a hard core player then no one is.  You are one tough sub and I would love to scene with you one day!!


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RE: What does it mean to you? - 4/24/2006 1:57:36 PM   
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Status: offline 		It's funny..I never think of myself as a masochist...yet there are times I crave pain so intensely, I can hardly think straight. I love the sense of flying, and even the times when it just hurts.  There are moments when I think, "I can't take this another second , I wish he'd just stop"...but then if he did, I'd be disappointed it was over. I certainly don't think of myself as a hardcore masochist- No hanging from meat hooks for me, but I like to ache after. I like to see bruises and welts, and feel sore. I like sitting down delicately for days after when he's whipped me hard. I like the struggle of trying to remain still when all I want to do is run screaming from the room. Afterward, I just feel amazing..it's like coming through a violent storm and knowing you are still alive. And yes, I associate the pain with sex- I find it very erotic. I am far more turned on after, or during a whipping than before. There are moments when I  adore a very calm, quiet, and intimate kind of sex, but more often that not, I prefer to have it hard and a little brutal. Maybe I just cringe a little hearing myself say I am a masochist. Maybe I think it means I have to have my breasts nailed to the wall and have no sex whatsoever. I know that 's not exactly something I look forward to doing. So maybe I'd feel better coming up with my own term - I'm semi-masochistic.., or a masochist with cowardly sensibilities lol

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RE: What does it mean to you? - 4/24/2006 3:09:40 PM   
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Status: offline 		Hello MissTress !!! Good to 'see' You here! ~smiles~

Perhaps I'm trying to shed some light on my own 'existence' here per se. Or, perhaps it's that I've not allowed myself that leap from pure SM to introducing the sexual aspects ... I havent found anyone I trust that much.
The pain alone . . . its such a personal and totally engulfing experience  for me that I think that's where my focus is. To be honest, in the attempt to 'figure it out', this has been the extent of my query with anyone. In some ways, I think that by posting this question, I was hoping to gain insight to how people do connect it- not because I think it's wrong, just that I can't fathom the idea and I don't understand it.
Like mouse said . . . she didn't associate the two before MissTress . . . maybe I will be on here one day saying I didnt understand it until I met my (hypothetical) Master!

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RE: What does it mean to you? - 4/24/2006 3:14:06 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MouseTrapp

As for the comments from Enthralled about not being hard core ... well, girl, after watching your last scene with your piercer, if you aren't a hard core player then no one is.  You are one tough sub and I would love to scene with you one day!!


LOL mouse!! That's only because most people don't care for needles, let alone the piercing ones. So who gets to be on top???

~hugs
enthralled
PS- see ya Saturday night if you're going to be there. I have Sunday off!!!

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RE: What does it mean to you? - 4/24/2006 4:07:11 PM   
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Status: offline 		A little over a year ago I started the journey of  exploring my submission. I was scared to death of the the pain part of the equation. But I very quickly found out I liked pain and that I wanted more and more of it. The rerasons I like are many and varied. I like the feel of the sting spreading across my body as each blow is delivered, I love the look on the Tops face as he delivers each blow, I love knowing that I have pleased in my abilty to take what he dishes out. I love the freedom I find in getting lost in the rythm of the stroke of the flogger more then words could ever express. It allows me to become more sexually aroused then I ever knew was possible. And I can now add that I love going to subspace from it. While it can be very sexual for me it does not need to be and now that I have learned how to hit subspace I find myself craving that more then sex. I am sure eventually I will find a balance between the two.

Now do I consider myself a true masochist I don't know yet...I get just as much pleasure from knowing I have pleased as I do from the sensations of the pain. Sometimes it is very hard for me to take pain and I try to get away run from it, others if I focus right I can get lost in it relax into it. I so love those times as I know subspace is soon to follow. That said for me to go there I need to really be able to trust the Top other wise I could be very badly hurt as I lose all sense of the intensity of the pain.

aurora

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RE: What does it mean to you? - 4/24/2006 6:08:16 PM   
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ORIGINAL: enthralled


Like mouse said . . . she didn't associate the two before MissTress . . . maybe I will be on here one day saying I didnt understand it until I met my (hypothetical) Master!

