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RE: D/s contract - 2/21/2005 6:13:46 PM

TallDarkAndWitty

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That lead me to believe that is all that was in it for you. Perhaps your concepts have expanded since you made that posting?

I don't think so. Training for me is an almost endless process. I have spent 7 years studying ballet, and I am a mere beginner. I do feel that once a Master has shown a slave all he has to teach, the relationship will have run its course. I would not, however call that a short-term relationship.

What I am looking for is a long-term (yet not forever) deep emotional (but not love) Master/slave relationship.

Is that so wrong? *wink*

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RE: D/s contract - 2/21/2005 6:19:55 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty
What I am looking for is a long-term (yet not forever) deep emotional (but not love) Master/slave relationship.

It's so right! Ok... I'll be the Mistress and you can be the slave, k?
<bites her tongue and wiggles her nose to the cute Dom>

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RE: D/s contract - 2/21/2005 7:16:27 PM

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What I am looking for is a long-term (yet not forever) deep emotional (but not love) Master/slave relationship.

Pardon my ignorance,
what the fuck is the point of that ?

Maybee that will work for a few people, but eventualy it will grow old since there is no light at the end of the tunnel.

it is as if you want to have some nice top shelf grade A PRIME CUTS of veal from the present years "offerings", and once the cows get older, you turn them out to pasture because you still have a taste for veal. Moving onto the next years new calves and not giving any love to your existing cash cow/ milk producer, Dairy slut, and Sub/ Slave... with them knowing they will never be anything more than that.......

that may work for a casual short term play partner, but not for anyting serious long term. Some day you keep playing like this, you will find yourself to be 55, Old horney and lonely and no one will give you the time of day because you are a cold heartless bastard, and the ONE person who you do realize you may have "loved" hates you with every fiber of their body because you shut them out of the most important emotion of all.....

Love.

Just calling it as I see it .

< Message edited by Darthbetta -- 2/21/2005 7:18:21 PM >

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RE: D/s contract - 2/21/2005 8:18:12 PM

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ORIGINAL: Darthbetta
Pardon my ignorance,

You are pardoned...

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RE: D/s contract - 2/22/2005 9:22:56 AM

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I've really been sucked into the idea of contracts myself thanks to Taggard and Mzb. I like the idea of the dominant and submissive sitting down with their own contracts and hammering out which clauses are going to remain in the final version. On the other hand I am realising I just like having things in writing as a ritual.

The process of finding a girl is too much like an interview of applicants not to take advantage of contracts in some way.

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RE: D/s contract - 2/23/2005 12:48:53 AM

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Written contracts also mean that you can refer back to them later to make a point or end a disagreement as to terms. They provide a source of reference. In addition, the writing process will often make the parties think about and clarify exactly what they mean as well as help identify missed areas.

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RE: D/s contract - 2/23/2005 12:10:09 PM

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just a word of caution. my Dominant came to me with a wonderful contract when we started out, complete with instructions for any eventual end of the relationship......none of it mattered to Him. it was a ruse, perhaps He meant it at the time, but it was never referred to again....it was a means to get me to trust Him. it impressed me very much. He must also have been impressed with me to go to so much trouble.
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RE: D/s contract - 2/23/2005 12:57:06 PM

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As the Mistress of my house and all I survey, I don't love my slaves. I have never (in my short experience of 2 years) fallen in love with a slave. I have honest caring for them just as I have for all living things. I do feel an attachment for them especially when they are particularly good at pleasing me, but I don't love them. I know it is very different when the woman is on top. I am sure it is possible for me to fall in love with a slave, but I just think it sounds weard. It is entirely possible that I am weard though.

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RE: D/s contract - 2/23/2005 1:00:42 PM

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complete with instructions for any eventual end of the relationship......

anelica,

There is a term for that - "self fulfilling prophecy".

Based on this and other of your recent posts it seems you had much more investment in this relationship then he did. Hopefully, you have some good local friends to hang out with and as someone else already suggested; "get on a buzz". If nothing else - get away, visit far away friends and come back with a clear head ready to start over, stronger and more experienced for the next attempt.

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