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EvaLass -> Ass Play (5/10/2007 1:55:28 PM)

Like most women, I had no idea until two years ago that the anus is part of the sexual system. The pelvic girdle includes the ass along with the genitals, and sexual pleasure can be enhanced through careful ass play. I say careful because anything violent that creates a tear in the anal tissue can cause a life-threatening infection that could spread quickly. I don't know the official definition of "ass play" - I don't know if it includes anal sex - but for me it involves stimulating the anal area for the purpose of enhancing sexual sensation. I was floored in discussing this topic with a Dom when I found out he knew nothing about it. He thus has no access to the tremendous pleasure that comes with this play. Someone introduced me to this form of sensory stimulation by telling me how to do it and then giving me instructions. It was really my own individual exploration and willingness to stick with what appeared to be an unpleasant assignment that led to my discovery of the exquisite possibilities of the ass in creating pleasure.

Now, getting to the point. Has anyone on the slave/submissive side introduced his/her Dom(me) to this kind of play as a form of service? This friend of mine wanted to know if a person would use gloves and so on. I said that in my opinion it would be a good idea to use gloves and that a Dominant who was the subject of ass play might even want to take an enema and shower beforehand. I know that my friend and I were talking about the health benefits of prostate massage which is a related area. I believe this is an element of Tantric sex and a also good practice, or form of service, to share if one knows how to do it.

Anybody have any experiences here to share?




Bearlee -> RE: Ass Play (5/10/2007 2:01:52 PM)

 
No, because I'm worried about your scolding me for my lack of concern regarding 'health interests'. 
 
I am of the belief you get as much skat in your mouth opening doors and later sucking your fingers than you might rimming your boyfriend's freshly bathed butt.
 
...but that's just me.
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slavemaia -> RE: Ass Play (5/10/2007 2:03:31 PM)

Hmmmm - interesting - no profile to be found - pfffffffffft!!!!!




mistoferin -> RE: Ass Play (5/10/2007 2:05:09 PM)

yeah...I noticed that too....




Bearlee -> RE: Ass Play (5/10/2007 2:05:54 PM)

 

Really?  She has one on this side.......and two pages of posts, to boot.
 
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EvaLass -> RE: Ass Play (5/10/2007 2:15:35 PM)

Bearlee,

Please forgive me. I have some health issues that require me to be more careful than some people. I don't mean to judge. I just don't know about rimming, so I wanted to be careful in what I said. I know I am somewhat phobic about exposure to pathogens, but I have to be. 

Yes, profile is down right now.  I didn't think that would be a problem for anyone. Sorry, guys. I have a personal reason for deactivating it for the time being. Summary is that I am a very inexperienced submissive in my early 50s with a sensual bent. Looking for a sensual Dom with a sense of humor and high intelligence. Not a masochist or pain slut and not looking for a sadist. That's about what it says.




EvaLass -> RE: Ass Play (5/10/2007 2:23:40 PM)

I have removed the reference to rimming. I don't know anything about it and have no experience with it. I did not mean to offend anyone.




Bearlee -> RE: Ass Play (5/10/2007 2:35:38 PM)

 
Well...how 'bout this.  I apologize for assuming it was a 'moral' or 'squick' issue and had no idea you had health issues...(tho' still stand by what I said about cleanliness), one CAN, I suppose, still indulge the joys of rimming....with a dental dam or piece of plasticwrap. 
 
Of course it feels good.  It feels damn good.  It seems more than a little sad when people ignore such a wonderful bundle of sensual-loving nerve endings!
 
And...the profile thing didn't bother me one bit.  <shrugs>
 
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edited cuz I STILL cannot spell!  aaarrrrrrrrrrrggggggggg...




EvaLass -> RE: Ass Play (5/10/2007 2:45:08 PM)

Not a moral issue. I actually think it would be fun. The consequences for me, though, might be serious. If I had a monogamous partner/Dom who was willing to give up the pleasures of other women for me...not a reality right now. As far as cleanliness, you are right that most of the surfaces we touch every day are probably dirtier than a freshly bathed butt.

Thanks.




Bearlee -> RE: Ass Play (5/10/2007 2:51:09 PM)

 

Wellllllllllllllll.... if it's an issue...(regardless of why)...the protection might allow for most of the fun, at least.  I don't think a guy being monogamous has anything to do with what one might catch kissing his butt, though. 
 
smiles,
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timorous -> RE: Ass Play (5/10/2007 3:01:18 PM)

Thanks for getting to the point.

