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RE: Style or Substance? - 6/3/2005 12:33:49 PM

MadameDahlia

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I'll mention it to a few that I know would be interested. If all goes well I should hopefully be there.

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RE: Style or Substance? - 6/3/2005 1:00:52 PM

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They are replacing Carnavale de Sade with DV8 http://passivearts.com/prodtype.asp?PT_ID=110&strPageHistory=cat They are keeping the door charge at $10 per person. This weekend (June 4th) is Club Fetish.. $20 per single or $30 a couple.

Damn! beth & I have a conflect this weekend and will miss this.

Next weekend we are hosting some friends from upstate CA and will be going to the "LA Pride Festival". Anyone else planning on attending? This is the info from Lady Badger's SoCal Event's site:

LA Pride Festival is the annual event for the Los Angeles LGBT Community, held at West Hollywood Park, located along San Vicente Blvd between Santa Monica Blvd and Melrose Ave. This annual celebration continues to draw over 100,000
people each year and remains a major focus for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender pride in the Los Angeles area.

Erotic City is the section of the LA Pride Festival that presents our leather, fetish, bdsm and kink community in a positive light and includes vendors, workshops, demonstrations and information.

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RE: Style or Substance? - 6/3/2005 2:57:30 PM

Estring

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What a great time that was. Always fun to hang out with you guys.
My slave and I have attended these functions before with you and we have had this discussion before about the large amount of "Looky Loos" that attend. This was the first time that I had noticed the large amount of younger people who did seem to be more into the dressing up rather than the actual playing. There was even a group of girls playing dodgeball in the hallway. Lol.
I think it has become cool for many young people to seem to be a part of this "Lifestyle" without really actually being a part of it. And as always, for the guys, they get to see naked women.

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RE: Style or Substance? - 6/4/2005 6:22:27 AM

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ORIGINAL: Estring
And as always, for the guys, they get to see naked women.

*snort* oh yeah, like that's a younger male thing.

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RE: Style or Substance? - 6/4/2005 1:47:58 PM

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I have to agree that it seems the younger crowd is more into playing dress-up, especially young ladies. I think EmeraldSlave2 hit the nail on the head.

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I think it's a growth thing. The younger crowd is growing INTO the public scene, the older generations have grown into themselves and THEN gotten into the scene.

BDSM is generally very sexual by it's very nature, even when sex is not involved. There is a lot of social baggage that people carry around with them concerning sex. I think that causes more problems with younger people who haven't had the time or experience to decide for themselves what is right for them.

It seems that when fantasy is confronted by reality a lot of them from both sexes get weeded out oof BDSM though. There are some interesting dynamics with the younger crowd. I've noticed that young men seeking acceptance as a Dominant have a difficult time with many of the disciplines required to excel at it, while young women take to them quite easily. Ironicly, IMHO while the social stygma of male submission is very strong in both young men and women who are truly submissive or Dominant by nature, they tend to lean towards the traditional roles, even though they are ill suited for them.

On the other hand, young men seem to be more willing to go beyond their fantasies and submit to women, while young women want to hold on to their fantasies of submission to a Dominant male as long as possible. Young men who are in it just for sex usually don't last long, but what straight young man doesn't want a beautiful woman to play with his pecker? Young women are more afraid that it will actually involve sexual activity and approach the scene with socially traditional views. ie: "Good girls don't!"

So Dominant women wonder where all the serious, young, male submissives are, because there are so many who are so eager to take off their clothes, while Dominant males wonder where all the serious, young, submissive females are because there aren't. I think that as men and women grow older, the emotional and physical needs of most people tend to become more attuned to the opposite sex.

Just some idle thoughts on the subject.
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