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Slaves, slaves, slaves EVERYWHERE - 12/27/2004 8:05:10 AM   
GoddessJules


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The most recent memories of slavery in our country (US) has been an ugly one.
I'm sure that is the reason a lot of people "tread softly" when the
subject comes up. That being said, I don't think that the definition of the word
has changed.

So I guess what puzzles me is when you put "consensual" in front of the
word slavery, it seems to me that the connotation of the word "slavery"
changes as well.

Slaves are everywhere. . .let's face it. . .there is an ABUNDANCE of slaves.
(I'm being facetious, but if you look around, you'll get my joke.)

From what I witness in discussions/dialogs regarding slave/owner relationships,
nothing of it would conjure up thoughts of the definition of slavery. Most
of the literature out there would suggest that "slave" means something other
than what the dictionary suggests ("How to have a fulfilled slave", "20 ways to keep your slave happy and content", "10 rules you must abide by to have a slave", "The nurturing slave owner's manual", and the list goes on and on.) Sometimes I chuckle and think that *I* should become a slave. *OR* I should pop some little ones out of my coochie and
the result would be easier to take care of than a modern day slave. In a lot of instances, you can replace the word "slave" in a sentence and replace it with "princess, prince, brat (and a few other words)" and based on the context. . .it would still make perfect sense. "You must keep your princess happy by paying close attention to her emotional and mental needs and addressing them immediately should there be a problem."

Did the definition of slave change without me realizing it? Or is this a
case of "slavery means whatever it wants to depending on the person?"

We now even have specialization of slaves. . .foot slaves, toilet slaves, sissy slaves,
boot slaves, sex slaves. Has the word "slave" become essentially meaningless?

I'd love to hear from those identifying as being slaves or slave owners.
I realize that this dynamic doesn't apply to those that identify as being
"subs" or in relationships with them.



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RE: Slaves, slaves, slaves EVERYWHERE - 12/27/2004 9:05:36 AM   
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Hello GoddessJules.

I guess alot of it caters to the section of people who are not seriously into this way.

From my perspective once a person is taken as a slave, its entirely up to a mistress / master as to what happens with them. Unless there is a signed contract. A slave is a slave. Its unfortunate that some people (fetishists) have misused the term to the point where the common "social" understanding of the word does not hold alot of significant meaning anymore.

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RE: Slaves, slaves, slaves EVERYWHERE - 12/27/2004 9:13:10 AM   
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Although I am neither a slave nor an owner of one, I have some thoughts on the subject.
It seems that a BDSM slave often has more in common with a pet or a child that the 'traditional' definition of a slave. The idea being that they're propery to be kept and cared for simply for the enjoyment of keeping and caring for. Maybe there is just a lot of petplayers and ageplayers out there who haven't realised it yet, or have realised it but are too put off by the slight similarity between bestiality and paedophilia.

I believe that a solution would be for 'those sort of slaves' to use the term 'human pet', 'adult child' or something similar to differentiate themselves from the 'human livestock' and 'living toy' sorts. I would very much like the word 'slave' to only be used to describe a sort of play, but since it's a word so loaded with fantasy, I can hardly see that happening.


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RE: Slaves, slaves, slaves EVERYWHERE - 12/27/2004 9:20:42 AM   
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I have a very different view of slaves.

A slave is useful, and pleasurable..She saves the Master work and effort. If she needs to be constantly "cared for" like a small child, she becomes a burden, not a joy. The "master" becomes the real slave in these situations.

I usually filter the fantasy players from the service types very simply. I ask for a resume of USEFUL *vanilla* skills a "slave" can put on the table, for I WILL put her to work in a 24 7 situation.

I would never be so foolish as to keep a "sex pet". When one makes this distinction,that a slave will have to WORK, you rapidly winnow out the princesses, brats, users, etc...................
You just stopped being quite so FUN in the eyes of these sorts.

