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MasterRobert007 -> Need Guidance (3/8/2014 12:43:22 PM)
I'm 18-years-old and new to being dominant (about 8 months) and have been attending a local BDSM community. I found a female submissive, who is the same age as me. At the BDSM community I found an older male submissive to play with my submissive while I direct what happens. He has had a Vasectomy and works full-time as an attorney. Being the dominant one, I make sure everything is safe and consensual. Even though he has had a vasectomy my female submissive wants him to use a condom. Well, in one play scene, while she was blindfolded, I wanted to watch them having sex without the condom. Long story short. She got pregnant. She had to go on welfare and they tracked him down and he is the father. However, his is medi/medi on disability and married. HE LIED TO ME ON SO MANY LEVELS! Now she is asking me to support the child since I'm responsible and is threatening to get an attorney. However, I believe I'm not responsible and shouldn't have to support her or her child. What do you think?

ExquisiteStings -> RE: Need Guidance (3/8/2014 12:49:51 PM)
I don't think anyone on cm can address the stupidity of this post on any level w/o violating the TOS, and I'm not gonna be the groundbreaker either. All I can say is wowwwwwww...lololol

LadyConstanze -> RE: Need Guidance (3/8/2014 12:50:40 PM)
2 points for effort... Nice that you try to rattle some chains and amazing how quick pregnancies happen, since you only signed up 2 days ago and "just" had found a submissive, according to your profile. Is it spring break already?

MasterRobert007 -> RE: Need Guidance (3/8/2014 12:51:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ExquisiteStings I don't think anyone on cm can address the stupidity of this post on any level w/o violating the TOS, and I'm not gonna be the groundbreaker either. All I can say is wowwwwwww...lololol I don't understand why you think this is stupid?

freedomdwarf1 -> RE: Need Guidance (3/8/2014 1:06:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterRobert007 quote: ORIGINAL: ExquisiteStings I don't think anyone on cm can address the stupidity of this post on any level w/o violating the TOS, and I'm not gonna be the groundbreaker either. All I can say is wowwwwwww...lololol I don't understand why you think this is stupid? I'll try to answer it.... Did you fuck your sub and get her pregnant? No. Was it proven to be your child? No. Did you hold a gun to this other sub's head and order him to do it? No. Would you have put his life in danger if he hadn't fucked your female sub? No. Did you force the male to fuck without a condom? No. Were you naive and stupid? YES!! Are you responsible for her child?? That should be obvious, but I'll let you decide.

MasterRobert007 -> RE: Need Guidance (3/8/2014 1:11:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: freedomdwarf1 I'll try to answer it.... Did you fuck your sub and get her pregnant? No. Was it proven to be your child? No. Did you hold a gun to this other sub's head and order him to do it? No. Would you have put his life in danger if he hadn't fucked your female sub? No. Did you force the male to fuck without a condom? No. Were you naive and stupid? YES!! Are you responsible for her child?? That should be obvious, but I'll let you decide. I agree with you. I guess when she said she is going to get an attorney it scared me. Because being the dominant one I'm the one who is responsible. But if there is no legal thread she can stand on.

windchymes -> RE: Need Guidance (3/8/2014 1:11:55 PM)
Why not just put the poor infant up for adoption in situations like these so it can have a chance to have two loving parents who wanted a baby to begin with?

Rawni -> RE: Need Guidance (3/8/2014 1:15:10 PM)
Wow Judge Judy is going to have to fight Jerry Springer for this one. But... you heard it here first folks! Don't you feel lucky? [;)]

AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Need Guidance (3/8/2014 1:18:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterRobert007 I'm 18-years-old and new to being dominant (about 8 months) and have been attending a local BDSM community. I found a female submissive, who is the same age as me. At the BDSM community I found an older male submissive to play with my submissive while I direct what happens. He has had a Vasectomy and works full-time as an attorney. Being the dominant one, I make sure everything is safe and consensual. Even though he has had a vasectomy my female submissive wants him to use a condom. Well, in one play scene, while she was blindfolded, I wanted to watch them having sex without the condom. Long story short. She got pregnant. She had to go on welfare and they tracked him down and he is the father. However, his is medi/medi on disability and married. HE LIED TO ME ON SO MANY LEVELS! Now she is asking me to support the child since I'm responsible and is threatening to get an attorney. However, I believe I'm not responsible and shouldn't have to support her or her child. What do you think? I think you're trolling, but in the spirit of helpfulness. I doubt she'd be able to make a legal case that you should support the child financially. I do think she would have a criminal case against you for sexual assault/conspiracy since you caused her to have non-consensual sexual intercourse. I also think if you're not old enough to understand why condoms are important with casual sex partners, you're not old enough to have a girlfriend.

