slavejali
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Personally I think at some point (for a slave) its really up to the Master/Mistress to enforce submission without that your just free floating. Now ok I can hear people now saying, thats the lazy way out or why should slave have to be reminded of her position but let me explain what I mean...
When you surrender to someone, you don't lose your intelligence, you don't lose your creativity, you don't lose your ability to solve problems, you don't really lose anything that are intricate parts of your personality, the good and the not so good parts of you are still there just the same as before..what you give up is your "choice' to be in control....so the effect of that (for me anyways)..is that you free float in the relationship and as an effect of that the only thing that can be done is to be taken, controlled and directed..without that you just keep free floating kinda waiting for some direction..if the lack of being taken and control continues you can either keep free floating or start taking back the control that you know that you are capable of anyways and the whole D/s dynamic goes out the window..thats just a natural progression to not being controlled.
I think sometimes, people think too much, .....instead of just relaxing and enjoying being with the person they are with, they start second guessing themselves, they start picking every little error in themselves...when it all comes down to it...a submissive or a slaves job is to just relax and allow themselves to be taken, dominated and controlled in whichever whichway their Master/Mistresses chooses.
If a submissive or slave finds themselves not relaxing in their submission within individual situations, a very simple remedy for that...."ask yourself what the hell your doing in that type of relationship?" You're either gonna realise its what you really want deep down inside and it will be enough to modify your behaviour...or...the reverse and the relationship is doomed (well the M/S part of it anyways).
Mostly in life, we only ever do happily what we really want to do...things we don't like we do begrudgingly..sometimes we just gotta remind ourselves what it is that really makes us happy.
I probably didnt answer your topic very well, but those are the thoughts that came to mind while reading it.
I just wanted to add:
This might be a good example of what I was talking about. In the past few weeks we (master and I ahve been really incredibly busy), all I have been able to think about is everything that needs to be done, I have been rushing here there and everywhere totally focused on the project at hand using all my intelligence, creativity and everything else in my bag of tricks, I was getting the job done. So anyways the other day Master walks into the new business premises and makes an announcement "jali wont be in tomorrow", he takes me outside and says "I want you at home tomorrow ALL day, you're not doing anything to do with getting this place set up tomorrow, we are having dinner cooked on time and everything in the house organised do you understand?"..I said "yes Master". I free float...Master takes control..I dont think very much about my submission, my slavery or anything else...thats the way it is.
Like its all very natural...there are times I might even disagree with him totally caught up in my own line of thinking and im gonna keep going along that way until he takes control of me...thats his job and his position in the relationship. I've already agreed to the relationship, already surrendered, I know its what I want and how I like to live....what else is there left to do but relax, be yourself and let your Master take control..however his style may be.
< Message edited by slavejali -- 5/18/2007 3:20:30 AM >
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