Which is exactly my intent-M/s is much more about vanilla day to day living than scening. I will want my slave to pull her weight.

Play is the icing on the cake,NOT the cake itself.

You can't wear the cuffs ALL the time-so I will want to know if one has more than her *elbows* to put on the table, or it's a big NO GO.

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RE: Slaves, slaves, slaves EVERYWHERE - 12/27/2004 9:31:15 AM   
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A girl enjoys the slave terminology debate anywhere. And here once again it is delivered eloquently, thanks Jules. Personally, the only reason she lists as slave in the colalrme system is it is closest "accepted" lifestyle term they have here. In real life she uses the word servant, not slave for all the connotations of such an ugly word. No one in their right mind would truly want to be a "slave" in its strict dictionary definition. There is nothing romantic about being chattel.
In this house, 24/7 servitude is somewhere between jack of all trades, no limits sex toy and devoutant of some sort..lol. And she also will say that a child or pet would tend to be more of a burden on a Master..unless a Master was the control freak micromanagment kink type..then He might just adore a pet or child. But here, it is necessary for everyone to function autonomously for the most part, freeing up Master's time for larger exploits.

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RE: Slaves, slaves, slaves EVERYWHERE - 12/27/2004 10:08:48 AM   
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I would have to say that I don't think it's impossible for there to be a truely Master/slave relationship. I know of at least one here on collar me that I would say holds true to the idea of it. I just think they are uncommon and far from 'normal'. (Whatever the heck that is) I think the idea has become a kink in and of itself. I would have to say that it's hightly likely that most of the people who accually list this, do mean it in the traditional sense of the word and would balk at the idea of accually becoming a accual slave. I have no intrest in truely being someone's slave and as such would never choice that in my profile.
I would have to agree with Reality in that the quickest way to weed these people out is to see what else they bring, I think they would quickly get the point.
I'm sure that the people who choose to say they are slaves, but in reality are not in the original meaning of the word, are quiet attached to their Kink. Maybe we should start a new termanoligy for that, instead of slave.

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RE: Slaves, slaves, slaves EVERYWHERE - 12/27/2004 11:02:00 AM   
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Has the word "slave" become essentially meaningless?


Ours is an ever changing world, and our definitions regarding the term slave have evolved to include a variety of "new" meanings, not all of which have the negative connotation of persons abducted from their homelands and forced to serve others in an oftentimes violent and degrading fashion.

A slave, in the technology world, is any device that is controlled by another device, called the master. In computer networking, master/slave is a model for a communication protocol in which one device or process (known as the master) controls one or more other devices or processes (known as slaves). Once the master/slave relationship is established, the direction of control is always from the master to the slave(s).

It has always been a curiosity as to how some of the folks on this site and others do not differentiate between a slave and a sub. this slave sees the difference as follows:

a submissive retains a private identity separate from the dominant, over which the submissive retains control. a submissive's private identity could possibly include a name, real estate, bank accounts, yachts, living quarters, a spouse, secrets, etc.

a slave becomes a part of the Master and under Master's control. part of His household, part of His posessions, as much an active part of His life as He wishes, even part of His heart(however some frown on this). upon acceptance of a slave's life, everything becomes Master's.

a submissive's private identity makes use of what is called a safeword as a means of communicating their control of a scene.
a slave has no safeword as they are at the whim and control of their Master.

this private identity might think of ways to manipulate the dominant into doing or supplying her with whatever it is she thinks she needs such as a spanking, flogging, movie(topping from below?),etc. or whatever it is she thinks HE needs, such as a good night's sleep, exercise, movie, etc.
a slave relies on Master to decide what and when and where and how hard and a GOOD slave says "thank You, Master" afterwards.

Slaves throughout history are often hard to recognize. In some cases, such as the Medieval Serfs, they were held slaves to the rulers by religious belief, and did not see themselves as slaves even though they were treated as such. The favored slaves of Asian potentates wore jewels to make a movie star gasp, yet were still slaves for all their finery and comfort.

