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pixelslave -> RE: OK Guys....our turn! (5/17/2007 8:51:28 AM)
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ORIGINAL: stella40
Women may be more into aesthetics, but men appreciate the visual aspects of someone's appearance much differently than women. It's how they're hardwired.
I'd agree that men are generally hardwired to be more visual than women, although responses to the "Physical Attractiveness" thread might indicate that visual appeal is more important to Dommes on the whole (as a subset of women in general), than I'd realized. [8|]
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Therefore this is just for many men a surface issue. This is what they like and what turns them on, not what they necessarily expect.
An experienced or realistic sub never expects anything in particular from a Domme other than the unexpected and for things to be how she'd generally like them to be. [sm=tongue.gif]
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Most men are pleasers, they like to give pleasure, and they like to see the effects of their efforts in giving someone pleasure. By the same token they like to receive pleasure, and are usually very appreciative of those who make an effort to please them. Which is why many men would go for the lady with the less than perfect figure who makes an effort and takes the trouble over the lady with the perfect figure who doesn't.
So very true! A power exchange is exactly that: an exchange; it's not a total abdication! Reciprocity is something that can resonably be expected as part of the exchange and it is very much appreciated by the submissive! I think it's something they should be able to expect in certain areas as negotiated and in others as part of the normal human exchange. [&:]
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Women like to look nice and wear nice clothing, but they are not so hung up over what other people wear as men are. But then again most men don't suffer from indecision over what to wear for an evening out.
What women have you been hanging out with? My observation has been that women tend to dress for other women in a competitive sort of way. Yes, most men notice what women are wearing, but women dress to compete with other women. Consequently I see women as being far more hung up on what people wear then men are. I'll add that when in a relationship, I don't pay any attention to other women and usually SHE has to point them out to me. [8|]
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I think this is a good thread and I'm finding the responses interesting. They know that clothing isn't the be all and end all, but I don't see any harm in them discussing what they like to see women wear. No harm at all.
You didn't have to hear from my Mistress this morning who was upset that she thought I'd left the impression she wore pants that were too tight! [image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m23.gif[/image]
- pixel
(who has decided it is best he have nothing more to say on this subject)
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