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ORIGINAL: Majik
It seemed we both needed what transpired that night. Not only was your needs filled but it filled MINE as well. So in my eyes it was a win win situation. Not all 'play' has to be of the rough sort.

As for what you have learned...it goes both ways. Both of us have opened up to new ideas and have learned a thing or two about ourselves in the process. Testing our limits has been a journey that will continue for as long as I want us to go down that path.

Thank you Pixel for your kind words. =]

Thank you Mistress for sharing your thoughts on the experience from your perspective with the readers of this forum.  As usual, I'm humbled by them. 
 
I'm very pleased you've decided it was time to step forward and publicly acknowledge our relationship to the members of CM. 
 
You make such a difference every moment of each day of my life.  I can't begin to imagine things reverting to what it was like before you entered into my world, changing it forever in ways that I'm still just beginning to recognize and comprehend!  More than anything else, I know I'm growing & learning through your loving guidance and direction.  I'm loving each and every moment that I experience it with you!   
 
 - pixel, sub to Majik

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ORIGINAL: Majik
It seemed we both needed what transpired that night. Not only was your needs filled but it filled MINE as well. So in my eyes it was a win win situation. Not all 'play' has to be of the rough sort.

As for what you have learned...it goes both ways. Both of us have opened up to new ideas and have learned a thing or two about ourselves in the process. Testing our limits has been a journey that will continue for as long as I want us to go down that path.

Thank you Pixel for your kind words. =]

Thank you Mistress for sharing your thoughts on the experience from your perspective with the readers of this forum.  As usual, I'm humbled by them. 
 
I'm very pleased you've decided it was time to step forward and publicly acknowledge our relationship to the members of CM. 
 
You make such a difference every moment of each day of my life.  I can't begin to imagine things reverting to what it was like before you entered into my world, changing it forever in ways that I'm still just beginning to recognize and comprehend!  More than anything else, I know I'm growing & learning through your loving guidance and direction.  I'm loving each and every moment that I experience it with you!   
 
 - pixel, sub to Majik

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ORIGINAL: undergroundsea
During the last year, two books that have passed through my hands have been about effective communication.

If there's one thing I can say, is that you serve as a role model of where I'd like to be when it comes to the communication skills that I'd really like to have.  You continually impress me with the calm and collected way you deal with difficult situations that often happen here on the boards.  Hat's off to you is all I can say!

Before I forget, Mistress and I were both very pleased to hear that "you're game".  It matters not to us if the role of Wonder Woman hasn't yet been filled.  We both wish you the best of luck in that regard and are confident that some smart woman will eventually figure out what a fine catch you'll be!  When Mistress and I find the time or have another reason to make a trip to Austin, you can definitely expect to hear from me on the other side.

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ORIGINAL: MHOO314
I know you are seeking responses from submissives and slaves, however I have some recent experiences that I think are a mindset that many subs and slaves fall in to---

All are welcome & encouraged to post in this thread!  I am actually looking forward to the comments and thoughts from the dominant women of this forum on what the submissives have shared and hopefully will share more of as this thread continues.

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One slave that I had----had been supposedly trained, yet said in many occasions, " i am a blank slate, you will write upon me and train me to be what You choose"---be very carefeul of those words--for he did not allow it to be so, daily he tried to infuse what he wanted, how he wanted things, how he thought things should be--when you are in discussions with your Dominant--offer what yu have been taught or know, however, if the Dominant has a different way or is not interested---that is service too ( eh grasshopper?)---

It's one thing to learn from a Mistress and what she desires, but I'd genuinely hate to think of myself as a blank slate.  To me, it would mean that I had little of my own to bring to the table and offer her to begin with at the start of the relationship.

I'm aware of many of my strengths and weaknesses as is Mistress.  We've discussed some of them at length and she plans to teach me various skills to help me learn to do things where we both agree that I definitely need the help.  I'm positive that as we continue to get to know each other better, there will be more things we'll identify that she can teach me or that I should learn from other sources to help me improve myself.  It genuinely is my desire to become a better man and she knows that's how I feel.  It doesn't happen overnight and it takes time along with support and reinforcement from others of the lessons one learns.  I'm fortunate to have a wise and patient Mistress that can see the potential for continued growth within me who I know will support those objectives on an ongoing basis.

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Another example would be that I am learning to fully accept my deepest submissive desires without any guilt or shame about them from my new Mistress.  She has released things in me which I was unsure of that I've taken to like a duck takes to water!  As part of the process, she has been teaching me to be proud that they are an innate part of me, that I can share them with her as her pet/slut, and that doing so serves her desires/needs to be the dominant in our relationship. 

 
If there was one thing I want My boys to know or learn it is what you have stated above--this crap that submissive males are woosies burns My soul--it takes a  man of great strength to open to and accept those feelings---as well as the CD, TS--for all our openess in society today, we are still racist, prejudiced and biased---
 
Bring what you have learned however, remember you ARE Hers, and she will want things Her way----smiles

Mistress has been helping me embrace what I'd refer to as the "inner slut" within me; the part of me that's deep inside, surrounded by guilt and shame, that society would have me hide.  It's a part of me that is totally wanton and deeply sexual at the most primal level in a very submissive manner toward the woman that I'm attracted to.  It is released when I allow myself to be totally there to do Mistress' bidding and serve her sexual desires in an unbridled manner, literally becoming her slut, releasing any inhibitions I may have such that I can totally enjoy being that way for her as well as for myself!  The reality is that it's something I desire every bit as much as she desires it from me!  I'm not certain how many submsissive men are willing to admit that to themselves.  But in helping me release the inhibitions, feelings of shame and/or guilt about those desires, we both have wound up getting more of what we want from our relationship.

Not only is it a "win-win" situation for both of us, it's very freeing for me to allow myself to release what's inside of me and feel the love of a woman who not only accepts that part of me but finds it both attractive and desirable as well!   I don't know what more a man could ask of a woman than to be accepted and desired by her for what is truly is inside of him, especially when it's the part that he's been taught by society to try and suppress or hide!  For me, it's a bit like being able to come out of the closet, if only to Mistress and myself.   **

In that regard, I feel like the luckiest man on this planet.

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Its so nice to hear that its not all about a good flogging :)  

Indeed!  It's really a matter of whatever the two of you decide to make it into! 

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He has learnt how to look after my hair and massage (i'm a qualified massage therapist) ,  he has learnt all about periods lol and pmt and how to look after me when im hormonal.  We are both much more confident and happy being able to be ourselfs.

This is such a positive post What a refreshing change lol

I greatly enjoy massaging Mistress.  I've not yet brushed her hair come to think of it!  I guess that's something we'll have to rectify.

I've read several books about women's sexual anatomy to help me understand things better and to be of help to a former Mistress.  One was "It's Your Body: A Woman's Guide to Gynecology" by Niels Lauerson, MD and Steven Whitney.  LOL copyright 1977!  I remember also reading one called "The Yeast Syndrome" or something of a similar title, and another titled "For Women Only" by two sisters named Berman that had a lot of information on hormones and sexual dysfunction in women.  IMO, it is a very good thing for a sub male to understand how a woman's body works!  

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Well, pixel, I'll try to help out.
 
It seems like a very basic thing, but I always want My boys learning about the lifestyle itself.  I want them reading different things and hearing opinions other than My own.  If they are brand new, I'll have them read for an hour a day, either from books or sites that are related.  It isn't necessarily a new skill, but it is something I want them to learn.