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No one in their right mind would truly want to be a "slave" in its strict dictionary definition. There is nothing romantic about being chattel.


there are completely sane folks who truly want to be "slave" in the strict dictionary definition, romanticism is not their impetus. this slave has met those who have an almost fanatical drive to serve another, or even mankind in general for that matter, with absolutely no desire to be served by another, own property, be in control of finances, "keep up with the Jones's", etc.

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Slaves are everywhere. . .let's face it. . .there is an ABUNDANCE of slaves.


If someone demands that you do something and you can say “no” and refuse to do it without consequences of restriction whatsoever, then you are a free human being. If you can be forced to do something or surrender something that you do not wish to, then you are a slave. No other test need be applied.

Legislation for a draft is already in Congress. Can you refuse the confiscation of your children? No?
Congratulations. You are a slave.

Government (at all levels) has borrowed trillions of dollars and stuck your kids with the payments. Children not even born will be paying off the bills. To declare the lives of children not yet born, let alone old enough to vote, indentured to the state is slavery most obvious and odious.

Can you refuse responsibility for payments on debts the government incurred without your permission? No?
Congratulations. You are a slave.

Just because you cannot see the shackles and slave-chains doesn’t mean they are not there. Chains made of steel are obvious, but chains made of beliefs and dogma are not always recognized for what they are.

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RE: Slaves, slaves, slaves EVERYWHERE - 12/27/2004 11:07:02 AM   
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Well,there's a big difference bewteen having a Master,and having a "boyfriend" who plays one.

In real life, most long term M/s folks I've met see it more as a partnership, with one being the senior decision maker. And it's simply a structured way of living. Not exactly romantic and exciting for the most part,since you have to deal with vanilla is it's largest component.

I think a lot of this thinking comes from things like the story of o,etc....for those who pursue it as a fantasy. It seems there are quite a few women out there seeking "Sir Steven."

Unfortunately however,these chaps usually aren't "out" since it would hurt thier image in the business word. Rich people are funny that way. The likelyhood of finding one HERE is very slight.

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RE: Slaves, slaves, slaves EVERYWHERE - 12/27/2004 4:06:03 PM   
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I think the likely hood of finding someone who someone who truely desires a Master/slave realationship like this is very small, here or else wise. I know there are people out there like that on both sides of the coin, but they aren't normally going to just step up and put up a billboard. For one reason or anouther this is not usually practical.
What I have with my 'Master' is very much on the give and take. He generally does not call me his slave because... well, I am not. I am his submissive. What we do we do to please one anouther. I give him as much control over my life as I feel I can. He chooses what we do (Sexually) and when. He chooses what I eat and when. But with all these dissisions he has me and mind as well. Not just himself. Is it all in the bedroom? No, there are things we do that are a part of our everyday 'normal' life that have little to no sex in them. I see nothing wrong with dreaming of being a 'true' slave, however I believe there are people out there who need to know themselves just a little better. Truely understand what the word 'slave' means before you list it in your profile. (Or some other way)
Technically, though I call my Husband my Master, he is not. However it is something that makes the both of us happy and fulfils our lives. If we were no longer together, I would be certain to make myself and what I really wanted clear. Do I wish to be a slave. No. I would not wish to waste a Masters time by say I did.

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RE: Slaves, slaves, slaves EVERYWHERE - 12/27/2004 5:38:31 PM   
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quote:

So I guess what puzzles me is when you put "consensual" in front of the
word slavery, it seems to me that the connotation of the word "slavery"
changes as well.


