soultoshare
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Hang in there Fantasy.....i too am a late bloomer in the lifestyle. Since i have been on various sites, i have "chatted" with many players, met a few jerks, but on the other hand, have met a few nice guys. I had a similar experience with someone that i actually met, and clicked with, but suddenly he started making demands with no regard for my hard limits, and playing head games with me that under any other circumstances, i would NEVER have taken from a man. One thing i have noticed is that it is easy to imagine emotions developing on-line that are one sided. Don't let your desire to serve blind you to your common sense. I have fallen victim to that myself, and the reality of the situation is you open yourself up to getting hurt by the players out there. My rules of chatting changed over the course of time, simply because of the jerks that i did meet.
Take heart, you will find success.....it took me a little over 2 years, but i can now say that i am in a relationship that actually has promise. Just be really careful about what you put out there...guard your heart carefully. Lead with your head, try to leave your heart out of it at the beginning. Use the chatting period as a way to set boundaries, get a feel for someone outside of the bedroom or dungeon, all that can come later. There has to be something outside of both places in order for a relationship to work. In this aspect, it is no different from any other relationship.
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RE: Being dismissed.... - 
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