MasterRobert007 -> RE: Need Guidance (3/8/2014 1:18:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: windchymes Why not just put the poor infant up for adoption in situations like these so it can have a chance to have two loving parents who wanted a baby to begin with? Exactly!! She is all emotional and screaming what has happened to my life! It's your fault! She just won't listen to reason.

CreativeDominant -> RE: Need Guidance (3/8/2014 1:20:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Rawni Wow Judge Judy is going to have to fight Jerry Springer for this one. But... you heard it here first folks! Don't you feel lucky? [;)] I know I DO!!! [8\|]

GoddessManko -> RE: Need Guidance (3/8/2014 1:20:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ExquisiteStings I don't think anyone on cm can address the stupidity of this post on any level w/o violating the TOS, and I'm not gonna be the groundbreaker either. All I can say is wowwwwwww...lololol LOL, I second the motion!

crazyml -> RE: Need Guidance (3/8/2014 1:28:30 PM)
Tap tap tappity tap

myotherself -> RE: Need Guidance (3/8/2014 1:36:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: crazyml Tap tap tappity tap Coffee, meet keyboard [:D]

freedomdwarf1 -> RE: Need Guidance (3/8/2014 1:37:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterRobert007 quote: ORIGINAL: windchymes Why not just put the poor infant up for adoption in situations like these so it can have a chance to have two loving parents who wanted a baby to begin with? Exactly!! She is all emotional and screaming what has happened to my life! It's your fault! She just won't listen to reason. And she indulges in casual sex and other stuff but doesn't have any protection for herself? [8\|] It sounds like the both of you were impetuous, naive, and stupid. And you call yourself a dominant?? Really? [:D][:D] Learn to walk before you run; it helps to stop you falling flat on your face. Read, and read some more. Do some self-educating. Know what the fuck you're doing before you attempt to do it for real. Every person you try and dominate has consequences in what you do, physically, mentally and emotionally.

searching4mysir -> RE: Need Guidance (3/8/2014 1:38:47 PM)
FR At 18, you obviously haven't mastered your own dick, let alone another submissive since you let your little head overrule your big head on this one (providing you aren't trolling). You essentially put your submissive's life in danger all to make your own dick hard by having the male sub not use a condom. Way to go!

FelineRanger -> RE: Need Guidance (3/8/2014 1:46:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Rawni Wow Judge Judy is going to have to fight Jerry Springer for this one. But... you heard it here first folks! Don't you feel lucky? [;)] There might be another competitor right here.

AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Need Guidance (3/8/2014 1:48:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterRobert007 quote: ORIGINAL: windchymes Why not just put the poor infant up for adoption in situations like these so it can have a chance to have two loving parents who wanted a baby to begin with? Exactly!! She is all emotional and screaming what has happened to my life! It's your fault! She just won't listen to reason. She sounds like the more reasonable of the two of you. Giving a child up for adoption or having a termination are both incredibly emotionally grueling and carry physical risks. It WILL affect the rest of her life. She isn't wrong.

siouxsiecat -> RE: Need Guidance (3/8/2014 1:52:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: windchymes Why not just put the poor infant up for adoption in situations like these so it can have a chance to have two loving parents who wanted a baby to begin with? Encourage her to let the child go to a good home if she's bitter about raising it or doesn't feel she wants it. Take the "Master" out of your username and don't call yourself a Dominant, it's laughable. You have no idea how to take charge of things and make decisions. You did not make everything for her safe and consensual. I also don't think you should be allowed to date seeing as how you don't understand that people lie, and you don't seem to know how STD's are transmitted.

MasterRobert007 -> RE: Need Guidance (3/8/2014 1:53:17 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders She sounds like the more reasonable of the two of you. Giving a child up for adoption or having a termination are both incredibly emotionally grueling and carry physical risks. It WILL affect the rest of her life. She isn't wrong. I guess I just need to let go of her. Her legal claim is that she required him to use a condom. After I blindfolded her I told the male submissive to take off the condom because I wanted to see them have unprotected sex. I didn't tell her this. He told me he had a vasectomy so it would be safe. I told her about adoption and abortion but she won't listen. As long as I'm not responsible for the child it shouldn't matter to me. I need to be more mature and just "let go."

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