My slaves became concensual at the point when they chose to sign a contract and serve Me for the rest of their lifes giving Me their lifes to control instead of leaving and being on their own to their own device and pursue their happiness not in freedom but in subjudication. My slaves are far from pets, children or coddled and if I desired a petslave I would aquire a pony, dog or pig slave for such ownership.

slaverys word does not change in its meaning but only in a free society in its application. JMO

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RE: Slaves, slaves, slaves EVERYWHERE - 12/28/2004 12:33:46 AM   
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Merc and beth,

Is being driven to serve another person...emphatically even to the point of devotion in and of itself "slavery" in the strictest historical dictionary definition however? she doesn't truly beleive it is, nor has she yet to see it played out as such even in the strictest of houses. she also feels driven to serve her house with no "keeping up with the jones'" but she has pondered the definition for years now and she will agree serfdom comes close, as does devoutants, lieges but slavery....well the reference she made was meant as just that...in the forementioned there are elements of chivalry to some extent...service as calling..but in slavery it is service by force, purely and historically against one's will. There is not a great deal of "slave' poetry out there pontificating on how fabuloous it is to be chattel. But there are many great works of literature devoted to service that is selfless. she thinks the two states are in and of themselves quite different and that by and large what she has seen to be labelled as Master/slave relationships are in actuality more altruistic servants than slaves.
At any rate her only point is that frequently the notion of the word slave on these boards is "romanticized" and without people actually thinking about what it is they are saying they are or would want to be. Also if one has a contract that is not slavery..one could not make a contract with chattel or innate property because as such chattel have no legal rights...note our early American history. People on here eqaute themsleves to property all the time in the same sentence as they have a slave contract...well property doesn't have a legal stake in contracts that si like saying Master gas a contract with His truck. He doesn't haev a contract with His truck, He owns it, it is property. It has No "free will" it signed nothing.
Besides in the end wouldn't most rather have a devoted servant than a forced slave any day anyhow? Service is far superior when one wants to be there and doing what they are doing...contractually. And those hwo truly want forced slaves well they end up cutting your head off and soaking your torso in acid and stuffing your liver in the freezer...aka Jeffrey Dahmer...so steer clear of those....

Anyhoo ha this is just about my favorite subject on these boards so thanks for the conversation it is as always interesting to watch.


Oh and as a side note...the analogy of Social Security and the draft are good ones...and she will use them to make her own argument, lol. Again she says who in their right mind would want to be in either of these "forced" without "consent" states...where one truly is a slave to something with no choice in the matter...no one. No one wants to be a "slave" in this sense who is sane and a functioning human animal..."free will" and "thought" are what make us the species we are. The giving of one's will in service to another is noble...but that is service it is not slavery necause it is done by choice, "free will"...In Your own analogies You paint this very clear.... Being in the military the house is in on many conversations about why a volunteer Army functions better than a "forced' or draft Army....simply put when you put a gun in a man's hands you would much rather he had an active part in putting himself there, then shove the gun into the hands of a protesting person. she thinks it is much the same way with the slave vs servant debate.

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RE: Slaves, slaves, slaves EVERYWHERE - 12/28/2004 4:51:00 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: GoddessJules

Did the definition of slave change without me realizing it? Or is this a
case of "slavery means whatever it wants to depending on the person?"



We recognize, embrace and practice dominance and submission in our personal relationships. That is a big part of who we are, what we do and what brings us together in forums such as this one. The state of being a slave or a slave owner is, rightfully in my view, often seen as the epitome of dominance and submission. Therefore, many people aspire to slavery. This is natural. When people do something or participate in something, they often want to achieve as high a level or degree of that thing as is possible. This is part of our nature.

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ORIGINAL: GoddessJules

The most recent memories of slavery in our country (US) has been an ugly one.
I'm sure that is the reason a lot of people "tread softly" when the
subject comes up.



At the same time, there are social stigmas attached to slavery. How does a submissive keep the feminist faith and claim "I am no doormat" and simultaneously call herself a slave? Having one's cake and eating it too is always problematic.