I'm only sorry you lost it again so quickly.




Bearlee -> RE: Ass Play (5/10/2007 3:05:47 PM)

 

Okay...YOU tell me then.  What has being monogomous to do with what one might catch rimming someone?  What has even LOVE, got to do with it?
 
Just wondering what your problem is here...
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Wildfleurs -> RE: Ass Play (5/10/2007 3:16:45 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: EvaLass

Like most women, I had no idea until two years ago that the anus is part of the sexual system. The pelvic girdle includes the ass along with the genitals, and sexual pleasure can be enhanced through careful ass play. I say careful because anything violent that creates a tear in the anal tissue can cause a life-threatening infection that could spread quickly. I don't know the official definition of "ass play" - I don't know if it includes anal sex - but for me it involves stimulating the anal area for the purpose of enhancing sexual sensation. I was floored in discussing this topic with a Dom when I found out he knew nothing about it. He thus has no access to the tremendous pleasure that comes with this play. Someone introduced me to this form of sensory stimulation by telling me how to do it and then giving me instructions. It was really my own individual exploration and willingness to stick with what appeared to be an unpleasant assignment that led to my discovery of the exquisite possibilities of the ass in creating pleasure.

Now, getting to the point. Has anyone on the slave/submissive side introduced his/her Dom(me) to this kind of play as a form of service? This friend of mine wanted to know if a person would use gloves and so on. I said that in my opinion it would be a good idea to use gloves and that a Dominant who was the subject of ass play might even want to take an enema and shower beforehand. I know that my friend and I were talking about the health benefits of prostate massage which is a related area. I believe this is an element of Tantric sex and a also good practice, or form of service, to share if one knows how to do it.

Anybody have any experiences here to share?



Just from my experience, I think you'd be hard pressed to find a dominant who will give themselves an enema beforehand for ass play.  I think a shower is really sufficient, and if they are worried about STD's, gloves seem appropriate.

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shyinini -> RE: Ass Play (5/10/2007 3:25:47 PM)

Eva....
forget it




PONYSEEKER -> RE: Ass Play (5/10/2007 3:28:14 PM)

LOL what a hillarious thread!




Bearlee -> RE: Ass Play (5/10/2007 3:33:57 PM)

Funny…and it’s my experience a guy who likes ass play WILL often do a short rinse inside…but I suppose that depends on just what ass-play means to the individual!  LOL
 
Okay, I don’t sound all that fastidious here, but I will say, I prefer baths (long, hot, soapy baths) to showers, for this kind of play...even if he DID rinse inside. 
 
And I STILL wonder (but for the emotional intimacy of it all) what monogamy has to do with how safe rimming is.  Yanno?
 
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EvaLass -> RE: Ass Play (5/10/2007 4:37:20 PM)

Okay, what does monogamy have to do with it? If I had a monogamous partner who I trusted - with whom I was fluid bonded - I personally wouldn't worry much about STDs from this or other activities.  I would feel generally okay and not really have "health concerns." If I were going out with a Dom who had simultaneous partners, who might or might use protection, then I would have concerns. This is not limited to rimming. It is any kind of direct exchange of bodily fluids.

If the Dom felt that he might be embarrassed if he were not completely clean during ass play, I think that he might indeed take a "short rinse" as bearlee said. The anal canal is relatively short and usually clean. Then, he wouldn't be self-conscious. 





Bearlee -> RE: Ass Play (5/10/2007 5:40:19 PM)

 
Aaahhhhhhhhhh...and here I thought we were talking about the general...dirtyness...of asses.  You know...e-coli and the such.
 
Sorry...was off on the wrong track, apparently.
 
(no pun intended)
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EvaLass -> RE: Ass Play (5/10/2007 5:43:24 PM)

No, you are right. A good soapy bath or shower is probably fine.






Bearlee -> RE: Ass Play (5/10/2007 5:48:09 PM)

 
EvaLass,
 
The thing about SaranWrap was serious... that and dental dams; you do know of them, yes?  I'm not sure just how new you are...
 
Folks with STDs use such things...so they can continue to be intimate w/their partners.
 
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