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RE: Question for the women .. - 5/14/2007 11:08:09 AM

slaverosebeauty

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ORIGINAL: hiddendesires2

I aslo tend to look at vanilla men as weak. I don't date vanilla at all anymore. Simply dosen't excite me.

lol.. You must NOT know the vanilla men I know. I find them intriguing, not to mention REAL gentlemen. Lifestyle men have expectations and end up acting like a**holes for the most part, vanilla men understand that foreplay and having conversatiosn without sex or pressure to get into bed or out of my clothes is important. The guy I am with right now is vanilla and very openminded, I can't be happier or excited.

Like my profile says, I have decided to ONLY date vanilla men; I want a well rounded loving relationship, not a dictatorship. Most lifestyle men that I have been in contact with the last 4or 5 years have forgotten what its like to be a GENTLEMAN.

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RE: Question for the women .. - 5/14/2007 11:24:13 AM

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I guess I'll put it this way...if a man is not in power then I'm just not attracted to him. The only vanilla men I would be attracted to at this point would be the boss/head of the household types and that attraction is too superficial to last very long. But I respect all men whether I have some control over them or not.

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RE: Question for the women .. - 5/14/2007 6:08:33 PM

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Note to LuckyAlbatross .. maybe you haven't fround the right Dominant? <grins>
Thank you to everyone for the great comments and opinions. I have had fun reading through this ! june .. thats the bottom line isn't it? I agree!
By the way .. I think D/s is a dictatorship .. it certainly isn't a democracy. <grins again> .. to each His/his/Her/her own !! ~~

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RE: Question for the women .. - 5/14/2007 6:34:15 PM

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I think it's more you have a bias to see what you want to see.

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RE: Question for the women .. - 5/15/2007 10:35:03 AM

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or live ...

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RE: Question for the women .. - 5/15/2007 10:49:34 AM

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I find Myself looking at vanilla men wondering if they could be submissive.
I think they all could be part of the time, when they WANT.
I need to KNOW for a fact they are for a man with the slave attitude is the only kind I will be happy with.

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RE: Question for the women .. - 5/15/2007 10:49:55 AM

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well, the last vanilla woman i met, even though i pulled her hair and smacked her arse, still gave me a parking ticket!!

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RE: Question for the women .. - 5/15/2007 10:53:53 AM

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lol

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RE: Question for the women .. - 5/15/2007 2:35:40 PM

LadyHugs

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Dear MsCara, Ladies and Gentlemen;

In my mind's eyes I see, that all individuals that I encounter deserve respect and offer it freely regardless.

I find that my experiences in the lifestyle just enhances or makes me keen on behaviors, be it lifestyle or not and practice the art of M/s in such a subtle manner and transmit power where I go--at times I feel the vanilla individuals pick up on a power that cannot be described.

That said, I rarely find an individual who does not wish to feel respected, that they are acknowledged and that they feel that they are the most important person in your world when you speak to them.
I always have this in my spirit of intent -- I do enjoy being able to extend my mastery as to help others.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
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RE: Question for the women .. - 5/15/2007 6:28:43 PM

bliss1

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Not really.

I know I couldn't be in a relationship with a man who wasn't strong in his actions - but he wouldn't have to call himself a Dom.
As long as he could look at me an say - you are out of line, take a time out.

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RE: Question for the women .. - 5/15/2007 7:57:32 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsCara

Just a question .. I am curious .. I know, it killed the cat. I pose this question to the women on the board. Has the way you "look", "feel", "relate" to men in this way of living affected the way you "look" at vanilla men? I don't necessarily mean in a relationship .. just in general ..

C.

I have looked at men the way I do now,only now I tend to be a lot more open about it.
I threw out the book granny gave Me on how a Woman should blah,blah,blah for a man.

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RE: Question for the women .. - 5/16/2007 9:54:04 AM

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No, it's not changed how I view men.
Way before I was aware of BDSM I always seeked Dominant vanilla men, and could recognize submissive vanilla men.
How I view them has not changed over all.
Now would I be able to date a only vanilla man who's not into taking control in bed, in our relationship, and spanking me at least some of the time, HELL NO.
Never again.
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RE: Question for the women .. - 5/16/2007 11:49:34 AM

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Hmm ...I'm new...
However, I've found men in my life who have never "officially" been BDSM to have BDSM-like personalities. I believe, in general, I am attracted to fierce, intelligent, yet sensitive Doms. But then again, I'm trying not to stereotype.
~naivetee

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RE: Question for the women .. - 5/16/2007 11:57:56 AM

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Hi,
I am only attracted to dominant, assertive, confident men. I usually put a few feelers out on a vanilla date to see how assertive they are. By the 2nd or 3rd date I usually come out with the fact that I can only be content with a man who can control me both mentally and physically, this is where they cough, splutter and choke on their pint! Still, it saves wasting their and my time.

So, I view vanilla men as maybe a hopeful but with little confidence that a relationship will ensue. If I am not looking for a relationship with them then I treat them with respect as I would any person.

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RE: Question for the women .. - 5/16/2007 1:40:45 PM

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I am naturally drawn to Dominant men. I can usually pick them out if I talk with them. I guess sometimes I look at people and wonder if they're kinky or not, but I usually take people for face value and interact with them on a non sexual level in the same way as I would if they were wearing five million emblem tattoos.

And yeah, I would find a 'nilla date interesting if it was a good date. I had a boy take me to a G rated movie and buy me tea once and I was tickled pink despite the lack of chains. Maybe I'm just easily pleased...

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RE: Question for the women .. - 5/16/2007 1:47:19 PM

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i have developed a certain fish eye for all Men on the 'net, vanilla or kink. i think that was inevitable and prolly happens to E/everyone. In r/l i have had several 1st dates with vanilla Men without any spark.........but who knows why.

BTW, in general i love to flirt.

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