Also, we tend to look for shortcuts, the path of least resistance if you will, in the things we do. This too is a natural human tendency. So, applying this knowledge to the topic at hand, we can soon understand that people may both want to attain the d/s pinnacle of slavery, while at the same time they may want to avoid the sacrifices incumbent with really, actually, in truth and in fact rising (or dropping as the reader may see it) to the level of slavery. Thus, I see people claim to be slaves who are not. I understand this.

While I understand why people lay claim to the title of slave (or owner) when they are not definitionally entitled to do so, I regret the bastardization of the terminology. Slavery (and ownership) is cheapened by this practice.

I have been in discussions with people, mostly women whether coincidentally or revealingly, who absolutely, aggressively and unflinchingly demanded that the d/s community recognize their "right to define slavery any way I want". These people readily admitted they could not rise to the level of being a slave in their personal relationships, in the degree of their submission and in the facts of their lives, but that did not deter them in the least from their staunchly laid claim to the title. They just plain wanted to be called a slave and by god they were going to call themselves a slave. And devil take the hindmost!

In all my conversations and discussions with these people, what it boiled down to was that they were submissive (to whatever degree) in their personal relationships, they aspired to slavery but the degree of their giving themselves over to the dominant person in their life did not rise to the level of slavery and so they used the term "slave" as a pet name. Like one would call one's lover "honey bear" or "sugar plum". Of course, people are not honey bears or sugar plums, but we use these terms euphemistically. So too, people often use the term "slave" euphemistically.

Unfortunately, widespread use of the term "slave" as a term of endearment (however stern a tone of voice with which the word may be uttered) results in a diminution of the value of the term. One's peers will automatically, unconsicously and simultaneously discount the term when it is used by those who have paid their dues to lay claim to it.

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You are welcome to print or save this post for your own use. Please do not copy it to any public or semi-public forum (including email groups/lists) without my express permission. Thanks. All rights reserved. (I write this postscript because after-the-fact someone wrote to me to inform me that they had copied a prior post I wrote to another list. So, I thought I'd better clarify what my preference/policy is regarding use of what I write.)

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RE: Slaves, slaves, slaves EVERYWHERE - 12/28/2004 7:03:49 AM   
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The Choice of Slavery

"Slavery" is a topic near and dear to my heart, and one to which I have devoted no small measure of both thought and research. I would like to write more on the topic, and probably will in future. I hope the reader finds some value in the contribution offered here.


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ORIGINAL: GoddessJules

So I guess what puzzles me is when you put "consensual" in front of the
word slavery, it seems to me that the connotation of the word "slavery"
changes as well.




When we study the history of slavery we find no small number of examples of consensual slavery. We should not let it distract us to know that consent is predicated on other external factors, for indeed all consent is predicated on external factors. Life is, in large part, a series of choosing from a list of options available to us. The fact that in some instances our choices are few, or onerous, or both few and onerous does not change the fact that we have a choice. We simply find ourselves in the proverbial circumstance of being "between a rock and a hard place".

There is nothing new to people finding themselves in these undesirable circumstances. And, while the terms "slave" and "slavery" can be applied to these situations dysphemistically as Mercnbeth have done..... (continued below)

(I learned a new word while writing this (or at least re-learned one I had forgotten) so I reference the definition for those readers who, like me, were/are unfamiliar with the term, dysphemism: http://www.webster.com/cgi-bin/dictionary?book=Dictionary&va=dysphemism)

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

If someone demands that you do something and you can say “no” and refuse to do it without consequences of restriction whatsoever, then you are a free human being. If you can be forced to do something or surrender something that you do not wish to, then you are a slave. No other test need be applied.



The fact of having only onerous choices (for example, to either obey a law you prefer to disobey or be jailed) does not by itself create the existence of a state of being in slavery.

Nor does the fact of some other person or organization being physically able to impose their will on a person create the state of being of slavery. True enough, these are slave-like situations. But that likeness to slavery ends beyond the situation. By the test proposed, the world is populated entirely by slaves. There aren't even any owners who are not themselves slaves, for there is no person in this world who can not be forced by someone else to do (or not do) something. Therefore, it seems clear that this definition, as proposed, is overly broad to have any value to us.

