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LadyHugs -> RE: "Under Consideration" (5/16/2007 10:50:58 AM)
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Dear pinksugarsub, Ladies and Gentlemen;
Under consideration was used as a term, before the "Internet" and the ability to network and find others from behind the monitor.
From my salad days in the lifestyle, many of my Gay Leather circles used this term as to give a chance to let a couple find out if they were compatable beyond the 'sex' and the Leather and or M/s. In my mind's eyes I see -- the effort was finding out about the entire person, not the public persona where most met each other in bar settings and or on biker road trips or ralley.
Those days, I do recall the use of a blue leather collar as to mark a boy under consideration. It was the etiquette of the day to be hands off, not undermind the two in this exploring stage --giving them a real chance to discover beyond the lust, beyond impulse and beyond public package and or model and stand sorts.
It would be polite to inform others that you are in a 'consideration' phase and perhaps, adding that for this time--without those who interfere as to give the two of you a chance to really discover each other without distraction.
As for a slave to put dibs on a Master -- Well, it can be considered a notice to the Master, that a slave is interested. However, both the Master and slave are independent individuals until they both agree to take it into the next levels. We hear about slaves having to consent, well not enough is mentioned about the Master has to consent also.
If things did not work out, there was absolutely no harm done to either party, the collar off the boy was a free agent again. But, I will also mention in those days, Masters were not so 'cut throat' and out to collect as to have numbers for a stable per se. Masters talked with each other and would alert other Masters if they had a boy that might be worth consideration. Those times were when people cared about the slaves and or boys deeply, as to be looking for anybody that would be a good match. Everybody sought happiness. The Leather men networked and did what they could to make that a possibility.
Please do understand, these times were the days where cell phones did not exist, not everybody had circles they could circulate in. People were invited by reference and careful consideration was given before allowed into such circles, as discrete was the keystone for those days.
I do agree with the philosophy behind the 'collar of consideration' as well as the need to go more deeply beyond sex, play and parties--to develop some sense of who a person really is. In their best of times and in the worst of times. Relationships go beyond Leather, M/s and kinky sex--it really is about total individuals--flaws and all. The patience level for all involved was much higher and longer in those days. It was a big step, a big commitment. Now days, people take more time in considering their automobile purchase then their relationships. Slowing things down may be a wise thing to do in these days of 'on demand' and 'instant gratification and or demand.'
Just some thoughts.
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs
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