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Physical Attractiveness - 5/15/2007 1:53:06 PM   
DrPleasure


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RE: Physical Attractiveness - 5/15/2007 1:59:52 PM   
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hum.  do a search for my answer.

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RE: Physical Attractiveness - 5/15/2007 2:10:45 PM   
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How important is physical attractiveness to you in a partner be it dom/sub/top/bottom/slave/master...


Shallow though it may seem attractiveness is very important to me in a partner. It's a part of the turn on. It's difficult to convey the ideology behind it but I'll attempt it. Hopefully it will make sense.

The idea of having a very attractive man as my cuck makes it all the more hotter. There is just something about having a cuck that any woman in a room drools over, would give their eye tooth to lure him into their bed and yet, there he is by my side as my adoring, worshipful companion.

To have him by my side, of his own free will, knowing that he's chosen the life of a cuckold being kept under lock and key (both literally and figuratively) on a very short leash rather than being able to bed anyone he wants. That he voluntarily choses to submit to a life as My cuckold over any other just puts the energy from that type of power exchange through the roof for me.

Many different things lend itself to a male being attractive. To me it is a combination of physical, intellectual, disposition and accomplishment. That combination is what makes someone attractive to me. It is not simply looks alone.

< Message edited by SDFemDom4cuck -- 5/15/2007 2:11:46 PM >

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RE: Physical Attractiveness - 5/15/2007 4:12:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		I have to be attracted to the person.  What I consider attractive can depend on many things, though.

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RE: Physical Attractiveness - 5/15/2007 4:26:30 PM   
slaveboyforyou


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Status: offline 		Attraction is important to me, but I have my own ideas about who and who is not attractive.  Physical attraction will lure me in initially, but I have to feel some kind of spark for it to go any further.  That spark does not come from physical attraction alone.  My ideas of physical beauty depend on each individual person.  I don't have any particular preference when it comes to body type, hair and eye color, facial structure, etc.  Like I said, it depends on each individual person.   

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RE: Physical Attractiveness - 5/15/2007 7:56:21 PM   
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I have to be attracted to the person.  What I consider attractive can depend on many things, though.


Yes, there's something that comes from within that as I talk with a woman and get to know her better, I find she can become increasingly attractive and discover that she becomes more beautiful to me; eventually to the exclusion of any interest in others.  
 
I've met women I was initially physically attracted to.  Soon after they started to speak, that ended it all for me and the attraction was quickly gone.
 
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RE: Physical Attractiveness - 5/15/2007 10:28:36 PM   
Mikal


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Status: offline 		OP - if there is no initial attraction, how do you connect with another person? Granted, looks aren't everything, but if you have the greatest personality & sense of humour, but are so obese that you can't walk down a few stairs, have very bad acne, rotted teeth, and a general slovenly appearance... do you really think that your personality & humour will be enough to overcome the initial impression?

So, yes, there has to be some type of physical attraction. May just be the way her eyes catch the light, or the fragrance of her skin as she walks by, but there has to be something.

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RE: Physical Attractiveness - 5/15/2007 10:43:08 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DrPleasure

How important is physical attractiveness to you in a partner be it dom/sub/top/bottom/slave/master...


Yes.

And no. 

Throw in maybe too! 

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RE: Physical Attractiveness - 5/16/2007 12:20:19 AM   
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Status: offline 		My Pet and I were completely into eachother having only heard eachother's voices and online chat.  When I finally saw her, it wouldn't have mattered to me.  In my more "vanilla" meetings, I do tend to put some focus on looks.  I like larger women and fair skin, so features that are looked down upon by MTV are my goddess.

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RE: Physical Attractiveness - 5/16/2007 3:07:03 AM   
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Status: offline 		I have to admit, there has to be a level of physical attraction.  I often ask people for face pics through email to see what they look like, because I know it's important to Me.  Of course, it's not first on the list, but it's certainly in the top ten of things that I consider.  I will say that a person's level of attraction in My eyes will increase or decrease depending on what else I see that comes from within.  Speaking of eyes, I generally find them to be one of the main components of what will attract Me.  Not to mention hair!

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RE: Physical Attractiveness - 5/16/2007 4:40:29 AM   
canupleaseme


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Status: offline 		Hmm Its hard to answer because I was instantly attracted to my boy both personality wise and looks wise.
In the past ive had people ive played with both vanilla and kinky and its been amixture of both.  One of my long standing fuck buddies I wouldnt of looked twice at looks wise but his personality was just ouzing sex appeal and attraction so how he looked didnt really matter to me at all and he grew more attractive to me as time went on.
And some of them were stunners but god they were utter twats.  I'd like to say I'm not shallow I guess it depends on how you meet someone and wether you get a chance to get to know someone before you judge them on their looks.  I worried for a long time that people would judge me on mine when I was really overweight and felt bad about myself but you know what I got more offers during that time in my life than i get now lol.  I think its easy to be shallow when you sit and think about how you would see someone in your head but when it comes down to it if you met someone in a club and started talking to them wether you found them attractive or not if you hit it off after a while they can seem like the most gorgeous person in there.