It is difficult to study the history of slavery. As GoddessJules alluded to, our (and I have found the world's) view of slavery is focused almost exclusively on the brief period of time (historically speaking) during which slavery was legally practiced in the USA. In any study of slavery one must wade through countless volumes dealing solely with that brief period of history. Moreover, our society's abhorrence of slavery, the subsequent and highly publicized civil rights movement in the USA and the ongoing claims of racism and discrimination that abound in our society invariably taint those works.

Notably, after a great deal of reading I have found not one reference to a happy slave in pre-civil war America. (If any reader can direct me to a reference to happy slavery in the USA, I will be most grateful. Feel free to email me privately if you prefer not to post publicly.) This history that we read, then, can not be a full history. People, some people at least, always find happiness. Some people always find good in their lives, advantages in their circumstances. We never read of this in studies of slavery in the Americas.

Having lived in the south of the USA, I have heard anecdotal references to slaves who, at least at first, refused to leave their homes and slavery at the end of the Civil War. And, this must be true in at least *some* cases. Imagine having your whole world changed by some occurrence (the surrender of Lee at Appomatox) hundreds of miles away. Where would you go? Where would you sleep? How will you find food? How will you provide for your children? Yes. Upon reflection, it seems clear to me that there had to have been instances in which slaves in the USA, once freed by the triumph of the Union army, at least at first refused their new freedom. However, I have never found this documented. (Again, if anyone can direct me to documentation of this, please do so.)

To me, this is a very revealing omission. I see revealed by this historical omission of the refusal to leave slavery the fact that all our society's research into slavery of that period, and likely all modern research into slavery in any period, is tainted and skewed by our anti-slavery socialization.

So how does the above affect us in understanding, learning about and living slavery in the context of d/s? It indicates we must understand the things we are taught by society about slavery may not be true. We must rethink things for ourselves. We have been taught that slavery, in all its forms and in all cases is nonconsensual. Is this true? In a word, no. That is not true.

There is a famous instance of a citizen of ancient Rome, whose name escapes me at the moment (asking again for help from readers) who sold himself into slavery and uttered the famous line that has survived the millennia (and I paraphrase) "now I will no longer have to pay taxes!" This is a real, documented, historical example of consensual slavery. In point of fact, though in this informal discussion I am not going to dig out my notes from the books I've read on Roman history, noncitizens of Rome often sold themselves into slavery. Sometimes they needed money. Sometimes, selling oneself into slavery was the only way to eventually earn Roman citizenship and all the benefits that went with it. You see, by serving in an exemplary fashion slaves of Roman citizens were sometimes (perhaps even often) rewarded with their freedom which also made them a citizen of Rome.

So, very importantly in our examination of the question at hand: We do find historically documented examples of consensual slavery. Slavery by choice.

Now I pose a question to the reader in this d/s forum:

Knowing what we know about submission and submissives, do you believe that there were also people, though their lives and reasons may be undocumented by history, who sold themselves (or otherwise conveyed themselves) into slavery simply and primarily for the sake that slavery fit their own nature and needs? I, for one, am certain of it. Those instances and the instances cited above are examples of "real", actual, legal and binding consensual slavery. Based predominantly, if not solely, on the personal lifestyle preferences and goals of the slaves.

Let's look further at consensuality in slavery. Is it an inherent contradiction? No. I think it is not.

In fact, there is almost always a measure of consensuality in slavery. For galley slaves in Roman and Greek ships, probably there was no consensuality to the degree we are speaking of consensuality in this forum. However, for other slaves in Roman society there was usually a large measure of consensuality. Consider this:

During the famous slave revolt led by Spartacus, if one reads historical accounts one learns that the ranks of the slave army in rebellion continued to swell with each victory over the armies of Rome by the slave army that Spartacus commanded. The ranks continued to swell. Where did these fighters come from? Why, they simply walked away from their owners and made their way to the hills and joined up. They just walked away. In the night, one presumes. At least for the most part. But they just walked away. Well..... they could have walked away any time! True, they faced punishment if caught, but that punishment was rarely death. Spartacus hid out in the hills. One presumes a runaway slave could have done the same before Spartacus.

