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KeirasSecret -> RE: Question for the women .. (5/12/2007 6:40:40 PM)
It’s not just you. :) The word pusillanimous comes to mind. ;) The ones who think they can order me around, like their being male makes them superior to me, really get me. It doesn’t take long for them to come to the understanding, if they can’t put their money where their mouth is, it’s not a place they want to go. k

MsCara -> RE: Question for the women .. (5/12/2007 7:13:35 PM)
exactly !! ~~

poisonedkandy -> RE: Question for the women .. (5/12/2007 7:18:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MsCara Would you find a "vanilla" "date" interesting? With the vanilla people I find potential with, yeah. Then again, I spend the entire date finding and perhaps even pushing boundaries. I guess I get caught up in the anticipation and thoughts of what could be.

KatyLied -> RE: Question for the women .. (5/12/2007 7:24:31 PM)
I would find a vanilla date interesting. Actually I'm not so hardcore about the lifestyle that I couldn't enjoy a relationship with a vanilla guy. Especially if he's intelligent and functions at a high level, in general, in life. You never know who may be up for some exploration.

IdiotMale -> RE: Question for the women .. (5/12/2007 7:26:35 PM)
My ex girlfriend/owner used to go out on an occasional vanilla date with a guy and she loved it,especially when it would usually lead to good sex for her and him. As her cuckold/slave/bf it was normal for me to love it as well though.So it worked out quite nicely for all involved. :)

MsCara -> RE: Question for the women .. (5/12/2007 7:30:46 PM)
looks at the idiotguy .. ::blink

MsCara -> RE: Question for the women .. (5/12/2007 7:34:14 PM)
nods to Katy .. I think I understand what you are saying. You would date or have a relationship with a vanilla man in hopes that he would at some point take control. Is that right?

KeirasSecret -> RE: Question for the women .. (5/12/2007 7:57:36 PM)
I’ve thought about this a little more. I think I would have a very hard time having vanilla relationship, even friendships are…. different, now. Since I tend to be attracted to those who at least appear dominant, if they try and fail, I loose respect for them. Also, the physical act of sex is not what turns me on; my drive is centered more on the “spiritual” (lack of better term) connection. These days I would have to be drinking to even be interested in having sex with a vanilla male because they have no idea how to turn me on, and if they ain’t got it in em’ I find they suck at pretending. They think it is about force, which just pisses me off. I believe it is about creating a desire. k

curiousexplorer -> RE: Question for the women .. (5/12/2007 8:21:00 PM)
"Just a question .. I am curious .. I know, it killed the cat." Curiousity may have killed the cat, but satisfaction brought it back.

CypherEnigma -> RE: Question for the women .. (5/12/2007 8:37:05 PM)
All i have to say is the lifestyle has tainted my view of nillas. All of the 'full of themselves" bully nillas now crack me up. I stand there and wonder if their pretty lacy panties are thong or crotchless...lmao... such he man!!

texancutie -> RE: Question for the women .. (5/12/2007 8:45:48 PM)
Not at all. I don't think one is better than another. I don't despise any males in my family, or males that are friends, for being vanilla. I also do not think they are weak either, they are just different than Dominants or Masters is all.

AcademyForSlaves -> RE: Question for the women .. (5/12/2007 9:00:19 PM)
Yes it has. When I meet vanilla men I now have more confidence to be myself and be upfront, bold, and blunt with them to see if they are sub. Right away I can tell if he is a potential slave for me. And if he isn't I don't feel disappointed anymore because I know at the Academy there's lots of men that are willing to be my slave.

DiurnalVampire -> RE: Question for the women .. (5/12/2007 9:02:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MsCara Just a question .. I am curious .. I know, it killed the cat. I pose this question to the women on the board. Has the way you "look", "feel", "relate" to men in this way of living affected the way you "look" at vanilla men? I don't necessarily mean in a relationship .. just in general .. C. Yes, but not in a bad way. I have learned how to spot people who will not work well with me personalitywise. I am better at seeing a dominant or submissive personality, and it maks interpersonal relations easier when I know ahead of time whose heads I will be butting and whose I wont. DV

daddysliloneds -> RE: Question for the women .. (5/12/2007 11:49:45 PM)
nope; i look at all of them alike and am attracted to very few of them because of such.

haysup -> RE: Question for the women .. (5/12/2007 11:57:46 PM)
Your question is a little heteronormative... :P

MsCara -> RE: Question for the women .. (5/13/2007 4:30:14 AM)
heteronormative .. I like that word .....I think? <grins> Keira .. You have hit the proverbial nail on the head. We are thinking the exact lines .. So to sum it up .. most of us might consider the date/relationship IF we could lead him down the path of Domliness OR could beat him .. I LOVE it. I also am very confident around nilla men .. it's as though I am thinking, .. "silly man get away from me .. you have no power here with your little comments about s-e-x and G-strings .. " I respect all of the opinions made here and thank everyone for jumping in. ~~ hugs all around .. c.

Sirandlittle1 -> RE: Question for the women .. (5/13/2007 4:49:59 AM)
Actually, ive allways considered my 'turning vanilla's' in much the same way a friend of mine would attempt to turn straight people gay. Its the challenge i think. Of course, i dont do such things now i know someone who doesnt need to be turned lol quote: ORIGINAL: poisonedkandy quote: ORIGINAL: Sirandlittle1 I used to date vanilla's. And try to 'turn' them. Now i see that you just cant 'create' a bdsm fan. You can certainly encourage a top. But as for a D or a s, unless its there, your wasting your time and choice. I do what Sirandlittle use to do. It's not something I intentionaly do but everytime I see a vanilla man I am attracted to it's a temptation too irrisitable to pass up! Especially if I see such potential in them. This probably has to do with the lack of quality when it comes to kinky guys in my area.

LightHeartedMaam -> RE: Question for the women .. (5/13/2007 7:22:52 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MsCara Just a question .. I am curious .. I know, it killed the cat. I pose this question to the women on the board. Has the way you "look", "feel", "relate" to men in this way of living affected the way you "look" at vanilla men? I don't necessarily mean in a relationship .. just in general .. C. It showed me how deeply a man can feel. If anything, I am more considerate of them.

gypsygrl -> RE: Question for the women .. (5/13/2007 7:46:28 AM)
I don't think its changed the way I relate to men, in general. I've never been much of a flirt, tend to keep men at a distance and can be scary-cold if they piss me off. If I like them, I tend to be rather flip and vaguely combative without being confrotational. That's still true.

MsCara -> RE: Question for the women .. (5/13/2007 9:03:30 AM)
It showed me how deeply a man can feel. If anything, I am more considerate of them. ... Interesting .. I totally discount them. It just shows how we all think differently .. thats the amazing thing about life isn't it?

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