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RE: Physical Attractiveness - 5/16/2007 4:51:30 AM   
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ORIGINAL: earthycouple

Didn't we just do this????

hum.  do a search for my answer.


At least 3 times in the last week alone



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RE: Physical Attractiveness - 5/16/2007 5:37:01 AM   
MissOchistic


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Status: offline 		If i plan to have a sexual/physical relationship with a person, it's pretty damn important.

If not, it's the last thing on my mind.


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RE: Physical Attractiveness - 5/16/2007 10:07:22 AM   
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Status: offline 		Its funny actually....women always complain that men are too shallow or only care about looks. But when push comes to shove, women are exactly the same way.

Personally I think society as a whole is very judgemental and physical appearance is extremely important. I saw on TV this show that made this actor ugly and distorted his appearance purposesly and then he went to different places asking for an employment application. Several places seemed to purposely take forever to locate the forms and a few claimed they didn't even have any. Then this guy did the same thing with his normal attrative appearance. A few places that claimed they were out of applications were offering jobs before he even filled it out. In other words these places were more concerned about physical appearance than qualifications or job history.

And then people wonder why we have such a high number of problems such as depression and eating disorders in our society. Some will go even to the length of killing themselves. And you dont see this kind of thing very much outside the western world. In my opinion, we dont have a very healthy society right now.

And yes, I am a psychology major so I know a little bit about what I'm talking about...

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RE: Physical Attractiveness - 5/16/2007 10:15:37 AM   
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Status: offline 		i would certainly prefer that people in the street didn't point and laugh at my woman, or i would get into lots more fights than i want to, but beauty is in the eye of the beholder!

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RE: Physical Attractiveness - 5/16/2007 11:03:41 AM   
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Status: offline 		Extremely important. If I'm not attracted to her, she has no power of seduction over me, and it's very unlikely that I could ever feel submissive to her.

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RE: Physical Attractiveness - 5/17/2007 2:15:49 AM   
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ORIGINAL: DrPleasure

How important is physical attractiveness to you in a partner be it dom/sub/top/bottom/slave/master...


Damn…. There was a time in my life {20-30’s} that if she didn’t have a nice tight little body, I wouldn’t have taken a second look. But boy did I end up with more than one prude that way.

Nowadays the focus has changed. While I like em’ attractive, I’m much more inclined to pick learned, creative and kinky.

Yes…Without a doubt, as we gain wisdom we become much less superficial.





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RE: Physical Attractiveness - 5/17/2007 4:14:38 AM   
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Status: offline 		Physical attractiveness does draw me to a woman in the beginning. I do feel that it is more than just skin-deep. When I look at an older dominant woman, I see really beauty. I see that she is confident of who she is and what she wants out of life. It is how she interacts with other people and how she handles herself. In addition, yes I find her physical attractive too.
I would need to get to know things about her. There has to be more than just looks. Do we have things in common? The whole package is what matters.

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RE: Physical Attractiveness - 5/17/2007 5:14:38 AM   
electrikfur


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ORIGINAL: cyberdude611

Its funny actually....women always complain that men are too shallow or only care about looks. But when push comes to shove, women are exactly the same way.

Personally I think society as a whole is very judgemental and physical appearance is extremely important. I saw on TV this show that made this actor ugly and distorted his appearance purposesly and then he went to different places asking for an employment application. Several places seemed to purposely take forever to locate the forms and a few claimed they didn't even have any. Then this guy did the same thing with his normal attrative appearance. A few places that claimed they were out of applications were offering jobs before he even filled it out. In other words these places were more concerned about physical appearance than qualifications or job history.

And then people wonder why we have such a high number of problems such as depression and eating disorders in our society. Some will go even to the length of killing themselves. And you dont see this kind of thing very much outside the western world. In my opinion, we dont have a very healthy society right now.

And yes, I am a psychology major so I know a little bit about what I'm talking about...


wel, to acting agencies defense...your appearance is what they're hiring usually. all actors tend to get typecasted as a certain someone. i bet there is a hell of a lot more roles out there for attractive people than normal/below average people. that's just the way the acting game works.

you do see it outside the western world, but not so much in underdeveloped countries no.

this is an interesting paper
http://clearinghouse.missouriwestern.edu/manuscripts/197.asp

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RE: Physical Attractiveness - 5/17/2007 5:22:44 AM   
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women always complain that men are too shallow or only care about looks. But when push comes to shove, women are exactly the same way


Really?  I don't think anyone said they only cared about looks.  It is important.  What is considered physically attractive, though, can vary greatly from person to person.  Also, as many have said, the person can get more attractive (or less) when all other factors are considered.  I don't think finding physical attractiveness important is shallow.  I think it's realistic.  What is shallow is if it was the only criteria and that criteria excluded the possibility of anyone who was not classically good looking.

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