(Roman law codified slave punishment. What punishments could be inflicted for what offenses. Death was rarely employed as a punishment. And, the slaves had an appeal process available to them. But that's another topic.)

I, upon my own personal and individual examination of examples of "real", codified, legal, actual slavery, find an element of consensuality in most historical examples of slavery. There is almost always a choice to be taken to run away. To simply leave.

That same choice is available to slaves today. Is it easier for a d/s slave to exercise the choice to leave than it was for slaves in the pre-civil war south? Yes. Is it easier for a d/s slave to exercise the choice to leave than it was for Roman slaves to do so? Yes. Does the fact that it is easier for the modern d/s slave to exercise the choice to leave make the modern day d/s slave any less a slave? No, I do not think so.

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You are welcome to print or save this post for your own use. Please do not copy it to any public or semi-public forum (including email groups/lists) without my express permission. Thanks. All rights reserved. (I write this postscript because after-the-fact someone wrote to me to inform me that they had copied a prior post I wrote to another list. So, I thought I'd better clarify what my preference/policy is regarding use of what I write.)

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RE: Slaves, slaves, slaves EVERYWHERE - 12/28/2004 7:43:47 AM   
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I just hit the reply button on the last thread posted so I'm not directing this toward anyone.

I'd like to thank the people who have expressed their views. The reason that I brought this up is because I'm one who takes a more literal view on the word slave and when using that term, I don't feel that I'm on the same page when having a conversation with someone pertaining to slaves and slavery. In my experience, the only group of people that I can say I have been on the same page with when discussing slaves and slavery have been European FemDoms.

This is *my* personal belief, but "consentual slavery" to me implies that the said slave has 2 choices (as opposed to non consentual slavery), the choice to pick their owners and the choice to leave. In between those two choices, if the slave in question dictates in any way what can or cannot be done to it. . .it negates the whole concept of slavery. To identify as participating in a concept, you would have to actually exhibit the qualities/attributes/properties or that concept. I can't identify as being Christian if I believe that the path to the afterlife entails worshipping goats and eating goat feces every day. No matter how I try to rationalize that I am a Christian with the above mentioned beliefs, for those that know what a Christian is. . .that dog won't hunt.

I'm sure that there will continue to be those that will claim to be slaves and that they desire "true slavery" (I'm not niave to think that agreeing on a definition will make it less likely for those that aren't to identify as such anyway.) I just wanted to get a feel of what other people were thinking. . .and it has been helpful.

Thanks

Jules

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RE: Slaves, slaves, slaves EVERYWHERE - 12/28/2004 8:22:52 AM   
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It's interesting that I see many who call themselves slave,yet cringe when confronted by it's actual meaning.

I agree that a slave has only two choices. Any negotiating of limits comes before hand,and there's no such thing as no limits. Only that you approve of the Master's limits and ethical structure.

Because those limts ARE those of a slave-and there is no submissive negotiation within that framework, if you take this seriously. It's not one of the more common "shades of grey" dynamics seen in most scenes-it's extremely black and white.

After one consents to become property, there are *two* choices-obey, or get the hell out.

Be careful what you ask for,for some of us, this is NO fantasy!

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RE: Slaves, slaves, slaves EVERYWHERE - 12/28/2004 11:24:41 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: RealityFix

I agree that a slave has only two choices. Any negotiating of limits comes before hand,and there's no such thing as no limits. Only that you approve of the Master's limits and ethical structure.


THis is -exactly- how I feel about limits. Well said.