Respectfully,
enthralled


Just like any other relationship it is all about the people involved.  You're not going to be attracted to all Dom/mes just because they are dominant.  When you find that special Dom or Domme you will feel the sexual energy too.  I am discovering the delicious mix of domination and sexual energy together ....

I look forward to you experiencing the same pleasure!


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RE: What does it mean to you? - 4/24/2006 6:12:12 PM   
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ORIGINAL: enthralled


LOL mouse!! That's only because most people don't care for needles, let alone the piercing ones. So who gets to be on top???

~hugs
enthralled
PS- see ya Saturday night if you're going to be there. I have Sunday off!!!


I don't know if we'll be there on Saturday night or not ... we had made plans to go out dancing (Menages actually).  You are welcome to come with us if you like and of course you never know we may end up at the club later on ...

I was thinking we would be good as sub/sub with maybe MissTress and another Dom or Domme .... whatdya' think?



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RE: What does it mean to you? - 4/25/2006 7:52:53 PM   
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Status: offline 		OMG My cubby goes into a "zone" just hearing a tattoo gun... He's been known to fall asleep getting work done. ~laughs~

He sometimes recounts an ex girlfriend trailing a razorblade across his chest. Now his words say he freaked out... but the dreamy look on his face??? I wish I could get the courage to try cutting.... ~sigh~

He goes into subspace when we do knifeplay...

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RE: What does it mean to you? - 4/25/2006 7:58:46 PM   
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ORIGINAL: yourMissTress

enthralled,
 
Having had the pleasure of witnessing your last scene, I have seen the ecstasy in your face as the needles were pushed through and your head falling back and forth on your neck and shoulders as your body was engulfed by the endorphins.  WOW!
 
I love masochists.  A masochist to me is someone who derives pleasure from pain.  That pleasure can be sexual but doesn't have to be.  For me, it's better if it's sexual pleasure that they are enjoying simply because that's how my sadism manifests itself.  I am sexually aroused by creating and giving pain.  There is little in the world that's better than having throw down, wild, all out, no holds barred sex after a hot pain session, IMO.




You know you make it so easy to make some of us just drooooooooooooooooool.....


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RE: What does it mean to you? - 4/25/2006 8:28:15 PM   
yourMissTress


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RE: What does it mean to you? - 4/25/2006 8:50:52 PM   
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ORIGINAL: bandit25

cin...I more or less see myself the same way.  I don't seek it out necessarily.  I enjoy it insofar as he enjoys inflicting it and yes, I see it as an interwoven part of the D/s dynamic.  There are times I do seek it out; however, and those times I enjoy it immensely, bit not on the whole.


Absolutely. Sometimes I just seek out a spanking for the pure joy of it. But it's rarely ever the same intensity that most people in the lifestyle seem to seek. In situations like that, I tend to consider it intense sensation play, not pain play. (In the end, maybe it's all semantics?)

I happily call myself a wimp, although, in truth, I do have a pretty impressive pain tolerance.

Cin

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RE: What does it mean to you? - 4/25/2006 9:24:39 PM   
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ORIGINAL: yourMissTress

enthralled,
 
Having had the pleasure of witnessing your last scene, I have seen the ecstasy in your face as the needles were pushed through and your head falling back and forth on your neck and shoulders as your body was engulfed by the endorphins.  WOW!
 
I love masochists.  A masochist to me is someone who derives pleasure from pain.  That pleasure can be sexual but doesn't have to be.  For me, it's better if it's sexual pleasure that they are enjoying simply because that's how my sadism manifests itself.  I am sexually aroused by creating and giving pain.  There is little in the world that's better than having throw down, wild, all out, no holds barred sex after a hot pain session, IMO.




Just had to mention needles when I'm at that time of month Himself won't let me pierce or engage in blood letting. ;P Sadist.

Celeste

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RE: What does it mean to you? - 4/25/2006 10:48:02 PM   
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Just had to mention needles when I'm at that time of month Himself won't let me pierce or engage in blood letting. ;P Sadist.

Celeste


not even on someone else?  Damn!  He IS a sadist.


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