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RE: Slaves, slaves, slaves EVERYWHERE - 12/28/2004 11:47:07 AM   
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quote:

I agree that a slave has only two choices. Any negotiating of limits comes before hand,and there's no such thing as no limits. Only that you approve of the Master's limits and ethical structure.


I'd really like to agree with that, however, if that is the case. . .once again. . .*anyone* could be a slave. This would be *my* slave contract with my owner:

I Jules will agree to be your slave and do anything that doesn't violate my limits. My limits are:
I will do no chores or housework.
I will not work outside the home.
I will not engage in anal or oral sex.
I will only have sex when I am in the mood.
I will not follow any arbitrary orders, you must give me at least 5 hours notice.
I will not be told how to dress, what to eat, how to talk.
I will not be subjected to corporal punishment.
I will not be subjected to any kind of humiliation.
I will not be party to a poly relationship.
I will expect that you provide me with food, shelter, entertainment, coture clothing and shoes.
I will expect an allowance of $1000 per week.
This is not an all inclusive list of my limits and I maintain the right to edit this list as I realize more limits.
Other than the above said, I will do every and anything that you request of me in an obedient manner to honor you. You own me.

Your humble slave jules.

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RE: Slaves, slaves, slaves EVERYWHERE - 12/28/2004 1:11:08 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: GoddessJules

quote:

I agree that a slave has only two choices. Any negotiating of limits comes before hand,and there's no such thing as no limits. Only that you approve of the Master's limits and ethical structure.


I'd really like to agree with that, however, if that is the case. . .once again. . .*anyone* could be a slave. This would be *my* slave contract with my owner:

I Jules will agree to be your slave and do anything that doesn't violate my limits. My limits are:
I will do no chores or housework.
I will not work outside the home.
I will not engage in anal or oral sex.
I will only have sex when I am in the mood.
I will not follow any arbitrary orders, you must give me at least 5 hours notice.
I will not be told how to dress, what to eat, how to talk.
I will not be subjected to corporal punishment.
I will not be subjected to any kind of humiliation.
I will not be party to a poly relationship.
I will expect that you provide me with food, shelter, entertainment, coture clothing and shoes.
I will expect an allowance of $1000 per week.
This is not an all inclusive list of my limits and I maintain the right to edit this list as I realize more limits.
Other than the above said, I will do every and anything that you request of me in an obedient manner to honor you. You own me.

Your humble slave jules.


I don't think that was exactly what he (she?) was saying. I think he was saying that yes, one negotiates limits before hand, but that really one who defines as a slave chooses an owner whos limits match hers.

That is, I have my personal limits. I found someone who had the -same- limits. That way, I can say that I do "whatever he wants" because I know, based on our matching moral and ethical structures, that he will not ask me to do something that I will not or cannot do.

I don't think he was saying that everyone comes in with a list of expectations or limits and that the dominant party conforms to those limits or is out of luck (though that is sort of the case). Rather, a submissive party decides what he/she will NOT do, and finds someone who will not ask her to do those things.


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RE: Slaves, slaves, slaves EVERYWHERE - 12/28/2004 1:14:46 PM   
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But Perverse,

If I find someone who matches my "list of limits" (in the previous thread) I'd still be a slave by your definition.

quote:

Rather, a submissive party decides what he/she will NOT do, and finds someone who will not ask her to do those things.


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RE: Slaves, slaves, slaves EVERYWHERE - 12/28/2004 1:21:15 PM   
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Laughs..........

What I meant, was that a master puts forth his structure and ethics, and the slave decides whether she can deal with it, or not.

If she does, you begin to work together after a breaking in period.

Now what you Posted was rather NOT in the vein of what I was speaking Jules. No one interested in service is going to put up with that from a slave.

Usually the only negotiated things are more conventional like seeing the the slave has retirment money put by, or an account as a safety net, if she is released at some point.

What to do when one or the other gets sick,etc......

You know, RESPONSIBLE things, that need to be thought of BEFOREHAND?




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